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I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Gabry(f): 6:48am On Apr 14, 2009 |
Question 1: What does it mean if a guy / girl goes and visit his / her gf's / bf's family members? Can it be treated as a friend just visiting and no other intention? is there such things? Question 2: What does it mean when a guy / girl goes to his / her gf's bf's family wedding (sister/brother/aunt/uncle wedding)? Question 3: What does it mean when a guy / girl always wants his / her gf / bf to talk to his / her parents and family members on the phone? What is on your mind when you do these three things to your partner? |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by biina: 7:09am On Apr 14, 2009 |
Q1. Depends on what expectations the parents/family of the host/hostess have, this will in turn depend on the information provided by the host/hostess. Q2. The seriousness depends on the family, but is often a sign of commitment to a long term relationship Q3. Pre-screening/Telephone interview . It could also just be an opportunity for the person at the other end of the line to attach a voice to the name e.g. 'so you are the . . . . . . . I have been hearing so much about' These are my humble opinions |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Gabry(f): 7:14am On Apr 14, 2009 |
Question Number 1. The presenter presents his/her partner to his/her family as a bf / gf |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by biina: 7:16am On Apr 14, 2009 |
gabrywyl:On site interview |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Hollysmile: 8:22am On Apr 14, 2009 |
@Gabby, de three questions, i think, revolves around both parties (b/f & g/f) try'na build a strong relationship by consciously bringing their family's attention to it. But Uhmm! About de third one, it's a kinda pre-screening like biina said! Holla! |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Gabry(f): 8:23am On Apr 14, 2009 |
Interview and pre screening for what exactly? |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by biina: 8:29am On Apr 14, 2009 |
gabrywyl:For a tenure track 'spousal office' |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Gabry(f): 8:36am On Apr 14, 2009 |
HUH? Really? Ok this is for the family's opinion right? But what about the person it self. Like when you do all these to your partner, what are actually thinking and planning? |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by biina: 8:38am On Apr 14, 2009 |
Gabrywyl, which one you be: interviewer or interviewee?, 'screener' or 'screenee'? |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by IFELEKE(m): 8:46am On Apr 14, 2009 |
gabrywyl:It depends on the kind of visit. If she is visiting and leaving the same day then it can be viewed as a casual visit but if the visit requires staying over then it's sending some signals accross that it's more than friendship. Above All, It's the guy/lady hosting that will really determine the meaning of the visit.(by the way he/she potrays it to his/her peeps) gabrywyl:Same as above, The Host determines what it means. gabrywyl:It means he/she has been telling his/her peeps about the person and he wants them to get to know each other on the phone. Personally, Only the lady I intend getting married to will sleep over on a visit to my parents. |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Gabry(f): 8:49am On Apr 14, 2009 |
biina: none. I was just wondering in a general perspective. IFELEKE: hmmm. . . I see. . . Interesting ooo. . . So you mean to say if you introduce her to your parents as your lover, that means you are serious? |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by biina: 8:51am On Apr 14, 2009 |
gabrywyl:That depends on the family and the person. 'For our family house', you don't introduce your 'flings' or 'casual bf/gf' to the family formally. Once you introduce a bf/gf to the family formally, it is assumed that you have found the other satisfactory and are fully committed towards marriage. You would have to make a strong case to void the candidacy of the said bf/gf. There are no overnight stay privileges until they have spoken to your parents (and preferably met in person). I have friends whose family are more lax, and the fact that you have been introduced is of little or no relevance. You can be substituted at any point in the game, even before half time. |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Gabry(f): 8:57am On Apr 14, 2009 |
biina: Wow! Your family house is similar to mine ooo |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by ladybam(f): 9:02am On Apr 14, 2009 |
@post it means dat both of them are ready to take the almighty convenant |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by IFELEKE(m): 9:05am On Apr 14, 2009 |
gabrywyl:You see, I hold my family sacred and I can't just be bringing flings all the time. I don't live/work in the same town with my parents so I get to keep my flingings here at my base. The day I bring anyone home is the day I officially start planning on settling down and my people know about that resolve. |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Gabry(f): 11:57am On Apr 14, 2009 |
lady bam: But have you heard of someone whomis doing it yet they dont take this seriously? IFELEKE: So have you found that your dream girl? |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Hamzo1(m): 6:13pm On Apr 14, 2009 |
hello,i just want you to know dat you can only be seen as a friend since you quys are not yet married.ok. , hamzo1 |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by IFELEKE(m): 6:18pm On Apr 14, 2009 |
gabrywyl:Still Searching. . . |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by ladybam(f): 7:33pm On Apr 14, 2009 |
gabrywyl: yh, a lot of times. but normally,dis acts siginfy a greater interest |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Musty450(m): 7:43pm On Apr 14, 2009 |
@ poster There really isn't any big deal about all your questions, its just that we re sorta used to having isolated relationships is all. I mean, if you re obviously "involved", then a wedding is just another outing unless of course you ve got something in mind and you re scared to talk about it, but if you re both clear on what you re doing, as per where your r/ship is heading, then its no biggie. @question 2 would you give your friend who was beside you your phone to say to your f/f? if yes then whats the difference btw that and a family member? If no? why not? Every r/ship brings two sets of people together, not just you and your g/friend but at the very least your circles of friends. think about it and stop missing out on fun things to do !!! |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Hamzo1(m): 12:27am On Apr 15, 2009 |
You see in my own view toward d issue i think all i can say is eat d whole three question answers is foundation.all d 3 all stands on foundation in which it was initially built on, hamzo1 |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Nobody: 12:37am On Apr 15, 2009 |
IFELEKE:Now this is a real Ekiti man. We hold our family sacred. Period |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Nobody: 8:22am On Apr 15, 2009 |
@topic the simple answer is that when you go to the extent of introducing your babe or guy as ur g/f or b/f to your family then there is the possibility of the relationship going towards marriage. But also that is the most delicate part of it all. Cos we all know that in africa you don't just satisfy the man only you must at least pass the family test also. So only meet with da family when you re feeling confident enough. Other wise that could be the begining of the end. Except your partner is a really matured and liberal person. |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by IFELEKE(m): 8:29am On Apr 15, 2009 |
*Toyinrayo:Abi My Sister and where have you been all this while? |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Gabry(f): 8:43am On Apr 15, 2009 |
Thank you guys for your feedback and contributions. More feedbacks are appreciated. |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by smooooooth: 8:57am On Apr 15, 2009 |
gab, i see you have the western mentality, here in 9ja, any1 u take for an occassion is seen as an invitee who will part of the pple to finish the rice, eba, amala, isi ewu, turkey and orisirisi thats available. no seriousness attached abeg! |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Gabry(f): 1:04pm On Apr 15, 2009 |
I was just asking the questions jor. . . It did not have to do with anything which is related to my life oo |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by SCORPIONN(m): 1:06pm On Apr 15, 2009 |
Gabster, it means that I would want her to marry me |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by dragonslay(m): 1:59pm On Apr 15, 2009 |
SCORPIONN: yeap |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Nobody: 10:55pm On Apr 15, 2009 |
IFELEKE:Hiding from you |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by yme1(f): 10:56pm On Apr 15, 2009 |
na lie she was banned by me right TOYIN |
Re: I Need Your Opinion. Please Be Honest. No Play Play Ooo. . . by Nobody: 11:00pm On Apr 15, 2009 |
You don ban me because of your oko (IFELEKE)? oga o |
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