WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON
ABOUT MARRIAGE
1. My son, if you keep spending on a
woman and she
never asked you if you’re saving or
investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry
her.
2. My son, a woman could be a
good wife to you, some could be a good
mother to your
children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to
you, your children and your family, please
don’t let her
go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of
your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from?
Even in our days,
we had farm-lands where they worked
every morning . . .
that was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house,
don’t look at your pocket; look if you will
see a smile on
your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life,
let your wife be in- charge of your salary, it will be
difficult for her to
spend it when she’s aware of the home
needs and bills
to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep
you asking even when all has been spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman,
the pain in her
body is nothing to be compared to the
wound on her
heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a
wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you
live a bachelor
kind of life with your wife, you will soon
be single again. 8. My son, in our days, we had
many wives and many children because
of our large
farm- lands and many harvests, there are
hardly any land
for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did
meet your
mother could be your eateries and
restaurants of
nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there
was to embrace each other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when
you start
making more money, instead of
spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard
you worked to get it, spend it on that
woman that stood
by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or
whistled at the window of your mother
father’s house, to call her out, it was not
for sex, it was
because I missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say
your wife has changed, there could be something
you’ve stopped
doing too.
13. My son, your mother rode the bicycle
with me before
I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t
endure with you in
your little beginning should not enjoy
your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to
any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too
and has she ever
compared you to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people
call feminism,
well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the
house,
divideall the bills into two equal parts,
take one part and
ask her to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more
yams to her father, if you don’t meet your
wife a virgin,
don’t blame
her, what I didn’t tell you is that our
women had prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to
school because
I was foolish like many to think a female
child won’t
extend my family name, please don’t make that
mistake, the kind of
female achievers I see nowadays has
made the male-
gender an ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I
was wearing and almost tore it because
she was angry, I
did not raise my hand to beat her
because of a day like
this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for
once beat your mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had
more of natural
beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you,
some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on
their arms, the
ones you people now call tattoo, but
don’t forget that
they didn’t expose any part of their body
like your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not
interested in what
happens in your marriage, try to handle
issues without
always coming to us. 21. My son, remember I bought your
mother’s first
sewing machine for her, help your wife
achieve her
dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your
mother, so that your children will take
care of you too