what am trying to say is, there must have been doing something that you inflicted in your relationship that cause your ex to behave with you in that manner

sweetpie23:

what am trying to say is, there must have been something that you inflicted in your relationship that cause your ex to behave with you in that manner

like what?

like cheating on him with another person

sweetpie23:

like cheating on him with another person

Only did that to my exhusband and he never found out.

see what I mean those are really bad relationship habits

sweetpie23:

see what I mean those are really bad relationship habits

habit not habits. The plural use of the word infers several things where as the singular use of the infers just one.

But here is the real wrong problem with your statement. My ex-husband did not do any of the crazy ex things listed above.

sistawoman:

habit not habits. The plural use of the word infers several things where as the singular use of the infers just one.

But here is the real wrong problem with your statement. My ex-husband did not do any of the crazy ex things listed above.

he must have been a gentleman, but not all men take nonsense so I can see why the other ex did all that

sweetpie23:

he must have been a gentleman, but not all men take nonsense so I can see why the other ex did all that

he never knew about the cheating.

and i never repeated that mistake again.

so come with something else.

sistawoman:

he never knew about the cheating.

that is what cheaters are good at hidding the truth

sistawoman:

and i never repeated that mistake again.

only you knows weather you did or not

sistawoman:

so come with something else.

sweetpie23:

that is what cheaters are good at hidding the truth
only you knows weather you did or not

yes most are good at hiding the truth
yes only i know if that is truth or not
you are making excuses for my crazy ex's behavior so I am waiting for you to tell me why they acted the way they did.

sistawoman:

you are making excuses for my crazy ex's behavior so I am waiting for you to tell me why they acted the way they did.

like I said your behaviour may have been the problem.

Crazy Ex. . .
I never had one until 2 days ago when an Ex showed up unannounced at my place around 9p.m looking seriously worried.Upon enquiry she said she had a dream and she needed to come see me about it so she came straight from work.
To cut the story short, the dream was more stupid than plain stupid and I just saw her off.

sweetpie23:

like I said your behaviour may have been the problem.

what behavior is that?

Please help me to understand.

Maybe others can learn from your observations.

no excuse for craziness

JJYOU:

no excuse for craziness

exactly the point I was trying to drive her to.

sistawoman:

Please help me to understand.

okay let start like this: why did you break up with him?

sweetpie23:

okay let start like this: why did you break up with him?

it doesnt matter how you break off with anyone.  it is your life and only you can permit people access to it. no should mean no. period.

JJYOU:

it doesnt matter how you break off with anyone.  it is your life and only you can permit people access to it. no should mean no. period.

exactly

JJYOU:

it doesnt matter how you break off with anyone.  it is your life and only you can permit people access to it. no should mean no. period.

did I talk to you?

JJYOU:

no excuse for craziness

there is a reason for everything. someone wouldn't just act crazy, there must be a reason

crazy people dont need a reason.

BTW I broke up with them like anyone ends a r/s. You have a conversation and say this is not working for me so we need to go our separate ways.

sistawoman:

crazy people dont need a reason.

they sure do, just the way sickness have symptoms

sweetpie23:

they sure do, just the way sickness have symptoms

Then please justify their actions. I answered your question.

sistawoman:

Then please justify their actions.

please choose which of the above
1 they must have been too bore with you. you was not bringing much in the relationship
2 you cheated on him
3 you spend less time with him
4 no sexual satisfaction
5 lack of romance
6  you was too controlling

sweetpie23:

please choose which of the above
1 they must have been too bore with you. you was not bringing much in the relationship
2 you cheated on him
3 you spend less time with him
4 no sexual satisfaction
5 lack of romance
6  you was too controlling

None of the above applies to any of my crazy exs.

And further more #1, 3, 4, 5, 6 and don't support an ex being crazy. Infact if all them were correct the ex would be happy to be rid of me and would not start to do crazy shit to get me back.

sistawoman:

Infact if all them were correct the ex would be happy to be rid of me and would not start to do crazy shit to get me back.

good now we are getting to the point. some guys usually gets crazy in such relationship. so you can now see there is a reason

sweetpie23:

good now we are getting to the point. some guys usually gets crazy in such relationship. so you can now see there is a reason

I am not understanding you.

I said if all of those were correct then there would be no reason for them to be crazy.

sistawoman:

I said if all of those were correct then there would be no reason for them to be crazy.

if you did something like that, and then the guy break up with you there is every reason for him to act crazy

Lets break this down line by line for you to understand:

1 they must have been too bore with you. you was not bringing much in the relationship

They would be happy to be done with me, therefore no need to stalk me

2 you cheated on him

That might cause a man to go crazy if he found out

3 you spend less time with him

Why would he want me back if i dont spend anytime with him, he would be happy to see me go.

4 no sexual satisfaction

He would be happy to find someone else that satisfied him. Thus no need to stalk me

5 lack of romance

Again he would be happy to be rid of me

6 you was too controlling

Again why would he want to hold on to me if i am too controlling he would be happy to be free.


Now do you understand the fallacy in your argument?

sistawoman:


That might cause a man to go crazy if he found out

good and some chooses to take revange

sweetpie23:

good and some chooses to take revange

And if there is not cheating then what is the reason for a person being crazy after a break-up?

sistawoman:

And if there is not cheating then what is the reason for a person being crazy after a break-up?

your bad luck

sweetpie23:

your bad luck

Good then your original comment to me was false.

Just like we broke this down here and you moved to this final conclusion I need you to imply this in all your thinking and really think it all the way thru before commenting.

Critical thinking is a skill and if not learned can never be put into practical use.

If you need some tips on critical thinking skills I am more than happy to help.

Have a good one sis.