You saw someone you like. You have found some likeable qualities in her. You approach her and after some time she said yes.
Your intention is to spend the rest of your life with her, though you plan to get married in the next 4 years.
Now, is it right to tell her right away that your intention is marriage?

If you are ready now, why not. If you will be ready in 4 years, dont tell her now.

where are the marriage counselors

When u re sure u re both ready for it

Bro don't do it.

At least you are sure you want to marry her. Good. Don't bring up the idea of marriage. Let her decide. You'd know if she's interested when she begins to give you hints.

Before u tap out all the sweetness in her body,u knw many times food gotten from goin2 d pot illegally tastes very sweet.dnt waste time lest she fades!

When you have money to take care of her and her family....especially your mother-in-law

Well, let me say it out
Met this babe in school. We both in our second year. Been dating for 4 months We sincerely love each other. And our aim has been marriage when we done with our school. I can authoritatively say that she is committed to getting married to me. She even told me to stop calling her my girlfriend. I should call her My fiancee. She is still a virgin.
But last night, she said something that got me thinking. That she can't promise me marriage. That we have a long way to go. We should concentrate on our education and keep loving each other till then. If we are destiné to be together, so be it. She suddenly have this belief that God will reveal her right man for her. To me, I don't belive that God decides who we get married to. I believe in setting an agenda in my relationship, instead of wasting my emotion on someone that I won't marry.
But truly, these words have changed my mindset about her. I have decided not to protect her virginity again. I don't know if I made a mistake discussing the marriage aspect earlier on.
If I made mistake, how do I correct it. Your candid advise pls

Incorruptible:
Well, let me say it out
Met this babe in school. We both in our second year. Been dating for 4 months We sincerely love each other. And our aim has been marriage when we done with our school. I can authoritatively say that she is committed to getting married to me. She even told me to stop calling her my girlfriend. I should call her My fiancee. She is still a virgin.
But last night, she said something that got me thinking. That she can't promise me marriage. That we have a long way to go. We should concentrate on our education and keep loving each other till then. If we are destiné to be together, so be it. She suddenly have this belief that God will reveal her right man for her. To me, I don't belive that God decides who we get married to. I believe in setting an agenda in my relationship, instead of wasting my emotion on someone that I won't marry.
But truly, these words have changed my mindset about her. I have decided not to protect her virginity again. I don't know if I made a mistake discussing the marriage aspect earlier on.
If I made mistake, how do I correct it. Your candid advise pls

congratulations! You now have an assistant. You know most girls like to have backup options, incase you disappoint, or for other reasons.

I think it's either she isn't very sure about you anymore (might be your fault or hers), or she's found someone more interesting. You should find this out discreetly, so you know where to go from there.

It's easier for people to get away with the most ridiculous stuff when they claim God is involved. Ask any pastor.

Oahray:
congratulations! You now have an assistant. You know most girls like to have backup options, incase you disappoint, or for other reasons.

I think it's either she isn't very sure about you anymore (might be your fault or hers), or she's found someone more interesting. You should find this out discreetly, so you know where to go from there.

It's easier for people to get away with the most ridiculous stuff when they claim God is involved. Ask any pastor.

Is hard to trust people. But this is one girl I have come to respect cos of the way she carried herself. I can swear that the last thing she can do is to double date.
Am thinking maybe she heard or read something which is working on her mind or maybe a fault of mine as you said. We just human. Sometimes we can commit errors without knowing

Incorruptible:
Well, let me say it out
Met this babe in school. We both in our second year. Been dating for 4 months We sincerely love each other. And our aim has been marriage when we done with our school. I can authoritatively say that she is committed to getting married to me. She even told me to stop calling her my girlfriend. I should call her My fiancee. She is still a virgin.
But last night, she said something that got me thinking. That she can't promise me marriage. That we have a long way to go. We should concentrate on our education and keep loving each other till then. If we are destiné to be together, so be it. She suddenly have this belief that God will reveal her right man for her. To me, I don't belive that God decides who we get married to. I believe in setting an agenda in my relationship, instead of wasting my emotion on someone that I won't marry.
But truly, these words have changed my mindset about her. I have decided not to protect her virginity again. I don't know if I made a mistake discussing the marriage aspect earlier on.
If I made mistake, how do I correct it. Your candid advise pls

You are both in your second year right?
You've got a long way to go in preparing for marriage.
Get your priorities right because you are male while she is female.You know,She might decide to get married in her third year if she think she has found 'the one'.

