Toks2008:


You are drifting the topic though but the embolden is well articulated and i agree with you.

What im just trying to explain is that no woman should date a man because she hopes that the guy will make it in future..infact that is a criminal act

Many Naija babes have this criminal and potentially dumb and parasitic mindset that they are with a struggling guy in order to be a good beneficiary of his speculated future wealthy status.

What if he never makes it? what happened to loving a man for who he is and not who he may become?
I think there is something fundamentally wrong with the mindset of many Nigerian ladies and until they change this appalling mindset,they will never have value in the eyes of any man whether they struggled with him or met him as a wealthy man.

Rich guys go broke and broke guys hit it big and that is just life for you so every reasonable and focused lady should never ever stay with a struggling guy because she hopes he makes it one day.Its one thing to expect progress for your man and another to patch up with a man with a dominant hope that he makes it and then spends on you. huuh!

judedwriter:
Ladies, for every ready made man you see, there is a story-story-story that wil amaze u! This is why most of these rich guys don't waste time in using women who flock them like vultures like tissue paper! Its so unfortunate, and it breaks my heart that many ladies are getting vitimized daily by these dudes. D truth is everytin in life involves risk! It is a risk for a lady to wait for a strugglin fellow to make it but its way better than regretting marrying a billionaire!

Toks2008:


Did you ask them if they got married after they were earning 400k?

Please go back and ask them.

And you even have the propensity to increase the font as if it makes sense.

francababy:


lol. From your threads and posts, it shows you are obsessed with women. Unfortunately, these women have picked other men instead of you. Sorry. Get a job. Get a life. Don't expect to make a woman in your sorry state.

Luckygurl:

Lovebond34:
was actually enjoyin d write up..buh wen ah got to number 5...?? nd who says a guy wif a closer age gap cnt make u his wife?? nope ah dnt agree wif 5!

ronald4lif:
Nicely written. I agree with your post but I have a reservation with the number 2 point. Here's an excerpt from the said point;

"Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not face hardship? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling face."

Like I said while I agree with what you said I feel indifferent about the embolden. Quite true a rich fellow might face challenges and financial setbacks but the possibility of this happening is way less likely than a struggling fellow having a breakthrough to success. I keep hearing this saying all the time that what's the possibility a rich won't get broke? Yes true, but such occurrence is not as possible like that of a not-to-do well hitting landmines of riches. This saying is as if 'prospect' guarantees 'riches'.

Also, let's put ourselves in ladies shoes for a moment. Shall we? You have two guys who are showing interest in you and you have some form of attraction towards the both of them. One is rich and the other struggling but he's got prospect all the same. Who would you go for among the two? If your daughter or sister is saddled between these two choices of men who would you recommend for her?

Honest response with reasons please. And while at it be reminded that prospect doesn't always result to success. Not everyone with noticeable prospect becomes rich.

ksstroud:

Keep it up... I know you

daretodiffer:


A woman can decide to marry whoever makes her happy.

The problem I have with the OP is that he believes women should suck it up and men should treat women as fairly as possible.

He is a natural womanologist, maybe because he was a woman in his former life. Once you agree with him, in no time you should find a husband and stay married for the rest of your life.

His motto is 'Let's keep the status quo. You don't have to be a better man but you have to a better woman'.

misspicy:

Like seriously? If i didnt love him will i stay and struggle with him in d first place....
So it is okay for the guy to move on to another woman after he has finally made it because the one who struggled with him wants a pay check? Why did she struggle with him in d first place wen she had oda better off suitors,so it is okay she lose both ways

i keep saying,this is a risk i for one will not undertake,imagine if d guy i struggle with af dis kind of mindset

proserfina:
The problem is that we ladies at times tends to be myopic... As a woman, stupidity is when you sit back
cross-legged and search for an already made man. In
case you don't know, every already made man
out there has a woman who has been with him
from when he had only a pair of shorts and a
single shirt. That's why majority of well to do
men, usually make you nothing but a sex- toy,
for you mean absolutely nothing to them.
He might cheat on her with you, but truth is,
he'll never leave her for you… If you are guilty
of hunting for an already made man, then i tell
you, my dear you are such a cow, you actually
need horns. When a good healthy brain settles,
yours floats!
He may not own a car.
He may not earn a lot of money.
He may not live in a posh estate.
He may not be able to shower you with gifts all
the time.
He may not have a great job.
But it’s enough to know you are the only one he
craves for and loves unconditionally
As such we should learn to live with the hardworking man and pray that God will bless the work of his hands.

darlenese:
The Op has complex issues


Guy go hustle jor,

OK over to the guys...........
1. Can u marry a woman with flat chest?
2. Can u marry a woman with flat ass?
3. Can u marry a woman with V.mobile shape?

If. Ur answers to the above questions is no, then delete ur post!

goldendainty:

seaga:

Why do you get what is saying, he isn't saying anyone should dupe a lady after been successful, he is saying dating or loving someone should be unconditional. Be it rich or poor date unconditionally. Rich dumps poor dumps too vice versa. No favours

double0seven:
Op, what's up with the bad language

" A man who lives in face me i face you
screws you at will "

Can't you be decent in your speech? While you may be making some points, but your bad language shows you might just a a guy who is very angry due to some personal bad experience; or otherwise a kid who just knows how to make up theories.

first how do you know a man living in face me I face you screws a particular girl at will And if you do, what happens to phrases like "makes love" or "intimate with". By using words like "scre.w you", you implying the girls are some kind of prostitutes or worthless creatures. So why does the guy in question wish to marry them then?

Tell me, do you really need this part to be able to make your point? I strongly suspect you are someone that has little or no respect for women.


you may some points, but your very appalling language and angry tone makes nonsense of them all.

Elihu200:
dis came at dey right tym for me. tanks OP

Toks2008:


This mindset is even more demeaning for a lady to hinge her perseverance with a struggling man on leveraging on his possible success in life.

Is it that our ladies are so hopeless and parasitic that they believe loving a struggling guy is a favour that must be reciprocated.

Abeg if any girl is not willing to be with a man for the right reason then let her start scouting for a rich guy to purchase her. I totally support you on this, suffering with a girl should not be a kind of favour, you should be with him because you love him and expect nothing in return...#myOpinion

francababy:


lol. From your threads and posts, it shows you are obsessed with women. Unfortunately, these women have picked other men instead of you. Sorry. Get a job. Get a life. Don't expect to make a woman in your sorry state.

double0seven:
Op, what's up with the bad language

" A man who lives in face me i face you
screws you at will "

Can't you be decent in your speech? While you may be making some points, but your bad language shows you might just a a guy who is very angry due to some personal bad experience; or otherwise a kid who just knows how to make up theories.

first how do you know a man living in face me I face you screws a particular girl at will And if you do, what happens to phrases like "makes love" or "intimate with". By using words like "scre.w you", you implying the girls are some kind of prostitutes or worthless creatures. So why does the guy in question wish to marry them then?

Tell me, do you really need this part to be able to make your point? I strongly suspect you are someone that has little or no respect for women.


you may some points, but your very appalling language and angry tone makes nonsense of them all.

ksstroud:

Do not be taken aback