cyprus000:


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Yes I am an african and a proud one at that.
Infact I am a cave man with a retro tendency,but more logical and advinced in thinking than you zombified brainwashed peeps,whose sixth sense have been hegemonically infested by the imperialist,with no mind of your own and live the life of emperialist just to please them.

It is a pity that you peeps still wallow in the swamp of ignorance and sees anything from the emperialist as progressive and your's has retrogressive.
That's the peak of mental slavery.
There is no way a counterfeit can be better than an original.
Quit being a copycat and have a mind of your own.

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I have dated 4 white ladies and in no way,did they try to dictate life for me.I didn't even give room for such nonesense.
It is the way you present yourself,will you be taken.

Infact,my present GF is a brazilian and was a budhhist.i am the one who converted her to christainity.
So anytime I see you peeps use whites has reference,I begin to wonder if it's same white I know or from pluto

And about the embolded,it's good that you have your boundry,I only pity those "sissy" men you are planning to make your subjects.

It's not my business anyway

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craziebone:


i disagree completely! Two people who are truely in love with each other would not even be bothered if they are married or not!!!

craziebone:


i feel like kissing you, kissing you, kissing you!!!!!!! Take a big hug from me, would you!!!!

Not everyone like that thing called church, mosque or court marriage. If 'security' is the problem and you feel signing a certificate would solve the insecurity problem (and i wonder how my signing dotted line on a marriage certificate can make you feel more secured), why then don't we try to get the marriage certificate signed during the traditional marriage? Afterall, that's all you care about and not the venue for the wedding!

cococandy:
Exactly.
Any guy who has problems making his marriage to you binding is suspect.

Toks2008:

lol so you are still one of those living in delusion of true love?
Keep dreaming...i will advice you to just get a good friend to marry.Love is a facade,it does not exist between humans but only from GOD towards human.
if you are a lady getting married just know that without court wedding a man can wake up and booth you out and a woman can just leave you whenever she likes.
Most annoying is the fact that despite all the money spent on trd marriage and white wedding,you can still dvorce easily and all they will say is that the man should get bck the bride price paid and thats all.Iranu,abacha.
in court wedding you must prove youyr case as to why you want the marriage dissolved or have ur case thrown out.
Any lady who marries without doing court wedding is on her own.Love does not exist but what we see is partner with benefits.
only matured minds can decipher my assertions,only babies still believe in love.

dom:
hmmmmm. I wonder what she thinks she stands to gain from a statutory marriage. Its not exactly a prenup. It only guarantees maintenance from him in the event of a dissolution and even that is calculated according to his earning capacity and ceases as soon as she remarries. On the other hand, he should realise that many churches these days would not wed u unless you've done your statutory marriage first. Again, what he thinks is just a church marriage may end up being a statutory marriage if the church is a licensed place of worship as provided in the Marriage Act. A statutory marriage puts him in a better stead for several transactions. Lastly, too much sense de worry the couple. They're even thinking about divorce already.

cyprus000:


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Yes, I am an african and a proud one at that.
Infact I am a cave man with a retro tendency,but more logical and advanced in thinking than you zombified brainwashed peeps,whose sixth sense have been hegemonically infested by the imperialist,with no mind of your own and live the life of emperialist just to please them.

It is a pity that you peeps still wallow in the swamp of ignorance and sees anything from the emperialist as progressive and your's has retrogressive.
That's the peak of mental slavery.
There is no way a counterfeit can be better than an original.
Quit being a copycat and have a mind of your own.

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I have dated 4 white ladies and in no way,did they try to dictate life for me.I didn't even give room for such nonesense.
It is the way you present yourself,will you be taken.

Infact,my present GF is a brazilian and was a budhhist.i am the one who converted her to christainity.
So anytime I see you peeps use whites has reference,I begin to wonder if it's same white I know or from pluto

And about the embolded,it's good that you have your boundry,I only pity those "sissy" men you are planning to make your subjects.

It's not my business anyway

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efemenaslectura:
Who said anything about getting validation from the whites or trying to copy them


are you for real? And yes as per white girls being submissive it's the 49,59 year old or those dealing with obesity, cancer and complex related issues looking for love so they can afford to be stupid and speaking of you being a cave man, thank God you admitted you're an African man/cave man.what a breadth of fresh air. So for once you guys can actually admit who you really are. That's a step in the right direction.

something like osofia goes to London relationship to look for a dumb white girl

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The embolded have prove my assertions.
You are so shallow minded that you think,a black man have to settle for less when rolling with white peeps.
WTF..what a warp mentality you gat..you need rehab.

I feel lyk weeping for you,cos it is evident that the

emperialist have tatally pillaged your sixth sense.
If not for privacy issues,I would have post the pics of my past and present GF'ds just to educate your ignorance,but it is a total waste of time having a banter with you.

