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Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by mrwonlasewonie: 5:28pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
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Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by crackhaus: 5:37pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Shantelle80:There's nothing wrong in wanting someone to start a family and spend the rest of your life with...absolutely nothing. That most men won't date a 35+ single mom is not something that should get you upset, certainly not while you're pregnant. All you gotta do now is focus on carrying your child to full-term and taking care of yourself...stay beautiful, stay attractive, keep your figure and attitude right. When you do all of this as well as developing yourself intellectually and career-wise, trust me, even when you tell most men you're a mother they gon' find it hard to believe... 5 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by Shantelle80: 5:44pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Please guys, portraying me as the kind of woman whom only purpose in life is to find a man to take care of her is just not fair. Actually i think making marriage the last box to check on my list is part of the reason why i'm where i am today. You see when i was 15, i made myself a promise: i would date no boy/man, no matter what, before i graduated from college and find a job. So i entered the dating game at only 25/26. Then i had an hard time finding a man because so many of them told me that i was a "good/fine girl" but that they "couldn't handle a woman like me" without even giving me a chance. The less educated ones told me they would feel unsecured or challenged by me. The equally or more educated ones told me they needed to focus on making great carreers so they wanted a stay at home mom or at least a woman with a less time consuming job to handle their household. So i was stucked in the middle. I never thought that being married is the ultimate goal in a woman's life nor that it is the thing that would define me. I just wanted to find love and share it. Is that unreasonable ? 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by mrwonlasewonie: 5:52pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
It's well with you Shantelle80:
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Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by mrwonlasewonie: 5:53pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Op meditate on those memes and do the needful |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by shrekandfiona: 5:54pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Shantelle80:you owe no one explanations. There's nothing wrong in desiring someone to spend your life with. It's unfortunate the right man hasn't come yet but be rest assured he'll come. In the interim, do take care of the lil one growing in you and in due time the right man will come knocking. I'd rather be single at 40 than to be in a toxic marriage at 30. My opinion though 4 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by elantraceey(f): 6:16pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Sorry but did you really had to wait till you get to 28 before you got into a relationship ? As for your child, you're 34 so you should be working and should be able to take care of your child alone so I guess that won't be your problem now. I'll advice to just be yourself and yes you can still get married but don't be anxious or desperate about it else they'll just take advantage of you like the guys you dated did and honestly you shouldn't have agreed to get pregnant before marriage, that was soo out of it. |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by Onegai(f): 6:23pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
You owe nobody here an explanation and truly the sensible ones know that Life happens (no matter how much you plan it or wish it to be otherwise). I will be honest and say, Dating is going to be tougher but not impossible. Honey, I know a 38 year old lady who married a man most girls would give an eye to wed. I know a few single mums happily married to men who love their kids. I know a Naija lady in her mid to late 30s, whilst Nigerian men (and their wahala) were flexing for her, met a white guy with a fantastic job, who couldn't get her out of his mind (happily married with a little darling too). Nothing is impossible, just keep your options very open and don't write off anything but please be careful and scrutinise very well whom is coming close to you. Please don't "manage" just anybody who shows up, because I've seen women in their 30s do that a lot and it never works out for them. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by ogawisdom(m): 6:29pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Shantelle80: Its possible but d chances r very slim it happen in 5percent of similar cases. If u r financially stable n intelligent it will increase ur chances mainly with widowers n older men 55plus . God can do anything jst b prayerful |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by mrwonlasewonie: 7:11pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Tashaamania: e be like say you to want to jenbe alabosi, oninobi okunrin ahenn i hope you are not the pedophile teaching that 3 year old kid howoto massage and sit on dheek because I saw that thread few minutes ago. The description looks like you you better change |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by Tashaamania(f): 7:21pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
mrwonlasewonie:Go on, keep posting trash. Lets hope someday you would post something less silly.. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by mrwonlasewonie: 7:36pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Tashaamania:confess and set your soul free truth don't cost a thing |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by Tashaamania(f): 7:41pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
mrwonlasewonie:Keep using your alt to post, ode. You've been placed on ignore. I'll reply you when you're not stupiid even though I know your stupidity is inevitable. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by ihedinobi2: 7:49pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Yes I think you can. My mom remarried around the time she turned 40. She had 4 kids of her own then from her first marriage. My dad whom she got remarried to had 7 of his own from his first marriage. Growing up I didn't know that the older children in my house were half-siblings, that's how well they were integrated into the home. I would advise that you do not let sex get on the menu again to avoid more complication in your life. But stay sweetly dispositioned. Someone is very likely to want to prove to be your hero. 5 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by udz: 7:52pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Only God knows, its well. |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by freshvine(f): 8:11pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Bad character and lust for well to does hinder women from marrying earlier while lack of finance is the bane for men |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by anangboy(m): 9:01pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
ogawisdom: Nigga what you talking bout? Reeling out chances and even percentages. And if she is financially stable and intelligent it will increase her chances mainly with widowers n older men 55plus? You even reeling out class of suitors and age. Damn bruv, you fvcking cold and deserve to be knocked the fvck out. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by ogawisdom(m): 9:13pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
anangboy: Who is this morbid fool |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by mrwonlasewonie: 9:14pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Tashaamania: e pain am die hobiiii farts on him |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by cold(m): 9:21pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
The problem i have with issues such as these is that the lady would turn down the advances of an honest Atheist who has her best interest at heart. They would rather prefer the so called 'god fearing' men who would in turn break their hearts. I see a lot of them around. Not to worry dear you can still find an honest man that would make an honest woman out of you. You just need to broaden your horizon. 2 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by KanwuliaJara: 9:25pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
You can't have everything in LIFE or a DEATH! |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by KanwuliaJara: 9:28pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
You can't have everything in LIFE or a DEATH! You can ALWAYS get a husband, but GOOD HUSBANDS are EXTINCT! |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by anangboy(m): 9:38pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
ogawisdom: You gotta come harder. You gotta do better than this one liner cacophonous babble. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by Wendy80(f): 9:39pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Tashaamania: 1million likes. I hate it when pple give advice they cant take. 2 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by Wendy80(f): 9:43pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
FrancisTony: People's priorities are different. That you won't be bothered about marriage at 40 doesn't mean somebody else shouldn't be at 25. Our needs are different. Learn that. 5 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by Chubhie: 10:01pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Shantelle80:You are not out of the game. You so much underrate what you are capable of. You can rewrite this story! Life is all about learning lessons. Learn the lessons,forgive yourself and those that hurt you and move on. This is no time to cry or indulge in self pity. Your maker knows what's best for you and at the right moment paths will cross with the right guy. Trust me he won't care if you are 40 or not. It could have been worse than this you know? You are down but not out. You only have a bloodied nose. I expect you to get up and keep fighting for what you believe in. Take good care of yourself mind body and soul. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by mrwonlasewonie: 10:06pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Wendy80:another Ruth abokoku |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by Kimoni: 10:12pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
OP, something I know about love - When you seek it so bad, it doesn't come but when you least expect it, it finds you. Pls face other important things in life, make yourself happy in other ways, forget about love and it will come knocking so hard |
Re: Will I Ever Find An Husband by tpiadotcom: 10:12pm On Jun 13, 2015 |
Shantelle80: how many men are you referring to here? btw, i'm sure this is a script, but you can prove me wrong if need be. Now, let's assume the "so many" at your 25/26, were say four men. Then the "less educated ones", perhaps more than two or three. Lastly, the "equally educated ones" should be maybe two to five? That's a number of between eight and twelve men, in about three years. If they all made excuses for not wanting to go further in the relationship (I assume this is fiction), then you should probably look beyond them for reasons. |
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