I know some fathers don’t care a bit about their children or family but what about the mother who goes through the pain of carrying the pregnancy for 9 months and that of delivery. I have heard of mother abandoning babies but never thought it could happen to me. I’m a 20-year-old undergraduate in the university. I stay with my grandparents because my parents are separated. I was brought up by my paternal grandmother since when I was few months old. According to my grandmum, my mum abandoned me because of our low-level status. She said my mum thought my dad was from a rich family but realised he belong to the middle class and she was already pregnant. Her excuse then was that she can’t marry into a poor family. After waiting for few years thinking she would return, my dad had to remarry. She had also married another man. Now after 16 years of childlessness, she suddenly resurfaced. She wants me in her life, she want to be a mother to me after abandoning me for years. I returned home from school last week only to meet some people begging my grandmum for forgiveness. She did her best not to have introduced me to them. She told me their mission after they have left. Even though she brought me to this world, I don’t want her at all. My father also stood his ground that he doesn’t want her near me. What if she hasn’t been barren would she have remembered she has a child somewhere? Too late for her.


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so sad

What baffles me is how can a mother jx abandon her child like that at birth!!!! its nt fair at all and its so heartless.

Any mother that does that deserves to suffer big time! I can't even imagine me separating from my baby. gosh

Hmmmm


Nothing person no go see for this life


Self centered mother

i would have replied:
although i understand how you may feel about her abandoning you, you have to remember that she is your BIOLOGICAL MOTHER and will always be. nobody is perfect and most people make mistakes (some bigger than others) but anyone can/should be forgiven with time. so i will suggest you guys start by communicating via email or chat, then see how it goes, and take it from there. there are many questions that may be bothering you and this is the time to put your mind at ease and ask them. at the end of the day, nobody can force you into having a r/ship with this stranger BUT, as long as it wont hurt you in anyway, then you might as well have one with her.

btw if she was childless for 16yrs and you are 20 then either she had you in her life for 4 yrs or this story is BS!

Hmmm

MRBrownJ:
i would have replied:
although i understand how you may feel about her abandoning you, you have to remember that she is your BIOLOGICAL MOTHER and will always be. nobody is perfect and most people make mistakes (some bigger than others) but anyone can/should be forgiven with time. so i will suggest you guys start by communicating via email or chat, then see how it goes, and take it from there. there are many questions that may be bothering you and this is the time to put your mind at ease and ask them. at the end of the day, nobody can force you into having a r/ship with this stranger BUT, as long as it wont hurt you in anyway, then you might as well have one with her.

btw if she was childless for 16yrs and you are 20 then either she had you in her life for 4 yrs or this story is BS!

From the story it sounds like the mother got married to another man four years later. She could still abandon her child for those four years while searching for her supposed greener pastures.

ConfessionsNgr:
From the story it sounds like the mother got married to another man four years later. She could still abandon her child for those four years while searching for her supposed greener pastures.

you are right... but therefore she was childless for 20yrs, and not 16.

There are always two sides to a coin. I wouldn't say ur grandma is wrong but u will need to know the other part of the story before believing the whole thing.

Website of 'anonymous' tories!

Ok!
We don hia! I am really not interested in 'the details'.

Love is NOT by force. LOVE THOSE WHO LOVE YOU, and PHOCK those who don't!

Her mother has made her choice.
Now, let her go and make hers!

NO NEED FOR SELF-PITY.

Dis reminds me of a guy dat his parent....father and mother left him(mother put beside forest) wen he grew to a certain level he went to look for his father(his father threathen to shoot him)......men dis is so sad....

Poster, if I were you I will go and see ma mum and ask her questions. She has all the answers you need. You have taken sides wit your grandmum because she brought you up. you will never know the truth unless you meet your mum. Get to know who she is before jumping into the conclusion of her abandoning you. Who knows, may be she was the abandoned one.