As I’ve interacted with thousands of
married couples in person and online,
I’ve noticed some bad habits many
husbands are doing to sabotage their
marriages. There are obviously many
unhealthy behaviors many wives are
doing too, but I’m going to focus this
particular post on some of the most
common and destructive habits of
married men. This is NOT intended to
bash my bros out there. I struggle with
things on this list too. This is intended to
be a call to action for all of us to step and
make some radical readjustments for the
sake of our marriages and families.
This is not a comprehensive list, but these
are some of the most common bad habits
of many married men. If these are a
factor in your marriage, please take
immediate action to correct these issues.

1. Getting more excited about Fantasy
Football than you get about your wife and
kids.
As I’m writing this, it’s football season and
I’m a fan, but I’m blown away at the
amount of time, effort, energy, money and
enthusiasm so many guys invest into
Fantasy Football. Guys, “Fantasy” in the
name, so it’s not even real. It’s okay to be
fans, but let’s not live vicariously through
pro athletes all football season long at the
expense of our loved ones. Let’s be more
excited about our real lives than our
Fantasy stats.
2. Looking at porn.
This one is going to step on a lot of toes,
because millions of people (a majority of
them men) look at porn regularly and see
nothing at all wrong with itbut in a nutshell,
porn desensitizes us from real intimacy.
It’s a form of virtual infidelity, and it’s a
“gateway drug” towards other marriage-
destroying behaviors. Marriage requires
monogamy, and monogamy should be
mental as well as physical. Instead of
living in the fantasy world of porn, work
to build stronger sexual intimacy in your
own marriage.
3. Zoning out when your wife is talking to
you.
Men and women process communication
in different ways, but both spouses need
to make conscious efforts to connect with
the other. Men, we can have a tendency to
“zone out” during conversations, but our
wives need and deserve our full,
undivided attention. Let’s not approach
conversations like zombies on autopilot.
Let’s be fully present. Remember, your
wife’s need for meaningful communication
is every bit as strong as your need for sex.
That should put it into perspective.
4. Getting mad at your kids for stuff you do
too. Though we have no kids for now, but from my experience with other couples with kids, I can give out this advice,
I catch myself in this one all the time. We
can easily get into the “Do as I say”
instead of “Do as I do” mentality, but our
kids need our example much more than
our instruction. We can’t tell them not to
cuss when we’re cussing in front of them.
We can’t tell them to control their temper
when we venting our anger all the time.
We’ve got to practice what we preach if
we’re going to have any longterm
credibility.
5. Checking out other women.
This one has a lot of similarities with #2
(looking at porn), but it creates some
separate issues as well. When we check
out other women in public, we’re publicly
disrespecting our wives and publicly
objectifying other women all at once.
Watch where your eyes go. Don’t swing
your head around at every woman
wearing yoga pants. Have more respect
for your wife.
6. Not wearing a wedding ring.
This one is controversial, but I’m a big
believer in wearing a wedding ring. I talk
about this in more detail in my post on 3
Reasons to Wear Your Wedding Ring .
Whether or not your wear a ring is one of
the first things women will notice about
you and they will make assumptions
about your “availability” and even your
commitment to your marriage based on
the presence or absence of a ring. Wear it
as often as you can.
7. Giving your career and hobbies your best
and giving your wife your leftovers.
We’ve all been guilty (at times) of giving
our best efforts to other people and
pursuits and then giving our leftovers to
the ones who should matter most. Let’s
make every effort to give our very best
energies to our families.8. Staring at your phone more than you
make eye contact with your family.
I don’t want my kids’ primary memories
of me to be the top of my head while I
stared at my phone or laptop. This is a
struggle for many men (including me),
because we feel the pressure to be
constantly connected to the world, and
sometimes, it even feels like a necessity in
working to provide for our families. Still,
we need to create clear boundaries to
have the electronics shut off as often as
possible so we can be fully present and
engaged at home.
9. Expecting your wife to do everything
around the house.
Stats show that even in homes where both
the husband and wife work full-time
outside the home, the wife is still doing
the vast majority of domestic duties
around the house. Guys, we need to step
up here (I’m talking to myself too). Your
wife is not your maid. Give her the
respect and support she deserves by
helping around the house (and in all other
areas too).
Men, whether or not these particular
issues apply to you, let’s resolve together
to be the husbands and fathers our
families deserve. Let’s love, protect,
provide and serve them to the best of our
abilities. Let’s make sure our actions and
our words communicate our undying love
and commitments . They need and deserve
our very best!
May God bless you as you try to eulogise this in your marriage.
Success Ahead.

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Pls wear ur rings, let us know those that are taken

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