“Lots of things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be”. – C. JoyBell C.



When two people begin to date each other, most of the times, it’s usually difficult for one or both of them to face reality especially when emotion is deeply involved. This apparently makes ending a relationship become a difficult task even when one or both of them know it is the right thing to do. It baffles me when I hear married couples complain about certain sensitive behaviours from their spouses but claimed they knew about it before marriage but decided to patch things up thinking they could change anyone or marriage will change them. The truth is that no miracle happens at the point of exchange of marital vows.

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The objective of this write-up is to let you know that if you are dating someone, don’t get your brain shut down. Know where to draw the line, recognise your threshold and take a bow as soon as the signal comes out clearer. Now, at what point do you kiss your relationship bye-bye?



When You Experience Continuous Fear:

If your relationship has got little or nothing to offer apart from fear and continuous loss of peace, I think that’s a sign that you need to evaluate and call it quits because it automatically means that you are not happy. At the dating stage of your relationship, when nothing is cast on stone yet, where you are supposed to be free with one another, yet you are not free to express your mind, most times, you have to rehearse and scheme before you make your contributions, or each time you are together, you are just extra ordinarily careful….too too careful! Not because of any form of ill-mannerisms but perhaps due to control, manipulation and inability to understand your partner, then you need to consider moving on after you might have tried your best to work it out. If you can’t be happy now, you can’t be happy in the future when he or she gains total freedom on you.


When Physical Abuse Is Involved:

Physical abuse is something I will never encourage anyone to tolerate at any level and for whatever reason. When he or she attacks you physically and apologises, maybe over a minor issue, there is every tendency that he or she will repeat it again and I don’t think you should experiment that further. For some of you, you may not need to wait till when the real action is displayed but you already have pointers to work with. Take for example, during your normal argument; you hear words like; I feel like slapping you or if you say anything further I can bounce on you etc. These words are not to be excused as mere threats that accidentally spill out because of anger. He or she will definitely carry out the threat sooner or later. What if he or she just gives you an ordinary push on your chest or touches your nose with his or her finger in a derogatory and disrespectful manner?



When There Is Undue Control And Manipulation:

Are you made to do what you normally wouldn’t do by force? Are you made to behave in a manner not comfortable for you or do things against your principles and values? For example, if you are forced or coerced into stealing some valuable items from your parents, manipulated into having sex when you don’t want to or asked to keep malice with someone. These are very strong indications that you are not in a healthy relationship and unhealthy relationship will lead you nowhere except heart aches.

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Don't break pple's home with ur whatever , If things ain't working for now it will always work out , marriages must be filled with ups and down but there is always a way to resolve things not ending a home joined together, ask some old folks today and they will tell u all dey went through yet dey stood by each other and lived with each other , will u because u live with a neighbour who is always picking up quarrels with u to move into another house? Let's work things but divorce and jumping to another relationship is what is best for that relationship

When people say there will always be ups and downs in marriage what kinds of ups and downs exactly do they mean. Do they mean there will be abuse emotional and/or physical then one day it will end or there will be cheating before the cheater stops or what exactly? It is good to know what kinds of ups and down are normal and what kinds of ups and downs are abnormal. Yes normal can be relative from society to society or person to person but the idea that there will be ups and downs is what makes a lot of people accept less than relationships believing everyone to be having their kinds of abnormal challenges and accepting it as what everyone is going through not knowing they are living a less than life because they tolerate bad behaviors and ill treatment from their spouse.

Adeekiti, did you take time to read this at all? This is not about divorce. It's not addressing married partners but those dating with the aim of getting into marriage.

cellors:
Adeekiti, did you take time to read this at all? This is not about divorce. It's not addressing married partners but those dating with the aim of getting into marriage.

i know but that's not the best option cos some pple will definitely apply it to their marriage as well, even if he/she leaves the relationship things might not be good as well.. We can always amend things and change pple