angelofurlife:
ok, so you leave and what happens, you meet another man and what happens if he cheats? There is a very big possibility that he might cheat and then you leave again because the trust has been broken?

Yes.

PunkyVeer:


Yes.

ok

Jollyjoy:
It depends on what you mean by ''cheating'' becos on my own part i think cheating encompasses more than just sleeping with another partner.....

It has to do with giving all the attention,love,care you ought to give to your partner to someone else....
I seriously dnt think i will end my affair with a guy becos i caught him sleeping with another lady, who knws?the paul i will be running to might be worse,..so? On such cases just get naturally angry if he really cherish me he will apologise and turn a new leaf but if no change is eminent...hmmmm i will slowly genoflect and take my leave, life is too short....

thank you

Sorry I am late! I was uhmm (never mind).

Cheating! If my man cheat and what would be my reactions? Hmmm. There are many layers of cheating and I don't condone it all.

I think people used cheating to mask pain and frustration. I have heard men say things like weight gains, lack of sex, changes in her appearance, and infidelity. I have hear women say things like lack of attention, affection, communication, no spark, and infidelity.

None of the reasons listed are good reasons to cheat. If you are unhappy LEAVE PERIOD. The relationship is broken and if you could fix it....you wouldn't be cheating!

Most of the times, the other person do not know the truth and shouldn't be attacked. You can tell them the facts and it is up to them to believe it or not. Once the information is known and the other person still stay then it becomes an issue.

Some people purposely go after attached couples because of jealousy, anger, pain, and malice. I tell women, If a man would cheat on his woman with you, he WILL cheat on you with another woman.

What would I do? Leave because if he is cheating the marriage is broken and if it could be fixed he wouldn't be cheating.

Behira:
Lol a guy cant break my heart except it is a she

Now i get u...u a re les-bian

Behira:
Dia is no wia it is written dat Marriage is a gateway to makin heaven.....and moreover dia are lots of marriages dis days dat dont need men. Men are just headaches. To live longer they are beta friendzoned

oh my my, I wonder what and how bad the thing the guy did to you that left this bitterness, repulsion and Mark In you. He must have been a fkin assholee, your type are so loving and gives your all when in love. damn was he a Nigga or white boy?

INTROVERT:
I don't do boyfriend's but if my hubby cheats on me (which I hope and pray he wont) the best form of retaliation is to hand him over to God. Running your own side show achieves nothing and you expose yourself to all sort of unforseen circumstances. The emotional intelligence to handle a cheating husband is difficult and I don't think I am qualified to try and explain it.

Boyfriends.

MzzTega:
Bf has not cheated, Insha Allah he wont.

Neither would hubby.

I just can't fathom the best way to deal with a cheating partner. All you can do is PRAY.

And its also possible that whosoever is a victim of a cheating partner might be suffering from what he/she might have sown in the past.

and how will you knw he cheated?

misspicy:
[b]In an article edited by the APA (American
Psychological Association):

The 21st century
woman is more aggressive and assertive than
the 70's or 80's woman - i.e the Ladies of our
Generation are not docile like our parents time
and they take no nonsense from men or even
women of their peers.

That being said, my question remains, is it okay for a woman to retaliate or step out on
her boyfriend or husband if he is unfaithful?


In most cases in Nigeria,
men are most likely to cheat, flirt and have 2 or more side chicks. This puts a lot of strain
and emotional/cognitive weight on the woman
in this situation who most times have
dedicated their time and efforts to make the
relationship work and they keep seeing signs of
their boyfriend or husband's infidelity.
Different women have different coping
mechanisms to help them through the
situation
1) some women go on a eating spree,
some confront the sidec-chick

2)some burn or
trash her boyfriend's clothes or Cars

3)others decide to step out on their man as well
as have their own affair.

In my opinion, if you love your man, this is
not the best approach or solution to the
problem because it is not going to stop the
unfaithful man but compound issues. Let's also
note that there is double standard in cheating
which makes it a "swag" or "ego boaster" for
men who cheat and "taboo" or "slut effect" for
women who cheat. Society has classified
women who cheat as "Bad Eggs" no matter the
circumstance. The best and Universal approach
is to access and do a damage control in your
relationship and if it's not worth it, leave the
relationship. Not all men are cheats.[/b]


-Article written by a psychologist

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So ladies, how do you react when you find
your boyfriend or man cheating on you? Do
you keep letting it slide or you retaliate?
What's your own coping mechanism

Note: ur responses will go a long way in helping women whose marriages and relationship is on the venge of collapse




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plz i dnt undrstnd y my name z here.....
My contribution z;if u rilly luv a man,u shuld alwyz b redy 2tolerate anytin dat cmez out of d relatnship.Relatnship z all abt "ENDURANCE".....If u rilly luv him,alwyz mke him one of ur prayer points.

