Getting married is supposed to be one of the highlights of a person’s life. Although you may know your spouse-to-be well enough to get married, there is always a certain measure of uncertainty and risk involved. Before you can truly determine if you are ready for marriage, take a step back and answer these 10 questions first:

1. Do you really love this woman?

2. Are you ready to be responsible for a wife/husband and family?

3. What are our values (family, religion, politics), and do they mesh?

4. Do you trust this woman completely?
A solid marriage is built on solid trust.


5. Do you really know her?
Aside from knowing the basics about the woman that you are marrying, you do also need to be able to discuss the effects of her upbringing, her views on relationships and marriage and the most important aspects of her relationship history.


6. Have we discussed whether or not we want children?
Assuming that you both want to be parents someday, sit down with your fiancé and have a true heart-to-heart. Discuss topics pertaining to whether or not your children will be raised under one religion, how the two of you expect to discipline them, your expectations about taking them on vacations, etc..


7. Does she want to keep her last name or change it? 
While there are many married woman going the name-changing route, not every woman is keen on giving up a name that reflects her personal and professional identity, heritage and family history. There’s no “right” answer, you just need to know what feels right to her and what’s important to you.

8.  Can you imagine being with her for the next 30+ years?
When all is said and done, when looks and passion fade, do you see yourself able to be with this same woman having spirited conversations sitting on the porch when the two of you are old and gray? If you can’t see yourself with this woman in a few months, let alone a few years, you’re not ready for marriage.

9.  How will you manage your finances?
Some couples like to combine all their finances; others prefer to have a joint account for the household expenses, and separate accounts for personal spending.You need to discuss what individual assets and debts both of you bring to the marriage. You should also be on the same page about financial goals and issues such as who will pay the bills, how will you save, how much money can you spend on a purchase before you should consult one another, etc…

10. Under what circumstances would you consider divorce?
Infidelity? Dishonesty? Abuse? Again, there’s no “right” answer here, but it helps to reduce any uncertainty if you hear before you get married the level of commitment you are both bringing to the table.

You need consider it seriously..#HappyMarriage=Happy Home ..@Albertbabs

okay

nice post though

I just had a heartbreak last night, cudn't sleep althrough the night, wonder why i'm reading this, this morning

Good tips.........










Make her angry and know how she reacts..... Very important

nice write up...

More ororo to your elbow @OP
Any relationship or marriage without these three things won't work wella
Love, respect and happiness..

It's 10 things MEN should know before marriage.

But if it's meant for men and women it's almost like saying women should just jump into marriage.

Btw, the "do you see yourself with her for the next 30 years" is just... won't we all like to live till we're 100? but the truth is, we don't get to determine that. So how about you take life one day at a time? That's even the biggest cause of anxiety for men if you ask me.

Take life one day at a time and count the years when they pass by not before.