Some argue that the concept of being a gentleman is
archaic. Others argue that the rules of being a
gentleman have not and cannot change, and if you’re
not standing reflexively when a woman enters the room,
then you might as well go live under a bridge. Being a
modern gentleman is both of these things, but also
neither. I’m sure as hell not standing just because a
woman enters the room, or throwing my jacket over a
mud puddle. But at the same time, any man who
wants to rise above and stand out (in a good way)
needs to keep in mind a few things that separate a
modern gentleman from, well, everyone else. Consider
the following:




RULE 1. Make a Good First Impression


How often do you consciously monitor the way you act
around new acquaintances? You may offer a firm
handshake, but do you make eye contact? Do you
introduce yourself politely and clearly, or do you slap
hands and say “Sup, bro? I’m Jake”? If you do this
wrong, you could find yourself paddling upstream,
attempting to land in the good graces of your new
acquaintance


RULE 2. Be Hygienic


There’s nothing wrong with waking up from a night on
the town and throwing on a rumpled T-shirt, last
night’s jeans and a ball cap to make a Starbucks run.
However, those jeans you’re putting on ought to go over
a fresh pair of underpants, and that T-shirt should have
a new coat of antiperspirant underneath it, even if you
haven’t showered yet. There’s no excuse for leaving the
house with your teeth unbrushed, nails untrimmed,
and hair unkempt (or at least uncovered). While you
may not care what the barista thinks of your
appearance, you never know who you might see. Almost
nothing can turn around a bad first impression, but a
bad second, third, or fourth impression can sure as hell
erase a good first one.


RULE 3.Be Honest


We’ve all been there: Maybe you’re seeing someone
casually, or have just begun a relationship, and you
see a woman who makes you do a double-take.
Assuming you don’t have your lady friend in tow,
sooner or later events conspire to make it such that the
two of you have struck up a conversation at the bar.
Assuming you’ve made a good first impression and
have some modicum of charm, inevitably the talk turns
to relationship status. When the question comes up,
what do you do? If you’re any kind of a gentleman,
you come clean and be truthful about the fact that
you’re seeing someone. That may end the conversation
for her, but if she wants to carry on, so be it. Regardless,
lying is unfair to your squeeze, unfair to your new
acquaintance and generally unbecoming of a
gentleman.


RULE 4.Have Context and Self-Awareness


In a social setting, the modern gentleman is
immediately aware of the tone and setting in which he
finds himself. If you’re at a $5,000/plate fundraising
dinner, that shouldn’t be your cue to drink combatively
and test your personal limits. On the other hand, no
one likes a wet blanket. If everyone else is dancing on
tables and singing off-key to Journey, unless you’re
abstaining for other reasons, by all means indulge and
have a good time. Whatever the case, you don’t want to
be remembered as the guy who was out of touch with
the rest of the party. That’s a good way to make sure
you aren’t invited back.



RULE 5. Make Others Feel Like They’re the Center of Attention


Most gatherings, be they social or professional, include
a diverse cast of characters. Wallflowers, attention hogs
and social butterflies are all to be expected. Regardless
of who you’re talking to, you want them to leave feeling
like the conversation they had with you was the most
rewarding one they’ve had all day. You should neither
marginalize a quiet type by overpowering him, nor
should you try to belittle a big talker through feigned
apathy. Whoever you’re talking to, engage them. Listen.
Ask intelligent questions. Even if you’d rather wipe your
ass with poison ivy than discuss the topic at hand, 30
seconds of engagement will earn you far more goodwill
than five minutes of eye rolling. Speaking of wiping
your ass...


RULE 6. Watch your Mouth


There’s nothing wrong with a little cursing here and
there, and there’s nothing ungentlemanly about it,
provided the context is right. If you’re with your friends
or even slightly more mixed company, a swear word
won’t kill anyone. But in the wrong setting, telling an
off-color joke, however funny it may be to you, isn’t
going to go over so well with the black, Jewish double-
amputee you didn’t notice in the corner who happened
to be the punchline of your oddly specific joke. In an
instant, you’ll go from being the life of the party to a
member of the untouchable caste. It’s fine to call Aaron
Rodgers a “f*cking jackass” (because he is) when you
invite your college buddies over to your house to watch
football. It’s not so fine when your boss invites you over
to his.



RULE 7. Remove Your Hat Indoors



Yes, this is an old one, but a good one. If you’re going
someplace and you’ll be staying a while, take your hat
off. It just shows a little respect for the establishment
you’re entering. Don’t want to because your hair will
get messed up? Too bad — in that case, you shouldn’t
have worn a hat. This isn’t the 1950s, and a hat is no
longer a de facto part of a man’s wardrobe. If it’s the
dead of winter and you’re wearing a beanie or ski cap
for warmth, don’t worry about it. Everyone else’s hair
will look just as bad.


RULE 8.Wait For Others to Get Their Food Before Eating



If you’re out for a meal with a group, the gentlemanly
thing to do is to wait for all parties to get their food
before digging in. You don’t want to be the one guy
shoveling food in his face while others are still
conversing. Plus you’ll finish before everyone else and
have to sit in silence while they finish. Speaking of
which, take small bites. It’ll help your meal last longer,
and you never know when you might want to jump into
the conversation. The exception: If there are more than
six of you, go ahead and eat. There’s no need to make
others feel like they’re forcing you to let your food get
cold while the waitstaff brings out eight more plates.
When You're With A Woman
While some things have fallen out of fashion, other
stalwarts of the gentleman’s code are just as applicable
today as they ever were. Let’s take a look.

Source ;www.askmen.com/money/successful/41b_success.html

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