Obaf16:
Lol

Gaborone:


SonofEl, your last post was a good read.

But then, I'm worried by your use of words: "put her in her place.. ", " humbled her"... what's all that about? And it raises a welter of questions.

Are you sure that's not the 'breaking' I was talking about earlier? Why can't a man meet a rich intelligent woman, and just flow with her, and not make any attempts to make her feel like her wealth and intelligence is something she should be apologizing for? Why cant he just hear the opposing view of his medical student of a girlfriend, without interpreting it to mean she is trying to supersede him because he read food and nutrition? W hy cant he just enjoy an intelligent discuss with her, without interpreting it to mean she is 'showing herself'. Why can't her just befriend and love her, give her a chance to let him know who she really is, before judging her as proud and insubordinate?

Why does he have to 'humble' her? What does that even mean?

Gaborone:



your intelligent contributions are overwhelmingly laudable...however you come off as an advow feminist..just my observations

I tell you, it's just a situation that I can't understand. Same people open threads about 'hungry' girls. Same people mock girls who can't take themselves out, and call the Kim kadarshian loving ladies bimbos.
Same people burst their veins when they see the rich getting married to the rich. Yet, the same set of people use blanket vituperative terms on intellectually sound ladies who have got something going in their lives.

I feel sorry any woman who marries such men. She will be made to lick the dust to remind him of his headship.

toksbisola:
@Op; it takes a strong man to marry a woman richer and more educated then him.

On the other hand, it takes a humble and virtuous woman with good character to not lord it over her man if she is richer and more educated than him.

Some women have this instinct in them to belittle a man who is not at par with them be it with education/riches. A woman would need to train her instincts to remember that even though she is richer and more educated than her man; he’s still the head of the home and should be respected as such accordingly.

Men are advised to watch their lady closely in the area of her trying to correct your every wrong due to her being more educated and richer. If that occurs, then that man should know that problems would arise if that misconception is not addressed immediately.

Just as unemployed women marry employed men; why can’t the same be for an unemployed man marrying an employed lady? It’s not as if the man would remain unemployed in the long-run through the marriage. With her help and encouragement, he can get a job/business later on.

Loyalty to ones mate comes from within and not related to whether the person is educated, rich or unemployed as the case me be.

In all, marriage should be to a partner who you can have/build a happy home with; irrespective of whether they are richer, more educated or unemployed.

I rest my case

Blossom023:
A jobless man should not get married. And if it's during the marriage, why won't you wish your wife well? Anyways some men feel insecure sha

ireneidiva:

Are they complaining to you? Pray tell me, how will he feed his family? By begging? Pls he should get any little thing to do before thinking of marriage.

kosplateau:
so only men take care of family now on..no equality?

kosplateau:

Should a jobless woman get married?

kosplateau:

Should a jobless woman get married?

SonOfEl:
yes I can, both don't expect her not to use it against you at some point, because that's a woman for you. mind you what makes you a man is much deeper than more money and a bigger career. you wise judgements in crucial issues makes her trust you and obey you, because she will respect your views. two, if you are a romantic lover and fantastic in BEDmatics, she will call you lord, trust me.... three, once you are not the nosy and possessive type, it makes her free and herself with you..... there are many more deep things that tames any amazon queen or lioness as so called.

Kimoni:


D you guys ehnn the other day, someone said "emulate kor, simulate ni"

Wonder where you guys learn this from. Meanwhile, be nice to a lady

oreos:


How can a woman with PhD go out with a guy like you? No wonder she won't stop taking about her PhD.

‘She has seen you finished'

darediamond:
Why brag with a non-transferable property in the first place? What is the course for Family affair in any higher institution in the world? Family 10-0-1? Intelligent ladies don't brag. But as for me that kind of a lady is tool for someone like me. Am gonna be treating her like an Aboki walahi and she will keep doing what I want. See the driving hormone in women largely differs to ours. But a man that can use that to his advantage over any type of woman is the REAL MAN.

darediamond:
oMO OYINBO PO GAN NI nAIRALAND OO!! Don't try my people oo. Abi ogbo nka ni? "emulate kor, simulate ni" Mo gboebo!

agarawu23:
good question.
She jam her luck under my roof so therefore the money will be 70/30 70 for me 30 for her. After all I am still the head of the family and the family responsibility is still on me if you marry your 'own' wife, she can even put the money under your care as the head

donttouch:


We Don hear!
Grow cup first, and then marry

oreos:


She is not bragging. She is simply being herself, pointing out the obvious.

There is no such thing as a real man. A man is a man when he is considerate, goal oriented, firm, a great listener etc. Men like you are weak. You are not born with it. It is innate. You lack it. If you have to think of behaving in certain way especially a way that demeans another human to gain respect, you are no man. You are a weakling. You are no different from the bullies you encountered on the school playground. You are insecure.

darediamond:
Which "Obvious" in the face of one Step to Matrimony? So her phd will make a stable home for her? Or is that a surety to ultimate financial security at all? Okay what does she want the guy to make out of her unwisely reminding him she as bagged "phd"?

She is not reminding him

The knowledge you gain becomes a part of who you are. That knowledge is a part of who she is. . What would you have her do? Behave like someone else to please your ego or what?

You should worry less about a woman with more money or a PhD, you need to fix your esteem issues first.