This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today.

If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so.

Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves.

Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.

Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream!

What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small.

The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".

Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands.

If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is.

A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage.

Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.

Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.

Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need to become complete and fulfilled.

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Interesting....Even men of nowadays will tell you they are not ready to get married till they have 100m...

Truth is u need money to raise a family, we all have to be realistic.

keep the thoughts locked down

Give me a break!

Great write up

Our gals shuld cut their coat according 2 their size. Say one gal marry wan rich dude wey get everytin no mean e go hapn 4 every gal.
All fingers r nt equal

You people keep saying Husbands are scarce yet some people are getting marriage proposals from 2 husband materials at the same time.

ladyF:
Interesting....Even men of nowadays will tell you they are not ready to get married till they have 100m...

Truth is u need money to raise a family, we all have to be realistic.

It's Lady F again

Nicely said Op
....they add God fearing not to look wordly. ...

Husband materials still dey sha and wife materials self. Contact God for 100 yards or more

firstEVA:
You people keep saying Husbands are scarce yet some people are getting marriage proposals from 2 husband materials at the same time.

You got 2 marriage proposals from 2 husband materials?

ArchEnemy:
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It's Lady F again

Nicely said Op
....they add God fearing not to look wordly. ...

lol abegi all of us are guilty of that, if you don't add God fearing, you will seem like you're all about the looks and material benefits

op stop saying what u dont knw!!husband material full nl how many yard u want?

ladyF:

You got 2 marriage proposals from 2 husband materials?

it's ladyF again nice to meet you

Who say husband scarce,with the number of guys roaming the street? Ladies just pick one and make him a husband na....btw, people are getting married every saturday

firstEVA:
it's ladyF again nice to meet you

lol nice to meet u too

misspicy:
Who say husband scarce,with the number of guys roaming the street? Ladies just pick one and make him a husband na....btw, people are getting married every saturday

@with the number of guys roaming the street

K

firstEVA:
You people keep saying Husbands are scarce yet some people are getting marriage proposals from 2 husband materials at the same time.

Yes now
In fact when I see some ladies am not suprised they are taken
...some are 'too good' to still remain on the shelf

prettythicksme:
op stop saying what u dont knw!!husband material full nl how many yard u want?

Haaaaha
That is good
What about wife material?

ladyF:

lol nice to meet u too

the pleasure is mine

ArchEnemy:

Haaaaha
That is good
What about wife material?

We r not ready for marriage!!so wife material no dey

When you become ready are you sure it won't be kid guys that will be left on nl then?

prettythicksme:
We r not ready for marriage!!so wife material no dey

I believe it depends on the mindset and there is nothing wrong in having a dream. I will always say this, Every dream will be tested. You want man who looks like C.ronaldo and earns like Lionel Messi, there is nothing wrong with that but you are really gonna wait and search for a very long time and might end up not finding one... As an entrepreneur, I have learnt that, sometimes u need to have a dream that can be achieved.
Ladies, when searching for man, don't really wealth/riches first, God-fearing, intelligence, hardworking should come before that.

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@OP: Nice write up. If only they would listen.
Anyway, let them keep buying aso-ebi for their friends weddings & lamenting that husbands are scarce...

ArchEnemy:

When you become ready are you sure it won't be kid guys that will be left on nl then?

hehehehehehehehe we go b there sugar mummy

prettythicksme:
hehehehehehehehe we go b there sugar mummy

Issokay o