No comment.

Adaeze003:


period.

I can't say what I'll do in a marriage coz I ain't married and that's slightly different ie more responsibility.

But rest assured, I'm not afraid to be alone so I will not be as tolerant as the next person if at all.

But bf? Lol... just lol. plenty fish in the sea.

Yeah, the trust just gets ruined. TBH, I tried staying in a relationship like that. In this case I was the side chic It only lasted for about 2 weeks after I found. I just couldn't stay with him. I felt disgust, deceit & it was just too much to handle. Even in a marriage I think I'd walk because something inside me refuses to be with someone I can't trust. Because I'd always be suspicious of him & that's not fun.

PunkyVeer:


Yeah, the trust just gets ruined. TBH, I tried staying in a relationship like that. In this case I was the side chic It only lasted for about 2 weeks after I found. I just couldn't stay with him. I felt disgust, deceit & it was just too much to handle. Even in a marriage I think I'd walk because something inside me refuses to be with someone I can't trust. Because I'd always be suspicious of him & that's not fun.

To think I pulled down that post ... felt like my opinion should stay with me for some reason. lol.

It not only breaks the trust, it's very disrespectful and shameful. Yes, I take it that seriously.

Like you're gonna sleep with someone else and come lay on the same bed with me? Cuddle me? And claim you still love me? And expect me to "persevere" and "pray" for you?

To hell with you nigga... i'd rather be alone and know I have no1 than stick around to earn a disease.

The only problem I think will be the kids.

Easier said I guess? All in all, I hope for a good man.

Adaeze003:


To think I pulled down that post ... felt like my opinion should stay with me for some reason. lol.

It not only breaks the trust, it's very disrespectful and shameful. Yes, I take it that seriously.

Like you're gonna sleep with someone else and come lay on the same bed with me? Cuddle me? And claim you still love me? And expect me to "persevere" and "pray" for you?

To hell with you nigga... i'd rather be alone and know I have no1 than stick around to earn a disease.

The only problem I think will be the kids.

Easier said I guess? All in all, I hope for a good man.

You pretty much said my mind. Lol @ the pray for me part. That always cracks me up when hypocrites hide behind God & when people expect prayer to solve problems that require common sense. I once told someone here that if I was God, I'd block some people's prayers for real. If he's a cheater then what do you want God to do about it? As far as I'm concerned, there are signs that show that maybe someone isn't the one. The level of disrespect & pretense that comes with cheating is enough to convince me that someone might not be the right person after all. In that case, call in the stand-ins! Next!

Oh & you'll find a good man, dearie. He's out there searching for you too

if i cheat on my wife or gf and she chooses to retaliate by doing so, well.... #OYO is her case.

Behira:
Lol a guy cant break my heart except it is a she

@behira..its sad that a cute girl like u is wasting with a fellow female,mehnn you must have really loved the guy that hurt you enough to turn u a lesbian, well I hope you know females break hearts too?so ur not safe either with you fellow girl,had a few lesbian friends when in school and their heartbreaks where the worse..anyway I wish u luck but personally I think you can do better,the guy that broke your heart is there living his life happily while you are letting him affect your life so much so that you changed your sexuality..hmmm its rather sad than strong..

Just walk out of the relationship.

torqque7:

@behira..its sad that a cute girl like u is wasting with a fellow female,mehnn you must have really loved the guy that hurt you enough to turn u a lesbian, well I hope you know females break hearts too?so ur not safe either with you fellow girl,had a few lesbian friends when in school and their heartbreaks where the worse..anyway I wish u luck but personally I think you can do better,the guy that broke your heart is there living his life happily while you are letting him affect your life so much so that you changed your sexuality..hmmm its rather sad than strong..

Really wish i understood all u wrote but all d same. Wonderful article.....cool

chudidonas:


Just friends?? Even your husband?

Na so the thing weak me too ooo

The second question the OP left out is:
How do a guy retaliate when his girlfriend or wife cheats on him.

It's obvious she will definitely cheat on him because she knows they usually covers their tracks 150% better than guys and for a guy checking or trying to check, the next question from a girl will be, GUESS HE DOESN'T HAVE A WORK OR WANTS TO DIE B4 HIS TIME.
When he finally knows maybe after 20 or 30 years into the marriage.
- In a situation like that, did he harm the girl or destroys the her car ( because she's got nothing) and she succeeded in wasting the guy's TIME.
It's obvious girls or wives cheats more than their bf or husband codedly and can only be spotted when the guy starts thinking and suspecting like the girls.

What do you have to say about those girls and what do you think the guy's should do to those girls.
Every lady have greater tendency to cheat more than a the guy's codedly