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On the flipside:
Yes I am a cave man,a sophisticated cave man and a very proud one at that

You go really sabi provok person,I like your type tho.
After one month with me,you go cool lyk iceblock.
All this one wey you dey do na rant..(Just pray say you no jam my type)
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craziebone:


gold medal!!!

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Thank you my brda

No mind all this galz,wey think say every guy na mumu.

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cyprus000:
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The embolded have prove my assertions.
You are so shallow minded that you think,a black man have to settle for less when rolling with white peeps.
WTF..what a warp mentality you gat..you need rehab.

I feel lyk weeping for you,cos it is evident that the

emperialist have tatally pillaged your sixth sense.
If not for privacy issues,I would have post the pics of my past and present GF'ds just to educate your ignorance,but it is a total waste of time having a banter with you.

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On the flipside:
Yes I am a cave man and a very proud one at that

You go really sabi provok person,I like your type tho.
After one month with me,you go cool lyk iceblock.
All this one wey you dey do na rant..(Just pray say you no jam my type)
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freecocoa:
So you think women want court wedding because they expect that everything be willed to them?

He can decide to take a 2nd wife all he wants, there just has to be a divorce first or the 2nd wife is not recognised by the law and he can be sued.

The system might be messed up, doesn't mean women shouldn't get their right.

efemenaslectura:
Obviously you can't jam my type because I avoid your kinds like leprosy. I prefer the men you people refer to as sissy

I know your kinds hate men like that

as per the things you emboldened it's the naked truth you hate to admit but it's true anyway

meanwhile I don't provoke people unnecessarily except they incite me

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It's all good anyway.

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About the embolded.even tho there is an atom of truth in that assertion.
I still consider it as stereotyping,cos those kind of peeps who does that are extremly rare.

I personally havn't seen any man that did dat,all my stay outside,except twice in the news and it is mostly cos of green card,but I have seen a black lady who
Paid a white guy and they arranged fake marriage just for the green card.
This scenario can not be applied in your above assertion,cos its a contract and not life time commitment.cos after two or three month,they will file for divorce.
That's not marriage/relationship,but contract.

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On the flipside:
I dun change,just for you and i want to marry you.
Say yes and me and my kinsmen go show your papa house with palm wine tomorrow
I go explain to my shed,I sure say she go understand



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craziebone:


i am sorry if love doesn't exist to you.

Secondly, we still see men and women who just get up and abscond from marriages just like that. We have seen men run off with other women, leaving their wives and kids. We have also seen cases where women eloped with their lovers abroad, leaving behind, the man and children. So what's the difference?

And no, i wouldn't like a case where if i just want to get out of a marriage or she wants to get out of a marriage with me, i or she have to prove a point! Just tell me you are tired of staying and that's it! I will just let you go! We can talk about the welfare of the children, if any and if they are not of ge yet. The point is, the flimzier the reason, the more readily i would let you go. I also expect the same thing from her. The flizier the reason i give the more readily i would expect her to let me go. Why on earth do you want to stay with someone who just doesn't want you anymore? She doesn't need to come up with a beautiful case before i let her go.

Just for the records, i do not see marriage as different from a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Marriage is actually the continuation of a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship after some traditional thing (be it church, mosque, court or traditional marriage) has been done. There is no physical, emotional, psychological difference afterwards.

@Sagamite, what do you think?

Sagamite:


What I see in it is two people protecting their best interest.

It is in his best interest to have only a traditional marriage. It is in her best interest to have a court marriage.

She is threatening, but at the end of the day, it is the person with the more bargaining power and will that can win/get their way.

As per love, I am yet to see anyone on Earth that can explain what it is to me:

https://www.nairaland.com/1104052/what-romantic-love-what-form

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Dem never marry.
So which house?
At this stage if she leaves they will say she jilted.
After marriage (whichever one) dem go say they are divorced
if the man is the head in this case how come it's the girls place they do the conclusion of process?

Till they are married in some way, the man is head of himself.

Think am

bashydemy:
They should part way and let see who the biggest looser will be..

craziebone:

what do you mean by "bargaining power" especially in this case?

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Life isn't always about that oga. it's a union of two. no winner no loser. You keep looking at it from this perspective of yours and in sorry you'll remain single. If they split eventually they'll both get other people to marry don't doubt that for one moment. might be better, might be worse.
parting ways however should never I repeat never be seen as a means to solutions in a marriage.

0lushola:
And I will tell you that when THE DESIRED is not AVAILABLE, the AVAILABLE becomes the DESIRED.. the worst thing that can happen to a MAN is to get into a bad marriage, I pray you dn't see a situation whereby divorce w0uld be the only option u have..

refreshrate:


You'll be amazed if you think deeply about what you just said. A bad marriage takes two just like a good one. Think about it. Two people don't decide to spend their lives together cos they hate each other. There's always a diconnect somewhere which might not necessarily be peculiar to just that marriage, but how it's handled by the couple involved.

