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Never say never, so I'd say the best position is in the crib, e.g. when my senior Sister was in hospital, a mother refused the Nurse's request to let all babies sleep in the crib beside their beds, and stubbornly placed the baby on her chest. The stupid woman fell into a deep sleep and ended up dropping the poor baby Hope the baby survived the 4 feet drop  

As for the pacifier/dummy, hmmn, all I know is that my Mum hates the thing with a passion but one day decided to try it with my baby, he spat it out straightaway and it flew about 2 feet away, she cleaned it and re-inserted it, thinking that maybe she did not put it in his mouth properly, this time my son made sure she got the message by spitting it out over 10 feet away

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Never say never, so I'd say the best position is in the crib, e.g. when my senior Sister was in hospital, a mother refused the Nurse's request to let all babies sleep in the crib beside their beds, and stubbornly placed the baby on her chest. The stupid woman fell into a deep sleep and ended up dropping the poor baby Hope the baby survived the 4 feet drop

As for the pacifier/dummy, hmmn, all I know is that my Mum hates the thing with a passion but one day decided to try it with my baby, he spat it out straightaway and it flew about 2 feet away, she cleaned it and re-inserted it, thinking that maybe she did not put it in his mouth properly, this time my son made sure she got the message by spitting it out over 10 feet away

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in the crib most times but you can be flexible about it.

The crib of course. The baby cant disturb the flow between me and my wife.

I believe it's best babies sleep in their cribs.

They'll get used to it, which is a good thing, rather than become too dependant upon their parent's bed.

There's also the danger of one or both the parents rolling onto the baby, and smothering him / her to death. It's not just the risk of being squashed that makes it a bad idea, there's also the added risk of the baby being smothered by too many sheets / blankets. Baby blankets are special breathable items, and so a different material from that generally found in an adult's bed.

speaking from experience, from day 1 to 8 weeks, it's best if baby sleeps with mommy on the bed, by virtue of the sheer number of times the baby wakes up at night, from about three months, you can get the baby to sleep in the crib, because that's when you'd want to start sleep training.

when your child becomes mobile (crawling, sitting up by themselves, walking) and they are still sleeping with you, it's going to be that much more difficult to get them out of your bed,

as for mommy squashing the baby, there have been strides made in making products that prevent such from happening, e.g. snuggle nest.

I kept my baby with me til she was 12 months old, but starting from about 3 months she always took her naps in her crib + when I put her to bed at night I put her in her crib and would only take her with us when she'd first wake up for food. She was breastfed about 5 times/night til she turned 10 months and as I was working it was not possible for me to spend such sleepless nights.

She now sleeps in her own bed and comes to us when she wakes up before us, either to play in our bed (and wake us up ) or sleep a little more with mommy and daddy.

I liked having her with me at night, so I could monitor her (she often puked/had fever at night), breastfeed her without being tired, and get used to the idea of separation little by little

Of course, if you decide to do so, you have to be careful to a few things: no alcohol/cigarettes/drugs (so your sleep won't be too deep to notice the child), hard mattress and no pillow/blanket (I slept with warmer clothes). I didn't put the baby between my husband and I as he has a very sound sleep, but between the wall and me (so she couldn't fall).

As for intimacy, there are so many other places than the bedroom

Anywhere the babies mother chooses is fine by me as long as it doesnt pose any risks to the baby, the mother or me.