Good day all. I have a friend in his early thirties who got married about a year ago, but his wife still mistakenly calls him d name of her ex boyfriend when they are discussing. She will always apologise and say it was a mistake. Saying she truly loves my friend and that the whole of her heart is with him. Dt all she has for her ex is hate and disgust. He is quite distressed and needs an advice. Pls, what advice can I give him?

Wahala, oti poju here!!!!!!!!!!!!

How do u mean?

LadyFiona:
Wahala, oti poju here!!!!!!!!!!!!

She's stil in luv wit her ex. Take it or leave it

awhydot:
How do u mean?

How about during xex, is the name calling still Mike instead of Pete?
Freudian slip shouldn't be happening often like that Na!!!

Goldfinger told James Bond that once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, the third time is enemy action.

Tight corner. She's missing something about her ex that your friend is not giving her. Tell him to try and find out what it is

It's simple memory malfunction.

"Proactive interference".
Where old information sometimes get in the way of new information in the brain.
Note that it doesn't happen to everyone. But it is fairly common.

She must have dated the other guy for a while and has become conditioned to saying 'mike' whenever she wants to address her man.
So this new man 'Jim' can be addressed as mike unknowingly.

It will take time for the new 'Jim' habit to be formed and the next man 'Andy' can expect to be occasionally called Jim until his name becomes the habit too.

If I had known this before, i'd have spared myself some unnecessary fights with an ex who used to call me his ex-girlfriend's name.

cococandy:
It's simple memory malfunction.

"Proactive interference".
Where old information sometimes get in the way of new information in the brain.
Note that it doesn't happen to everyone. But it is fairly common.

She must have dated the other guy for a while and has become conditioned to saying 'mike' whenever she wants to address her man.
So this new man 'Jim' can be addressed as mike unknowingly.

It will take time for the new 'Jim' habit to be formed and the next man 'Andy' can expect to be occasionally called Jim until his name becomes the habit too.

If I had known this before, i'd have spared myself some unnecessary fights with an ex who used to call me his ex-girlfriend's name.

I beg to disagree with you sis. True its very possible but in this case I feel she still wants something with her ex. One year after marriage is long enough to forget he or she ever exists in his or her life and besides she must have courted her hubby for a while which is also long enough period to erase memories. Its not like they got married a week after they meet. * I could still be wrong though *

cococandy:
It's simple memory malfunction.

"Proactive interference".
Where old information sometimes get in the way of new information in the brain.
Note that it doesn't happen to everyone. But it is fairly common.

She must have dated the other guy for a while and has become conditioned to saying 'mike' whenever she wants to address her man.
So this new man 'Jim' can be addressed as mike unknowingly.

It will take time for the new 'Jim' habit to be formed and the next man 'Andy' can expect to be occasionally called Jim until his name becomes the habit too.

If I had known this before, i'd have spared myself some unnecessary fights with an ex who used to call me his ex-girlfriend's name.

Possible especially if she dated the ex for long.

taryour:


I beg to disagree with you sis. True its very possible but in this case I feel she still wants something with her ex. One year after marriage is long enough to forget he or she ever exists in his or her life and besides she must have courted her hubby for a while which is also long enough period to erase memories. Its not like they got married a week after they meet. * I could still be wrong though *

There's really no set time for anyone.
For Some it could be weeks while others it could take a few years to totally have that unconscious memory out of their brains.

If you found yourself mistakenly writing your maiden lastname on a form where you're requested to fill in your lastname after 3yrs of marriage, you would see that there's no time frame to it.

Even after having not used my old email for close to a year, I still mistakenly write it where I'm supposed to write my new email especially if my mind was elsewhere.

I feel like OP should know what the possible cause for that is. Rather than worry himself to death where there is nothing to worry about.
It would be easier for them to handle it knowing what may be causing it than fight and create the exact problem he's trying to avoid.

awhydot:
Good day all. I have a friend in his early thirties who got married about a year ago, but his wife still mistakenly calls him d name of her ex boyfriend when they are discussing. She will always apologise and say it was a mistake. Saying she truly loves my friend and that the whole of her heart is with him. Dt all she has for her ex is hate and disgust. He is quite distressed and needs an advice. Pls, what advice can I give him?

awhydot:
Good day all. I have a friend in his early thirties who got married about a year ago, but his wife still mistakenly calls him d name of her ex boyfriend when they are discussing. She will always apologise and say it was a mistake. Saying she truly loves my friend and that the whole of her heart is with him. Dt all she has for her ex is hate and disgust. He is quite distressed and needs an advice. Pls, what advice can I give him?

Tell him 2 try "a swift full _fingered backhand slap 2 the lower jaw region of her face" the next time this particular anomaly occurs! It has been scientifically proven 2 "assist with the brain reset process required when dealing with "delinquent day dreaming women" like your unfortunate friends model! Good day!

OBVIOUSLY, SHE'S STILL THINKING OF HIM WITH LOTS OF FEELINGS. THAT PUSSSY STILL BELONG TO THE LOVER. HIS FOR ASKING, PERIOD.

Shey na every evry pple dey carry com Nairaland.very soon we go start dey treat mental cases.ur friend wife dey cal ur friend her ex's name.wetin concern you abi na you be d ex".aproko.aftr one year Una no see fault for d girl body na to make mountain out of a molehill.in fact tell ur friend to send d girl bak to d ex chikena.

Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa



She is playing away match period

She is just with your friend in the flesh but her mind and emotions is still hooked to the ex. You can't be mentioning the name of someone you "hate" and "disgust you" while having a conversation with someone you love na

Funny enough, my friend said he told her to her face that a deep part of her isn't with him, and she replied "yes". And started saying she will fix it with time.
The poor guy is actually unhappy knowing dt he doesn't have the totality of his wife's heart.

awhydot:
Funny enough, my friend said he told her to her face that a deep part of her isn't with him, and she replied "yes". And started saying she will fix it with time.
The poor guy is actually unhappy knowing dt he doesn't have the totality of his wife's heart.

If she says that, why did she marry him?

Wow, what an insensitive woman! So, what is she waiting for to fix it?

How on earth does she expect her hussy to be emotionally invested in the marriage? U never know a good thing, till its gone...

awhydot:
Funny enough, my friend said he told her to her face that a deep part of her isn't with him, and she replied "yes". And started saying she will fix it with time.
The poor guy is actually unhappy knowing dt he doesn't have the totality of his wife's heart.

awhydot:
Funny enough, my friend said he told her to her face that a deep part of her isn't with him, and she replied "yes". And started saying she will fix it with time.
The poor guy is actually unhappy knowing dt he doesn't have the totality of his wife's heart.

Interesting

Medicine after death

Why did he overlook this during courtship? I can't take this sh*t at all. She needs to adjust or else...

Divorce her immediately! She is an adulteres in waiting. Any day she jams the ex it is gonna go down that day. The guy will end up training kids that aren't his! These hoes ain't loyal

Sometimes you need to fantasize about an ex to get your "juices" flowing o!
I do all the time!
It keeps you fully CHARGED!

Her mind is not with him
She probably married him out of pity or other reasons. Maybe the ex didnt want her and so she settled for second best.

The irony is that eventually when she does settle down, face reality and begin to focus on the marriage, the hubby would be one leg in and one leg out at that point after years of playing second fiddle.

dinachi:
Divorce her immediately! She is an adulteres in waiting. Any day she jams the ex it is gonna go down that day. The guy will end up training kids that aren't his! These hoes ain't loyal

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hehehehehe,bad boy

KanwuliaJara:
Sometimes you need to fantasize about an ex to get your "juices" flowing o!
I do all the time!
It keeps you fully CHARGED!

Chaiii!


This lady sef...

awhydot:
Good day all. I have a friend in his early thirties who got married about a year ago, but his wife still mistakenly calls him d name of her ex boyfriend when they are discussing. She will always apologise and say it was a mistake. Saying she truly loves my friend and that the whole of her heart is with him. Dt all she has for her ex is hate and disgust. He is quite distressed and needs an advice. Pls, what advice can I give him?

What advice can we give you Huh



Owkay, tell your friend to maintain and always shower her with love, let em both find a good sweet and lovely names to be calling each other... she will forget her ex and his name in a matter of time...



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KanwuliaJara:
Sometimes you need to fantasize about an ex to get your "juices" flowing o!
I do all the time!
It keeps you fully CHARGED!

You! fantasize about an ex , you always make it seem as though no man is worth your thoughts. Your feminine side is finally showing small small

Gloriagee:
Wow, what an insensitive woman! So, what is she waiting for to fix it?

How on earth does she expect her hussy to be emotionally invested in the marriage? U never know a good thing, till its gone...

That's a smart brain there , 1000 likes

neoapocalypse:


You! fantasize about an ex , you always make it seem as though no man is worth your thoughts. Your feminine side is finally showing small small

What gives you this impression?
I nor go PHOCK again?

cococandy:

There's really no set time for anyone.
For Some it could be weeks while others it could take a few years to totally have that unconscious memory out of their brains.

If you found yourself mistakenly writing your maiden lastname on a form where you're requested to fill in your lastname after 3yrs of marriage, you would see that there's no time frame to it.

Even after having not used my old email for close to a year, I still mistakenly write it where I'm supposed to write my new email especially if my mind was elsewhere.

I feel like OP should know what the possible cause for that is. Rather than worry himself to death where there is nothing to worry about.
It would be easier for them to handle it knowing what may be causing it than fight and create the exact problem he's trying to avoid.

Hmmm true. And people vary as well, some will recover soon and some wunt.

tearoses:
Her mind is not with him
She probably married him out of pity or other reasons. Maybe the ex didnt want her and so she settled for second best.

The irony is that eventually when she does settle down, face reality and begin to focus on the marriage, the hubby would be one leg in and one leg out at that point after years of playing second fiddle.

Co- signed.

awhydot:
Good day all. I have a friend in his early thirties who got married about a year ago, but his wife still mistakenly calls him d name of her ex boyfriend when they are discussing. She will always apologise and say it was a mistake. Saying she truly loves my friend and that the whole of her heart is with him. Dt all she has for her ex is hate and disgust. He is quite distressed and needs an advice. Pls, what advice can I give him?

Even after 12months ( plus courting months)?

Mba. Anybody will be distressed no doubt. I cannot even phantom it happening to anyone around me without questioning their fidelity. She's definately not over him(ex) yet . I hope she's not moaning his name during love making. Poor you. Advice? Talk to her , hopefully she'll change & fast before she blows IT.

Do unto others...

tinuolababy:
Tight corner. She's missing something about her ex that your friend is not giving her. Tell him to try and find out what it is

best advice