Let's do this give me a logical scenario of a bad marriage with as many facts as possible. No I don't knows and stuff let me clarify this for you.

Are you game ?

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Life isn't always about that oga. it's a union of two. no winner no loser. You keep looking at it from this perspective of yours and in sorry you'll remain single. If they split eventually they'll both get other people to marry don't doubt that for one moment. might be better, might be worse.
parting ways however should never I repeat never be seen as a means to solutions in a marriage.

bashydemy:
Like i said as a man i have the say over anything that happen in marriage and my pocket will suffer the pain not her's, About loosing at the end you mean for Amaka to go and start another 5years courtship afresh? I guess she will end up in redeem praying for hubby at the end of the day..

Any day any time the guy will always have an upper hand exept if he is broke, Don't be surprise the best friend of Amaka might say yes to prince even without him proposing to her... No be this world wey we dey?

0lushola:
Its like u dn't get me, am nt saying couples should run away fr0m their marriage, infact i won't advice it.. you'v promise 4beta 4worst, So endure till tw0 finally become 1.. buh a worst situation involving life and death either fr0m the lady angle or the man angle.. even the court or religious people will advice you to gently work out, for the betterment of both of you.. Like seriously. some things are n0t meant to be buh are done out of Adversity.

craziebone:


i disagree with you completely! It is not only in court i can make my marriage to her 'binding'. What about the one we do in the presence of our parents and guardians? You people seem to be fixated on the guy's 'commitment' what about the lady? What kind of commitment is she doing? What exactly is she bringing to the table? Remember, we live in a world where if your wife or girlfriend gets pregnant for you, she can decide not to keep the child and THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING YOU, A GUY, CAN DO! It is then they would tell you "its my body!" they tell you this like you are dragging ownership of their body with them. All of these are backed up by the law!

This is the reason I WILL NEVER GET MARRIED!!! For them, it is about marriage and nothing else. When you come here, you will find ladies who will break up a meaningful and beautiful relationship with a very good guy just because a stranger came around and proposed to her. And i am like, what...? What exactly is marriage going to give to you that you don't already have with your boyfriend? Personally for me, if there is a thing i am not already getting from my relationship with a lady, then i will never get it in marriage, as simple as that! Is it fulfilment, satisfaction, commitment or love? If we are not already having any of the above while we are still being boyfriends and girlfriends, then we will not be able to get it when we get married. Build a meaningful relationship, first! It is absolutely unreasonable to break up a relationship that is already going on well just because another person came to propose to you. Why wreck a ship that is already sailing smoothly?

Toks2008:


lol so you are still one of those living in delusion of true love?

Keep dreaming...i will advice you to just get a good friend to marry.Love is a facade,it does not exist between humans but only from GOD towards human.

if you are a lady getting married just know that without court wedding a man can wake up and booth you out and a woman can just leave you whenever she likes.

Most annoying is the fact that despite all the money spent on trd marriage and white wedding,you can still dvorce easily and all they will say is that the man should get bck the bride price paid and thats all.Iranu,abacha.

in court wedding you must prove youyr case as to why you want the marriage dissolved or have ur case thrown out.

Any lady who marries without doing court wedding is on her own.Love does not exist but what we see is partner with benefits.

only matured minds can decipher my assertions,only babies still believe in love.

cyprus000:
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It's all good anyway.

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About the embolded.even tho there is an atom of truth in that assertion.
I still consider it as stereotyping,cos those kind of peeps who does that are extremly rare.

I personally havn't seen any man that did dat,all my stay outside,except twice in the news and it is mostly cos of green card,but I have seen a black lady who
Paid a white guy and they arranged fake marriage just for the green card.
This scenario can not be applied in your above assertion,cos its a contract and not life time commitment.cos after two or three month,they will file for divorce.
That's not marriage/relationship,but contract.

---

On the flipside:
I dun change,just for you and i want to marry you.
Say yes and me and my kinsmen go show your papa house with palm wine tomorrow
I go explain to my shed,I sure say she go understand



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cyprus000:

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Thank you my brda

No mind all this galz,wey think say every guy na mumu.

Just dey watch them on 3D [/size]

bashydemy:
Like i said as a man i have the say over anything that happen in marriage and my pocket will suffer the pain not her's, About loosing at the end you mean for Amaka to go and start another 5years courtship afresh? I guess she will end up in redeem praying for hubby at the end of the day..

Any day any time the guy will always have an upper hand exept if he is broke, Don't be surprise the best friend of Amaka might say yes to prince even without him proposing to her... No be this world wey we dey?