Now,how prepared are you Emotionally,Spiritually,Financially and other -cially faecets?.

About God choosing your spouse: God doesn't really choose a spouse for you,He only 'endorse' whomsoever He knows is right for you.

My 2cents? Wait till you are really ready.

Incorruptible:
I have decided not to protect her virginity again.

It is her choice and duty to protect her virginity and not you. Or are you planning to r@pe her?

You shouldn't see someone like you, rather someone who complements you.

4 years is too far a time to propose now. Anything can happen, each other's taste for a spouse now may change in a few years.

Abi you wan book wife down

Jamean:
You shouldn't see someone like you, rather someone who complements you.

4 years is too far a time to propose now. Anything can happen, each other's taste for a spouse now may change in a few years.

Abi you wan book wife down

Taste ? This world don turn something else.

I see , so even after marriage the taste could change still , get divorced and unto the next one, shey?

jmoore:


It is her choice and duty to protect her virginity and not you. Or are you planning to r@pe her?

Far beyond that. I can't think of that
I have decided not to pressurise her for sex ever since I found out that she is still a virgin. I believe with some pressure she can let go of it. But I kept it cool knowing fully well that my intention was to get married to her.
With what she said last nite, am thinking otherwise.

DaisyII:


You are both in your second year right?
You've got a long way to go in preparing for marriage.
Get your priorities right because you are male while she is female.You know,She might decide to get married in her third year if she think she has found 'the one'.

Now,how prepared are you Emotionally,Spiritually,Financially and other -cially faecets?.

About God choosing your spouse: God doesn't really choose a spouse for you,He only 'endorse' whomsoever He knows is right for you.

My 2cents? Wait till you are really ready.

Well, am 27, She is 21. Am also working. I believed my financial status would have grown in the next four years. I know what I want before I went for her. There are many girls in school who sure wants my attention. But am glued to her cos am convince we can make it.
About my financial status, I believe that won't be a problem. Four years from now, my financial status will grow beyond what it is now.
I don't believe I should date for fun. I believe we should date so as to prepare ourselves for marriage. Can't waste my emotion on someone who obviously will end up with another man.

dyabman:


Taste ? This world don turn something else.

I see , so even after marriage the taste could change still , get divorced and unto the next one, shey?

YES!

Cry me a river

Incorruptible:


Well, am 27, She is 21. Am also working. I believed my financial status would have grown in the next four years. I know what I want before I went for her. There are many girls in school who sure wants my attention. But am glued to her cos am convince we can make it.
About my financial status, I believe that won't be a problem. Four years from now, my financial status will grow beyond what it is now.
I don't believe I should date for fun. I believe we should date so as to prepare ourselves for marriage. Can't waste my emotion on someone who obviously will end up with another man.

You are good to go. please clear all doubts currently. She's just being childish.

Focus o

This nite

Why don't you just date her and see where the relationship is leading to?My guy focus on making money and leave marriage for now.
How old are you to start thinking about marriage?y'all should focus on the cash and leave marriage for later,if the girl is loyal until 4 years then your luck if not there are many fishes in the ocean.

Incorruptible:


Well, am 27, She is 21. Am also working. I believed my financial status would have grown in the next four years. I know what I want before I went for her. There are many girls in school who sure wants my attention. But am glued to her cos am convince we can make it.
About my financial status, I believe that won't be a problem. Four years from now, my financial status will grow beyond what it is now.
I don't believe I should date for fun. I believe we should date so as to prepare ourselves for marriage. Can't waste my emotion on someone who obviously will end up with another man.

if dats your decision.I wish u d very best.