Have you ever been with someone who makes you smile, who makes sure there are five good days to every bad one, has a heart of gold, and annoyingly enough, your family loves him more than they love you? Your friends do too. Everything is perfect, the drinks are entertaining, the movies full of witty comments from the sides, no ex-shaped ghosts hidden away in the inbox, someone sensible and present when you need them - except that there is just one small problem. There's no attraction whatsoever - no biting of the lips, no passionate stolen kisses and your WhatsApp is full of awfully pathetic replies to sexts.
And that's when you're truly, beyond a shadow of a doubt, f****d. What happens then?

1. You'll walk over hot coals to make sure you're never alone with them. Your friends joke you're in a party. You are...but not the good kind.


They are so perfect that you automatically become more careful while talking to them. You think twice before cracking a joke, telling them about your bitchy cousin or the copy cat friend. You think they’ll judge you so you refrain from opening up to them. They express themselves, they talk to you and they tell you that they love you. But something doesn't feel right.
2. You are no longer sure of yourself. Because the other person is perfect, it has to be you there's something wrong with.


It’s normal to feel like that because you are not the ultimate girlfriend or boyfriend. And it’s okay, because people are hardly perfect. However, being with them reminds you of your imperfections time and again and there's nothing you can do about it.
3. You get increasingly annoyed with them. One snap every 15 mins.


They were good at school, college and their job. They are good with parents and kids. They are proficient at everything. What the hell? Yet, you are not attracted to them and definitely don’t see a future with them.
4. You have to push yourself into making a plan, every time.


It's an actual effort. Forget about the days you feel frustrated. You have to keep those days under check. They are so nice that if you scream at them, they'll probably understand and it will make you feel only worse. The perfect guy makes you feel guilty in no time. That's the biggest trouble of being with him.
5. Everyone tells you you're an idiot. Especially, your parents and your elder sisters. At least one person will tell you 'Attraction isn't everything, being taken care of is'.


They keep asking you what else you want. And you have nothing to say to them because you don't know yourself. The reality is the perfect person you are NOT in love with.
6. Each day you spend with them is progressively more depressing.


Everyone around you adores them. You fail to understand how everyone in the world is fond of this person. How can nobody dislike them? It's unfair.
It is.
7. Depression leads to more fights. And you're obviously the bitch, because the other person is - PERFECT.


You keep looking for reasons to fight. And your significant other manages to skip all the quarrels. He won't yell, he won't disrespect you and he will not fight. It leaves you in an awkward spot every time and that guilt starts messing with your head again.
8. When you call it off, you have at least one friend who has the hots for them and thinks you are idiotic but kind.


You've also realised how much your friends care for your mental well-being.
9. When you meet the next toxic person you are attracted to, you keep thinking about the perfect person you messed up with. Over attraction.


Were you wrong or were you right? You'll never know.
Maybe somewhere, while growing up, we accepted that there were no perfect people. They were only in books, movies or fairy tales. Dating them might have been a struggle, but not everyone gets to be with someone who is perfect and accepting of imperfection. Being with them or not being with them is your decision, but think about what you might lose.

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lalasticlala ishilove

Very good write up, but summarize. Makes a lot of sense though.

Who will summarize it for me now

This was needed. I know someone in that situation.