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Something Wrong With Me? by humblesoul(op): 4:29am On Apr 19, 2009

hello all nairalanders,, all my life i enjoy being alone, i like my space a lot, i just seem to thrive on being alone, i try as much as i want but i can't seem to enjoy being around people, i don't even tell my problems to people, its not that i think am better than anyone or that i think i don't need people i guess is just the way i am, the more i grow up the more i feel God has made me this way, i even believe i am not suppose to get married, is there anyone out there who feels the same or what do you think of the way i am, please just honest replies, like i said is just the way i am and is not that i hate people!!!

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by ThiefOfHearts(f): 4:48am On Apr 19, 2009

only child?

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by nguage(m): 5:13am On Apr 19, 2009

I don't think you love being alone, I think you've been alone for so long and you've managed to convince yourself that you love it. At this point, it's almost like any habit/addiction, because you experience withdrawal symptoms whenever you leave the habit of being alone. We are social animals and we need others to be happy, no man is self-sufficient.

Since you've gone out of your way to mention that you don't judge others, I think you actually judge others. Anyone who's this way is likely to be disgusted by people.

Let me cite a case of a music enthutiast at a party with a bunch of his friend, he finds everybody dancing to Soulja Boi, in his mind, he is disgusted and thinks "what the hell is this world coming to?" In that instance, he stops having fun.

Totally, not his fault. The human mind is designed that way. We want to convince ourselves we're good, so we judge others subconsciously. When your classmates ask for your test scores after an exam, many of them don't care about your scores, they are looking for a way to feed their own egos. They don't know this themselves.

The solution is being able to put things in perspectives, realize that when people do things you see as stupid, they have a reason for doing it. You'll see that the black guy that mugged you isn't a bad person if you look at things from his POV. Train yourself to see the good in people. When you're able to do this, you'll appreciate people more and love being around them.

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by nguage(m): 5:18am On Apr 19, 2009

If you actually don't judge people and you're really happy being alone. Then there's nothing wrong with you. But I doubt you're really happy being alone, if you did you wouldn't start this thread. No?

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by humblesoul(op): 5:27am On Apr 19, 2009

ThiefOfHearts:
only child?

no am not the only child, we are three, the others are outgoing not really like me

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by humblesoul(op): 5:29am On Apr 19, 2009

n-guage:
If you actually don't judge people and you're really happy being alone. Then there's nothing wrong with you. But I doubt you're really happy being alone, if you did you wouldn't start this thread. No?

thanks for your reply, i really don't judge people, am not God!!, but don't you think we all are different, it is not possible that every one will be an extrovert or social? or what do you think?

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by ThoniaSlim(f): 5:35am On Apr 19, 2009

Am guessing your an extreme introvert? undecided

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by humblesoul(op): 5:40am On Apr 19, 2009

ThoniaSlim:
Am guessing your an extreme introvert?

i guess u could say that, but do u think is a bad thing, havent really met anyone like me!!! embarassed

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by nguage(m): 5:52am On Apr 19, 2009

humblesoul:
i guess u could say that, but do u think is a bad thing, havent really met anyone like me!!!

I've never met anyone like you either, the few people who I know that love being alone are those that judge others. It's not a good thing but it's really not a bad thing too. If you're happy the way you are, keep being yourself.

humblesoul:
thanks for your reply, i really don't judge people, am not God!!, but don't you think we all are different, it is not possible that every one will be an extrovert or social? or what do you think?

No, everyone will never be the same. It's little variations like this that make the world work. But I still think you'll enjoy being around people, when you find the right people to be around.

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by humblesoul(op): 6:02am On Apr 19, 2009

n-guage:
I've never met anyone like you either, the few people who I know that love being alone are those that judge others. It's not a good thing but it's really not a bad thing too. If you're happy the way you are, keep being yourself.
No, everyone will never be the same. It's little variations like this that make the world work. But I still think you'll enjoy being around people, when you find the right people to be around.

i doubt, am 24, don't really see myself changing just wanted to see if there is anyone out there like that, thanks for your advice though,

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by oluwafemi113(m): 6:59am On Apr 19, 2009

@ poster I wish I can be like you. I love to be alone only that I do't know how to go about it. Once I try be my self my guys we come over even when I do't feel like saying any thing, they'll force me to talk.
Well I wish I Can len how to be alone,
but me am going to get married. Being alone those not stop one to have wife

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by ladybam(f): 12:07pm On Apr 19, 2009

@ i tink ur fine.aint nufin wrong wid ya

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by ugo2u(m): 1:48pm On Apr 19, 2009

There is nothing wrong with you, it is just a temperament makeup that you have. There are millions of people like that so you are not alone. Get and read the book "spirit controlled temperament by tim lahaye" to understand your temperament more. happy sunday!

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by ilaugh1: 1:51pm On Apr 19, 2009

u r selfish, arrogant and proud.

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by humblesoul(op): 2:58pm On Apr 19, 2009

i_laugh:
u r selfish, arrogant and proud.

hello how r u doing, i don't know why u would make a comment like this, but am not like that , but if that's what ur judgement tells u then fine, hav a lovely day,

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by humblesoul(op): 2:59pm On Apr 19, 2009

ugo_2u:
There is nothing wrong with you, it is just a temperament makeup that you have. There are millions of people like that so you are not alone. Get and read the book "spirit controlled temperament by tim lahaye" to understand your temperament more. happy sunday!

thanks'would try and check it out, hopefully, peaceout

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by poshangel: 3:12pm On Apr 19, 2009

used to be happy being alone until i let some guy into my life. too much wahala, i had 2 run, now i dont like being alone.
advise: if u like being alone then stay alone.

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by IFELEKE(m): 3:19pm On Apr 19, 2009

@Poster,
Nothing Is Wrong With You.
You have carved a Niche for yourself overtime called a Comfort Zone, The only thing you need do is to venture out of this Zone.
If you do this,You will see that there is more fun Outside than Inside.

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by Scarcast(f): 3:24pm On Apr 19, 2009*

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by Scarcast(f): 3:39pm On Apr 19, 2009*

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by spikedcylinder: 3:47pm On Apr 19, 2009

only child?

Don't taint us abeg! angry

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by humblesoul(op): 4:04pm On Apr 19, 2009

Scarcast:
I'm lyk you.probably worse!ain't notin wrong wt u.bt wen i'm around ppl i'm comfortable wt i let myself out.i'm a born-introvert.n there definitely ain't smtin wrong wt me!hv a friend(start wt one).n make sure u get married wen u r ready!find sm1 who undastands u.trust me,u dnt wnt 2 spend d rest of ur lyf alone.

IFELEKE:
@Poster,
Nothing Is Wrong With You.
You have carved a Niche for yourself overtime called a Comfort Zone, The only thing you need do is to venture out of this Zone.
If you do this,You will see that there is more fun Outside than Inside.

poshangel:
used to be happy being alone until i let some guy into my life. too much wahala, i had 2 run, now i dont like being alone.
advise: if u like being alone then stay alone.

thanks for ur replies, nice to know am not alone in this, was starting to feel like an alien

Re: Something Wrong With Me? by Fiona0007: 5:44pm On Apr 19, 2009

Humblesoul

I can relate to you because most of the time I felt the same.
This can only change when you met someone special who you want to open up to and feel every comfortable with. I hope you will meet that person one day and don't be afraid to go after that person. Of course you won't think of marrying someone until you get that special one. You are still young.

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