Pataki:

In respect to a man feeling threatened, it is relative. Some men are comfortable with their women understanding and reading them easily as it makes room for less quarrel and hassles, while [b]some men feel a woman reading them/their mind, is a clear interpretation that, they (the man) are weak emotionally. [/b]Therefore, they tend to back-out and become emotionally distant from the woman. [b]Should such a man be blamed and accused of being immature? NO, I don't think so. [/b]However, there is the role a woman should play, once she observes such. As it beholds on her to use utmost discretion, when dancing around the terrains of a man's emotion who feels unsecured at such.

topup:

I would like to know the role a woman should play, if a man starts to back away because he seems to have an ego complex and feels weak because she 'understands him too well' ??

Should she play dumb, or naive??

Pataki:

No, she is not expected to play dumb or neither being naive. Every man, has his ego. To some, it is an 'emotional ego', for some others, it is 'financial responsibility ego' which must not be crossed by the woman. A woman has to learn what her man wants when it comes to his emotion and adjust herself within negotiable and reachable limits.

There are men who prefer that, even though you can read my emotions, give me 'SPACE' to sort myself out emotionally. Do not come rubbing it in my face, simply because I give out my emotions easily.

On the other hand, there are men, wherein their ego lies in making their women not being able to read them emotionally. It gives them utmost joy and satisfaction. Should the woman in that case play dumb or naive to the man??

I hope you get my picture more clearer now.

I think I do. I am most familiar with the second example, when two can play that game, it becomes quite scary for them maybe?? Maybe the man has always had pride knowing that he was mysterious (in fact I heard someone describe themself that way) - saying "I'm the mysterious one." (Even though he was so see-through.)

You can blame me all you want but he was trying to play games with me, and maybe he thought at my age I would be naive. . I've seen most of it all before, so I wasn't phased, and I am very spontaneous, so maybe the ego thing applied there. Also, insisting on paying 50:50, can irritate some men, whilst others appreciate a woman who does her bit. Every man is different, and I don't think it's completely our job to try and understand them, I think it is equally their job to try and help us understand them (unless you come across the type who doesn't want to be understood )

tiniyata:

I'm grossly unpredictable,when a woman begins to act like she knows too much about me,i feel she has crossed her boundaries already,n such a woman can kill me.Most things i do are not repeated twice,n my countenance is not a function of my emotion.Most times when i feel hysterical,it cant be noticed by any woman except myself,n i never let women know what my emotions truely are.The little she knows about me,d better.But one trait they have survived in understandin when i'm so so so angry,i smile. I'm talkin about myself,dont know of other men

stillwater:

What's the discretion all about? Are you James Bond? Such attitude is not good at all. It's more like you're playing games, and shouldn't be taken seriously when it comes to relationships.

Pataki:

A woman who cannot read her husband's mind emotionally even without the man talking, should clearly note that is the first signal, her relationship cannot work. It is an underlining statement to understanding your man.

tiniyata:

@stillwater,everybody aint same,some ladies capitalizes on ur weaknesses,n use is as a medium to take advantage of u.Imagine,a lady telling his fiance that even if i cheat on you again,what would u do,u'll only avoid me for sometime and come back beggin me after a week,Imagine!!! Or another lady tellin the husband that 'if u like frown ur face from now till eternity,u cant do anything,cos u have never done anything,u weak man' just because the man always frowns when his wife comes home late from work,when she is supposed to have been back hours earlier,or didn't cook the husbands meal,cos she feels she's too much for her husband and d husband cant talk to her.She fails to realize that the man is just been a gentleman,n wouldn't want to do any nasty thing,but to her,the man is just a weaklin,just because she has so read d mans mind n she knows d man cant hurt a fly.So u see,i'm not so succeptible

tiniyata:

@stillwater,everybody aint same,some ladies capitalizes on ur weaknesses,n use is as a medium to take advantage of u. Imagine,a lady telling his fiance that even if i cheat on you again,what would u do,u'll only avoid me for sometime and come back beggin me after a week,Imagine!!! [b]Or another lady tellin the husband that 'if u like frown ur face from now till eternity,u cant do anything,cos u have never done anything,u weak man' just because the man always frowns when his wife comes home late from work,when she is supposed to have been back hours earlier,or didn't cook the husbands meal,cos she feels she's too much for her husband and d husband cant talk to her.She fails to realize that the man is just been a gentleman,n wouldn't want to do any nasty thing,but to her,the man is just a weaklin,just because she has so read d mans mind n she knows d man cant hurt a fly.[/b]So u see,i'm not so succeptible