“And Who are you to tell me what to do
with my relationship?”
If you’re reading this post right now,
you’ve probably mumbled that question
when you saw the latest relationship
advice post on social network. But you read it
anyway, by fear of missing out on
potentially great advice only to realise it
wasn’t that great.
Well, here are 9 reasons why next time
you should feel comfortable with not
clicking. You won’t miss that much, I
promise.

1. It Might Actually Be Aimed At One
Person
The same way an artist can a write a song
for everyone by talking to one person,
relationship advice may be visible to all,
but aimed at one person. The author
could be trying to get back at someone
who offended them, and by taking their
advice you could get caught in the
crossfire. So the next time you see
someone declaring the obvious truth
about relationships, think about who
might have hurt them earlier and if
their message is really aimed at
everybody.

2. Good Intentions Are
Not Always Effective
“Maybe I should not have said I love you
so much”. “Maybe I should not have
asked about his ex.”
When we face difficulties in our
relationships, it is tempting to believe that
alternative options would have worked.
But until those maybes have been tested,
there is no proof that they will work.
Which is why regardless of the author’s
good intentions, you may not want to
make your relationship a lab rat to
their maybes.

3. Maggots Don’t Give Flying Lessons (It’s
A Butterfly’s Job)
It takes a fair amount of time to properly
study why a relationship failed. The same
goes with functioning relationships: The
author might think he’s enabled to give
advice because he was happy in his
relationship for a month. But so were
many others before it failed in month
two. Sometimes the writer giving you
advice may not have had enough time for
introspection, or to link the right causes to
their effects. This could make their advice
potentially devastating if taken seriously.
Look at it this way: Would you rather take
flying lessons from a maggot or a
butterfly?

4. Birds Of The Same Feather May Sing
Differently
A hurting person may develop bias
against certain types of people. Although
your partner may resemble the writer’s
offender, they are still individuals with
different influences and different life
experiences. Would it make sense to kill
every bird because one of them dropped
a ‘gift’ on your shirt? No.
Why would you then apply one advice to
every Mary or every Robert?

5. Misery Loves Company
It’s usually not out of wickedness, but out
of fear of loneliness that people will invite
you to share in their misery. If you’re
unlucky that misery has just hit a prolific
author, guess who it could hit next?

6. Our Hearts Talk Different Languages
What an act of kindness will do to one
heart, expensive gifts will do to another.
Treating advice from one type of lover as
gospel truth can be ineffective.
7. The Best Advice Now May Only Apply
To You Tomorrow
Married couples rarely approach
relationships the way singles do, and one
week relationships rarely resemble one
year relationships. Applying the best
advice at the wrong stage of a relationship
won’t serve you much.
8. Cultural Differences Matter
When we say love is a universal language,
we mean the heartbeat part of it. As for
the mechanics of a relationship, they tend
to change with cultures. Which is normal.
The next time you see relationship advice
online, make sure they apply to your
cultural circumstances, or you would be
giving your partner a steep hill to climb.
Wouldn’t be very fair, would it?

Source: 9jaExclusive

Well said.

Please edit your post and give good spacing.

@ you could get caught in the crossfire

Yeah, pls edit and space up the piece to adorn it.

Well done

scribespad:
Well said.
Please edit your post and give good spacing.

Thanks boss

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very nice ::: I can see reasons y not to believe this one self

rerhji:
very nice ::: I can see reasons y not to believe this one self

give me 1 , just 1

Nt all though...some are worth meditating on.

Tunguy01:
give me 1 , just 1

coz wat is applicable to other post is applicable to this