bravesoul247:
he masturbates by telling u to rub ur hands with soap then use it to self-service his di.k.. That's called a hand job. as u de ask oloshi question

Houseofglam7:
Take him to a strip club and pay to let him have a lap dance!

I swear na car him go nail you!


If that doesn't work, sell him on OLX

Houseofglam7:
Take him to a strip club and pay to let him have a lap dance!

I swear na car him go nail you!


If that doesn't work, sell him on OLX

jaybee3:


Join in on the act

He will be so ashamed to continue

Caracta:


You can't be too sure. Some men want you to be saints while they are sinners. Don't you know it's acceptable for men to do some things but a criminal act for women to do same?

francescainnoce:

hmmmmmm hun you had me half way through your reply until you got to that back side ooo...
not just is that against religion and beliefs, it is also very unhealthy...c'mon man, your ass is designed at the back for a reason, every part of your body is actually...
let me ask you, will you put food in your nose for your husband to eat from??
a healthy marriage don't need yash sex to last.... a good and understanding loving man does...
for some men, even if you open your nose, your eyes or even your ear for them to f^ck, if the marriage will break, it will dear....
if they want to mastur**, they will... regardless....

misshipsy88:
For sometime I have noticed that my husband would rather masturbate instead of having sex with me,even when I try as much as possible to spice up our sex life.please what do I do to stop it?

Teempakguy:
How fat are you?

NifemiOlu:


Porn kills sexual arousal over time. He would rather engage in masturbation having images of sexy women and several skills in his head.
I read a story of a woman whose husband would sit on the couch, watch porn, masturbate and as soon as he's about to release, he would rush inside the room and spill on her face. He then will fall asleep.

misshipsy88:
For sometime I have noticed that my husband would rather masturbate instead of having sex with me,even when I try as much as possible to spice up our sex life.please what do I do to stop it?

MRBrownJ:


let me be the bearer of bad news (please dont shoot the messenger):
i am sorry to tell you that there is very little you can do about the fact that you dont turn your husband ON any longer.
but here is how you need to look at this issue:
A) did you always satisfy your hubby's sexual needs in the past? did you have a healthy sex life in the past? do you even know what turns him on?!
B) pls go get nekkid in front of the mirror and look carefully, while asking yourself if you remotely resemble your old sexy self.
C) then ask yourself if you have always been the freak that your partner was seeking for in the bedroom... or better yet, what have you done all these years to spice your bedroom activities? if you think that you can revive something that you overlooked and dismissed for year, then the joke is on you. when its dead, its dead!
D) most importantly, your husband must be masturbating to something that turns him on.... so the question you should ask yourself IS:" do you remotely look as sexy as the women he masturbates to OR do you do the type of stuff that he enjoys watching while playing with himself?"

the fact that you would want him to stop doing it, without thinking or asking the important question, which is "WHY/HOW has it come this?", is the reason why you can never succeed in solving the issue....your answers are right in front of you.

Houseofglam7:
I get hope

Houseofglam7:
Take him to a strip club and pay to let him have a lap dance!

I swear na car him go nail you!


If that doesn't work, sell him on OLX

AikayDaWrapper:

A girl after my own heart.

5minsmadness:




But seriously,

Most guys have issues explaining thier sexual inclinations to thier loved ones. And they are highly embarrassed to voice thier opinions on certain turnoffs for fear of offending thier spouse e. g:

Smelly pucci
Stinking armpits
Stinking hair
Body odour
Fat vajayjay
Multicoloured vajayjay
Excessively hairy vajayjay
Watery vajayjays
Wide ocean vajayjays
Puckered vajayjays
"borehole"vajayjays
Vajayjays with excess skin
Obese tummies with skin folds whose undersides are unwashed
Discharging pussi
Mouth odour
Dirty thighs
Rash infested buttocks
Stinking underwear
Stretch marks (though this one turns me on )
Etc.

Op, mishipsy, go through the list pls. Anything familiar?

Vanquay:
You better find toyboys or f***buddy ...........Speaking of Toyboys . In all seriousnes Porn has damaged your Husband's REASoning. He cant tell Reality from Fantasy again. Just try to see if you can act some of his fantasies. #LOVEGURU Meanwhile I am dropping my Novella 1:30pm GMT-5 because of mh Reddit fans and Time Difference. Catch it like it's hot on Reddit or Nairaland

misshipsy88:
For sometime I have noticed that my husband would rather masturbate instead of having sex with me,even when I try as much as possible to spice up our sex life.please what do I do to stop it?

dearpreye:
It's so depressing reading through most of the insensitive, immature and selfish comments dripped by most people here. We don't make fun of EVERY topic. Our words can go a long way in encouraging people or damaging my resolve.

Misshipsy88, you haven't actually given us adequate information on which we could build a case and give some pieces of advice. For instance, did he just start the habit recently? Has he been struggling with it years back? Do you know he has the said habit before you got married to him? Did he ever tell you the habit was his weak point before your wedding occasion? How deep do you know him? And we're to he following questions would have helped in no little means.

By all means, the straight man should naturally prefer to burrow through that narrow, sensitive, extremely appealing feature between a woman's let's than her himself off. The sight of a woman , not minding her design and contours, should excite the passions of a man. I know that evil habit can be extremely addictive but for a married man to prefer it to the heavenly between a woman indicates a very serious problem with the man.

Contrary to what most people here have said, the problem is with your husband, not you. Of course I know getting married isn't enough to break off from this habit. But having a woman around one should gradually deplete the strength of the habit and have it totally disappear after some while.

Your husband derives pleasure from touching himself instead of riding you. That calls for a deep concern. Ask him to tell you all the truth. You need to assist him here. The more he engages in it the stronger the force and the more he will engage and indulge in it. He needs your help. He needs to identify he's got serious problem. He needs to be sincere with himself and seek help.

There's a way that seems right unto a man but the end thereof is destruction. Talk to him. Bring up the topic. There's a deeper problem somewhere.

Your husband should deploy his energy making very deep exhausting LOVE TO YOU, not satisfying HIS OWN LUST!

iRepNaija1:


Going through these comments makes me laugh and makes me sad. I've seen some other topics where the situation is reversed and posters have responded that the wife must submit. No one asked questions about the man's appearance, the man's weight issues, whether the man is doing enough to please his wife. No one blamed the husband. Being a Nigerian wife seems so undesirable sometimes.

OP, I'm not going to assume anything about you. All I have is what you have given us. All I'm going to say is that the both of you need to sit down and have an honest conversation about your lack of relations. Communicating is key.

prettythicksme:
something like dat cos i wonder y her husbanx choose to self service dan having sex with her.#who does dat?