Sleeky4u:
Thanks guys. I will just answer few of d questions posed. She was diagnosed of multiple fibroid and d doc. Thinks she has to give birth first before an operation might be considered. According to her, her ex just decided that he wasn't interested anymore and jilted her.

misssclassy:
Op from everything you just stated it seems you don't really love this girl. At least not like you used to.
What she did to you took a toll on you and you find it hard to see her the way you formerly saw her.

One thing I always advise is that people should never marry out of a need to satisfy the need of just one of the partners.
Marriage should always be based on mutual consent and true, unbreakable love between the two partners.

I won't advise you to marry this lady. She is desperate to get married because of her ailment and she wants to use you.
She doesn't even care if the two of you are well grounded and have reached the point where you both are ready.

I just read your comment below me and it just became all glaring that this lady doesn't really love you but because she was jilted by the guy she loved, she considered you as a back up of some sort. She felt that since she is in a delicate condition as this, you are her only lifeline, hence her coming back and desperately urging you to marry her.

Marriage is a very crucial aspect of ones life and one has to think really carefully before dabbling into it.
I have a question for you op.
When you think of you future do you see this lady in it? Do you imagine her the mother of your kids? Is she someone you would want to spend the rest of your life with?
You should answer this questions and be true to yourself.

If you believe you are not ready for marriage, please do not go ahead with it.
Do not let this lady force you into something that you are not ready for.

You should also bring this case before your God. Seek His face and pray for direction.

Thanks.

Tallesty1:
You made plenty sense here........


Good morning.

justmag:
This is some nice nollywood type movie. OP let's find some directors and producers to make this a reality. Good movie.

Sleeky4u:
Thanks guys. I will just answer few of d questions posed. She was diagnosed of multiple fibroid and d doc. Thinks she has to give birth first before an operation might be considered. According to her, her ex just decided that he wasn't interested anymore and jilted her.

Sleeky4u:
I had an opportunity of asking this girl out a couple of years ago when I had so much love and respect for her, but instead she chose to date a dude far younger than myself cos according to her, i wasnt showin any sign of seriousness then which is not true tho. This kept me psychologically down for a while and I got to know later on that they broke up after 7 months. We later met again after 2 years and we rekindled our relationship, but each time I remember wat transpired in d past, it takes our love backward. 6 months into d relationship, she was diagnosed of an ailment that demands her to give birth urgently or she might find it difficult to do so in the long-run. Now, she is demanding for marriage or she leaves. I have ask her for more time 2 help me get over wat transpired in d past and also seek d face of God, but she has remained adamant. Though i have a good paying job and same applies to her, i just have this feeling she is only after what she can get from this relationship as 6 months is quite a short time for the urgency even though we have been friends for a while. Please I need ur advise. Do I allow her go?

misssclassy:
Op from everything you just stated it seems you don't really love this girl. At least not like you used to.
What she did to you took a toll on you and you find it hard to see her the way you formerly saw her.

One thing I always advise is that people should never marry out of a need to satisfy the need of just one of the partners.
Marriage should always be based on mutual consent and true, unbreakable love between the two partners.

I won't advise you to marry this lady. She is desperate to get married because of her ailment and she wants to use you.
She doesn't even care if the two of you are well grounded and have reached the point where you both are ready.

I just read your comment below me and it just became all glaring that this lady doesn't really love you but because she was jilted by the guy she loved, she considered you as a back up of some sort. She felt that since she is in a delicate condition as this, you are her only lifeline, hence her coming back and desperately urging you to marry her.

Marriage is a very crucial aspect of ones life and one has to think really carefully before dabbling into it.
I have a question for you op.
When you think of you future do you see this lady in it? Do you imagine her the mother of your kids? Is she someone you would want to spend the rest of your life with?
You should answer this questions and be true to yourself.

If you believe you are not ready for marriage, please do not go ahead with it.
Do not let this lady force you into something that you are not ready for.

You should also bring this case before your God. Seek His face and pray for direction.

Thanks.

Tallesty1:
You made plenty sense here........



Good morning.

Cutehector:
lol if misssclassy can be directin more of her energy in makin constructiv comments like this in nairaland and drop the attitude, she will gain a lot of respect.

misssclassy:


I don't give a fvck about anyone's respect.

I make comments, voice out my opinions through words and basically just do my thing on this forum.
If anyone isn't okay with me or anything I do, it's their problem not mine.

Sleeky4u:
I had an opportunity of asking this girl out a couple of years ago when I had so much love and respect for her, but instead she chose to date a dude far younger than myself cos according to her, i wasnt showin any sign of seriousness then which is not true tho. This kept me psychologically down for a while and I got to know later on that they broke up after 7 months. We later met again after 2 years and we rekindled our relationship, but each time I remember wat transpired in d past, it takes our love backward. 6 months into d relationship, she was diagnosed of an ailment that demands her to give birth urgently or she might find it difficult to do so in the long-run. Now, she is demanding for marriage or she leaves. I have ask her for more time 2 help me get over wat transpired in d past and also seek d face of God, but she has remained adamant. Though i have a good paying job and same applies to her, i just have this feeling she is only after what she can get from this relationship as 6 months is quite a short time for the urgency even though we have been friends for a while. Please I need ur advise. Do I allow her go?

Cutehector:
lol if misssclassy can be directin more of her energy in makin constructiv comments like this in nairaland and drop the attitude, she will gain a lot of respect.

Tallesty1:
Tha would be difficult nah, especially now that Charley Boy and Tonto Dike are officially her mentors.



Neither of them gives a fuk

Sleeky4u:
I had an opportunity of asking this girl out a couple of years ago when I had so much love and respect for her, but instead she chose to date a dude far younger than myself cos according to her, i wasnt showin any sign of seriousness then which is not true tho. This kept me psychologically down for a while and I got to know later on that they broke up after 7 months. We later met again after 2 years and we rekindled our relationship, but each time I remember wat transpired in d past, it takes our love backward. 6 months into d relationship, she was diagnosed of an ailment that demands her to give birth urgently or she might find it difficult to do so in the long-run. Now, she is demanding for marriage or she leaves. I have ask her for more time 2 help me get over wat transpired in d past and also seek d face of God, but she has remained adamant. Though i have a good paying job and same applies to her, i just have this feeling she is only after what she can get from this relationship as 6 months is quite a short time for the urgency even though we have been friends for a while. Please I need ur advise. Do I allow her go?

GeneralQuamdeen:
What kind of ailment demand urqent birth?

misssclassy:


I don't give a fvck about anyone's respect.

I make comments, voice out my opinions through words and basically just do my thing on this forum. I will cuss & cuss & cuss & I don't give a fuk about u nairaland b!tches coz y'all b!tches.
If anyone isn't okay with me or anything I do, it's their problem not mine.

MrCork:


^^^^ther she goes again.. ....DRACULA FINALY AWAKE!!

Cc cutehector

misssclassy:


I don't give a fvck about anyone's respect.

I make comments, voice out my opinions through words and basically just do my thing on this forum.
If anyone isn't okay with me or anything I do, it's their problem not mine.

chibwike:
We now know the person behing this monicker.....this should be three to four years now.

MrCork:

^^^^ther she goes again.. ....DRACULA FINALY AWAKE!!
Cc cutehector