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StPete:
If you do not love him now or have at least an iota of feeling for him, do not venture into marriage!

If you delve into marriage cos of pressures from folks, when the chips are down and he looses all the other qualities he has like good job and the likes, will u still be by his side?

Find a guy u at least have feelings for cos the same people who are pressuring you to marry the guy will be the same people who will say you married for money and are a gold digger. Mi 2 cents

This comment is so sensible, No body not even my parents can pressure me to marry who I don't at least like, because at the end of the day it is only you and him,just cos he's nice now doesn't mean he's not deceiving you. You can grow to love someone only when you at least have feelings for a guy.

@op just forget about his good job or so called "good qualities" people pretend before marriage,just imagine he doesn't have a good job would you still come here on nairaland to ask advice, I am young and don't know much about marriage but I have seen examples

Op don't marry him oo,once u enter u can't come out again...Y not court him for sometime

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This comment is so sensible, No body not even my parents can pressure me to marry who I don't at least like, because at the end of the day it is only you and him,just cos he's nice now doesn't mean he's not deceiving you. You can grow to love someone only when you at least have feelings for a guy.

Thanks and yours made a lot of sense too

darnley16:
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StPete:

Thanks and yours made a lot of sense too

StPete:

Thanks and yours made a lot of sense too

lurlah2014:
There's this fellow that wants to marry me but I am not in love with him, I do not even find him attractive but he's a catch, asin he has a good job, he's well behaved and he really loves me. My family and friends say I should accept his proposal, that love will come later. If I don't feel anything special for him now, will it come after I marry him? I don't want to be in loveless marriage so I am wary of entering this union. Please advice

then go and marry the one you love,or is a big deal?...all those old single thirty something ladies were once in your shoe.

KashyBaby:
Yeaaah it's always a great feeling when both of have the same feelings, in love to each other..but if ur still young like if ur in ur early 20s , girl enjoy ur life first
I always believe, marriage is not for everyone...

yeah marriage is not for every one,no sane man will keep a b!tch as a wife.

olakumby:
apart from not finding him attractive, is there any other reason u wouldnt marry him? if not, lf he truly loves you..open ur heart to him. Girls..change ur mindset,learn to love what is right instead of trying to fix what is wrong. there's no perfect man.

husband is scarce,the man will be doing her a great favor marrying her but she is still forming...she just want to increase the numbers of un married old ladies.

prettysassygirl:

What if he loses his job,or what if his character inside is a different thing, girl wait for your man,sometimes we think what we have in the present is usually the best,not knowing our future is even more blissful

blissful indeed and so many ladies don old for their papa house,I'm sure they are still waiting for the "blissful" future.

prettysassygirl:

What if he loses his job,or what if his character inside is a different thing, girl wait for your man,sometimes we think what we have in the present is usually the best,not knowing our future is even more blissful

blissful indeed and so many ladies don old for their papa house,I'm sure they are still waiting for the "blissful" future....Uwaafid.

KashyBaby:
Yeaaah it's always a great feeling when both of have the same feelings, in love to each other..but if ur still young like if ur in ur early 20s , girl enjoy ur life first
I always believe, marriage is not for everyone...

bad advice. u want her to join the 30+ women rushing to mfm every weekend seeking husband.

it is men that have that luxury of postponing marriage.

PunkyVeer:
What's important is, does he have all the qualities you're looking for in a man? And by that I don't mean 6 packs & all the other superficial stuff, but the core of what makes him an individual. If those parallel with what you're searching for, then I say give him a try & you might actually end up liking him. Maybe go out on a few dates with him 1st, just to get used to you guys as a couple. IMPO, the longevity of a relationship/marriage is not all down to attraction but compatibility in other areas as well. You're not going to spend most of your married life moaning in bed, so you better choose somebody you can actually stand. Husband material doesn't always come in our favourite print/fabric Think wisely.

He doesnt have any quality! he only has good job and lot of cash