I need advice
My husband of 7 years cheats without any resspect for me . He sleeps outside almost every night. N yet prays and call God the loudest. What can i do

Report to ur pastor or priest...

Why are you still with him?

Cutehector:
Report to ur pastor or priest...

Done that he does mot care

[quote author=PunkyVeer post=37988869]Why are you still with him? [/quote
We have three kids
What am i to do pick them up and leave

there is nothing u can do, just pray to GOD

PunkyVeer:
Why are you still with him?

what kind of heartless question is this?

Milla247:

Done that he does mot care

mehn dats so bad... Its so so pathetic.. Wat abt d kids?

Milla247:
I need advice
My husband of 7 years cheats without any resspect for me . He sleeps outside almost every night. N yet prays and call God the loudest. What can i do

https://www.nairaland.com/2354889/please-save-me-myself-husband/11#34398233

My advice, follow his footsteps and even outdo and outpray him

[quote author=Milla247 post=37989036][/quote]

Erm, yes, unless of course you enjoy being disrespected & disregarded.

softapples:
what kind of heartless question is this?

It's self-explanatory.

PunkyVeer:


It's self-explanatory.

ure telling her to leave her marraige. "dats not good a good advice

Milla247:
I need advice
My husband of 7 years cheats without any resspect for me . He sleeps outside almost every night. N yet prays and call God the loudest. What can i do

I dey come

softapples:
ure telling her to leave her marraige. "dats not good a good advice

It's no longer a marriage when one partner disregards his vows & everything marriage stands for. One of the vows is- forsaken all others. Now tell me, would you advise your own sister to stay in such a sham of a marriage?

Pray about it and stop worrying ursef,only God can stop him....make sure u protect ursef against stds....female condom is adviseable

PunkyVeer:


It's no longer a marriage when one partner disregards his vows & everything marriage stands for. One of the vows is- forsaken all others. Now tell me, would you advise your own sister to stay in such a sham of a marriage?

YES I WILL ADVICE MY SISTER to stay in the marriage, no man is a saint, everyone makes mistakes, u dnt leave ur marriage bcaus ur partner cheats on you, its ur job to know why he cheated, what happened? is it ur fault or not, and report him to someone he respects and listens to and above all pray to GOD. "moreover u have kids together.

softapples:
YES I WILL ADVICE MY SISTER to stay in the marriage, no man is a saint, everyone makes mistakes, u dnt leave ur marriage bcaus ur partner cheats on you, its in job to know why he cheated, what happened? is it ur fault or not, and seek report him to someone he respects and listens to and above all pray to GOD. "moreover u have kids together.

Well, I don't subscribe to that school of thoughts, fortunately. Lol @ know why he cheated, what happened. It doesn't take rocket science to figure that one out. Marriage is a contract between two people, where each swears to abide by its laws, so when one is in breach, it's no longer valid imo. Kids or not, that's not the reason to stay in a situation you're disrespected in. A kid is better be from a broken home than be raised in one.

PunkyVeer:


Well, I don't subscribe to that school of thoughts, fortunately. Lol @ know why he cheated, what happened. It doesn't take rocket science to figure that one out. Marriage is a contract between two people, where each swears to abide by its laws, so when one is in breach, it's no longer valid imo. Kids or not, that's not the reason to stay in a situation you're disrespected in. A kid is better be from a broken home than be raised in one.

Maybe i have been forgiving him easily
Cos he acts so
Is not what i did or not do
Even if we finish having sex
He can stand up go to club n Bleep another person
I tink am losing my mind
Which horrible mistake did i make
I look at my kids n i weep
He would beg postrate m all n i would forgive next min he off for days wit diff girls
Yet condems people n calls God loudest
I wonder y God is blind to all this

Milla247:

Maybe i have been forgiving him easily
Cos he acts so
Is not what i did or not do
Even if we finish having sex
He can stand up go to club n Bleep another person
I tink am losing my mind
Which horrible mistake did i make
I look at my kids n i weep
He would beg postrate m all n i would forgive next min he off for days wit diff girls
Yet condems people n calls God loudest
I wonder y God is blind to all this

I feel for you my sister. But maybe it's time to put your thinking cap & big girl panties on & think about how of this you're willing to take. Your happiness as an individual is important too. Never forget that.

