Lack of money.

If your spouse isn't your better half, even if you avoid all these it won't work out.

omogidi234:
Thanks OP. On point.

Uwc sir. And thanks too.

Ok

When u build ur relationship on fake foundation Relationship should be taken serious b4 marriage wen u dnt take ur courting days serious how are you u cn suceed in marriage

11. Adultery
12. Family interference
13. Women discussing the issue with friends
14. Single life mentality
15. Lack and no respect for God

My wife ( prospective ) hopes you are listening

The lack of communication between both parties
Interference of external parties i.e. friends and family
Inability to take responsibility i.e. financial and emotional
Arrogant attitude and uncontrollable anger...i have seen this and it is the most disgusting thing i have seen in relationships/marriage
Physical/emotional abuse by either partners

Third parties!

True

11.LACK OF MOUTH ACTION .12.SNORING.

Rubbish, the main cause of divorce is excess pussy expansion and fish odor or sexual incompetency on side of the man.

Uh na don start again..?

MARRIAGE COUNSELLORS ASSOCIATION where most chief sponsors and Patrons are still single....

mrcasanova1:
@ the bolded... I fail to get your point.

''You saw all these during courtship...'' you are so wrong! 95% of the time, people do not manifest the wrong side of their character during courtship.

Please read my op again. I am not sure you fully understand what I wrote.

I think he has a point...a good number of people enter marriges knowing the shotcoming of their spouse but because of "so called love"..they think he or she will change....people don't change because of marriage ...only God can change an individual

detutu1:
The lack of communication between both parties
Interference of external parties i.e. friends and family
Inability to take responsibility i.e. financial and emotional
Arrogant attitude and uncontrollable anger...i have seen this and it is the most disgusting thing i have seen in relationships/marriage
Physical/emotional abuse by either partners

Good reasons too!

MegMich:
All these thread on marriage sef! Over-flogged! Did any of the partners change so quickly? You saw all these during courtship and still went ahead with the marriage for whatever reason.

Be wise!
You were happy b4 marriage don't ever throw that away because everybody is getting married.

I don't think this thread are over flogged,although I agree with you that a lot of naïve couples ignored some glaring dangers ll in the same of "love"...I love your last quote..makes sense

babyfaceafrica:
I think he has a point...a good number of people enter marriges knowing the shotcoming of thee spouse but because of "so clled love"..the thing he or she will change....people don't change because of marrige ...only God can change an individual

Oh.. If that's what he meant, then that's correct.

I didn't understand what he wrote from this angle of trying to change your spouse.

OP, soooo on point....Pride and arrogance, 2 strong root causes of marital failure

Marriages break these days because of stubborn wives and women with feminist tendencies..

Ok

boboLIL:
11.... Committing adultery

False..else there would have been no marriage

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Not yet married but I relate so well with the first two numbers.
Was in a relationship that turned around to be hell cos of selfishness and disrespect. Nothing you do is ever right except it's done his way.
Am not claiming to be perfect as I have got my own weaknesses too, maybe loads of them but our Nigerian men need to slow down on being too possessive and controlling abeg.
It sometimes escalate to hatred of the other partner which is the exact opposite of what you are after abi hatred dey bring respect

Well Said! Thanks A Lot! http://www.bummyla.com

1. Good and effective Communication
2. Good and effective Communication
3. Good and effective Communication
4. Yep you guessed right, communication.
5. Same as above...ati bee be lo...

bummyla:
Well Said! Thanks A Lot! http://www.bummyla.com

You welcome.

(11) most newly married couples still carry on their social media accounts as if they are still single in WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter and even on NL.

Having your Facebook relationship status updated isn't enough.

Adding a "Mrs" to your NL moniker won't do.

All social media "toasters" and "flirters" in your lists will have to give way for the new king or queen .

If your work isn't online related, then time on social media has to be greatly reduced. Nothing is as disheartening and more selfish than a spouse who is often locked away - head down, fingers curled in the demands of social media- in the all consuming nature of Internet socialising.

Following...

Opinedecandid:
And the eleventh is:

ABSENCE OF GOD IN THE MARRIAGE

And maybe, this should be number one.

Again, even if other opposites to the op's ten are absent, provided this one is present, the marriage is a huge success.
For except
'The Lord builds a house,
they labour in vain that build it'

I'm talking from the standpoint of encounter and experience.
I have been married for five years now.
That qualifies me to have at least a FSLC in Marriage.

What does FSLC mean

Nice write up