Hmmm. How do we correct a man who does all that and acts so religious? He won't listen to just anybody. Sister, if he's parents are still alive please involve them.

PunkyVeer:


I feel for you my sister. But maybe it's time to put your thinking cap & big girl panties on & think about how of this you're willing to take. Your happiness as an individual is important too. Never forget that.

Decided to turn a blind eye till this year end
At least mayb i could figure tins out
Ve left him to his God
Even if i relocate abroad
Three kids no joke
Pls i need advice

AfroKnight:
Hmmm. How do we correct a man who does all that and acts so religious? He won't listen to just anybody. Sister, if he's parents are still alive please involve them.

He does not listen to any of them
On our annivary last year he was in a hotel bleeping someelse
Am i crazy or is this shit normal
U need to see where his begging. Omg

Milla247:

He does not listen to any of them
On our annivary last year he was in a hotel bleeping someelse
Am i crazy or is this shit normal
U need to see where his begging. Omg

If he won't listen to his parents then I think you should leave him before he infects you with STI (God forbid). His behaviour is risky and sex is always safe. Talk to your lawyer. He won't stop cos he enjoys it and believes you would always accept his apology. Protect yourself sis.

Milla247:

Decided to turn a blind eye till this year end
At least mayb i could figure tins out
Ve left him to his God
Even if i relocate abroad
Three kids no joke
Pls i need advice

Sigh. In my language we say, an elephant's trunk is never too heavy for the elephant to carry, so I'm sure you'll manage somehow. There's light at the end of the tunnel. You're not the 1st to go through something like this & you sure aren't the last. You just have to know your worth as a person & teach people how to treat you by not letting them walk all over you like a doormat.

Have you tried going for counselling?
Truth is this is not normal. He does this and prays to God (for forgiveness I guess). It's a weakness on his part and you would have to help him overcome it.

qwerty123qwerty:
Have you tried going for counselling?
Truth is this is not normal. He does this and prays to God (for forgiveness I guess). It's a weakness on his part and you would have to help him overcome it.

Help him how
Lol. When i talk it would b am nagging so i shut..so i dont talk and his amaZed how come...
This somebody who had nothing and we built it up... The betrayal is deep.

Milla247:

Help him how
Lol. When i talk it would b am nagging so i shut..so i dont talk and his amaZed how come...
This somebody who had nothing and we built it up... The betrayal is deep.

You did not answer my first question. Have you guys tried marriage counselling? Get an expert to help. I think he's struggling with the addiction. As his wife, I think you are in the best position to help him (or help him get help).

Whats his aim of calling God, to look like a good faultless holy man or is it a habit

Anyway, call him to order, confront him about the cheating issue, that's if you are very sure he is. If no changes, you may have to involve his family.

Still, if he doesn't change, the final decision to continue with him or not is in ur hands

qwerty123qwerty:

You did not answer my first question. Have you guys tried marriage counselling? Get an expert to help. I think he's struggling with the addiction. As his wife, I think you are in the best position to help him (or help him get help).

Yes we have done
Even gone for mfm deliverance. Well he went only one day
The one we went for the pastor was saying not taking it seriously
Am tired of thinking its my fault

Milla247:

Yes we have done
Even gone for mfm deliverance. Well he went only one day
The one we went for the pastor was saying not taking it seriously
Am tired of thinking its my fault

Its not your fault jare. He is doing what he likes doing. The only thing i see is that you sef need deliverance to live an enjoyable life.

Hmm

he doesn't respect u? he brings babes home?