This happened live and direct in my church.
There is this woman in her 40s who usually sits at the
pastor’s office. I noticed she behaves like someone
undergoing mental deliverance. I remember few times when church prayer warriors organize special prayers for her. She was healed yesterday and our pastor was happy. I am very close to the pastor. When we were together, in his
happy mood he told me what happened to the woman.
The woman was a Deeper Life member (this is not intended
to paint any set of people bad. This is a real life story. I have
to state out all the facts. Apologies to Deeper Life Christians). She met her man in the same church. They were both Virgin. Based on Christian doctrine – No sex before wedding. After wedding, she expected the man to start making moves, nothing was happening. The husband is like a serving junior pastor in the church. She started making the moves. And whenever she does, the man was always giving excuses. “I will minister today, I have to prepare my sermon notes” “Its a prayer night…I want to be clean before God”
“Blah blah” The woman could not longer take it. One day, she closed the door, forced herself on him, brought out his pinis, tried to arouse it, nothing happened. That was when the woman started asking questions. After a lengthy argument, he confessed that he is impotent. And he has been keeping it a secret from his wife (A pastor for that
matter). This lady is core believer (You know deeper Life people na). She decided to stay. No divorce in Christianity. Once you swore an oath on the alter, you are in it for life. Based on her own believe ooooooo. Not mine. Because some churches may not divorce, but separation is allowed
especially when they are endangering their own lives
through fights and others. She stayed in the marriage for 20 years. Her younger sister who got married after her now has 3 kids. She is still single and a virgin. Her ability to bear all this tribulation started running down. She started having mental issues. The first one happened, when her sister was celebrating her daughter’s birthday. They had a little disagreement and she scattered the whole party. When they called family meeting to settle the issue was when she busted out and told her people “Can you Imagine, I am still a virgin”. It was like film trick to the family. Ever since then, she will be walking on the street, talking alone. If you ask her a question, she will be saying something else.
To cut the story short, someone brought her to our church.
Where she has been undergoing reform. My pastor
summoned her husband. As pastor to pastor. He told him
“You are a wicked human being”. “You have sinned against
man, and God”. Its true you have a problem. You are a
pastor, spill your problem out, let the world help you. You
kept it secret and even subjected your woman to a marital
bondage for years. You have wasted her life. Where do you
want her to start from? The genesis of this no sex before marriage. I am not supporting anyone to engage in premarital sex, however, you need to find a way to know your partner during courtship. Its either you marry an impotent or a sexomaniac. I remember a man that have sex with his wife 8 times a day. Whenever he is coming back from work, his wife will be crying.

that man is wicked..doesn't he know that a problem shared is a problem half solved?nawa oh

:Pthis is a very big lesson,to those who say no sex before marriage. as for me,I go checkout the kpekus.

what a world different stroke

The woman had mental breakdown, and the backward people felt she needed prayers instead of a psychiatrist.

The same people had contributed to her predicament. A so called pastor who knew he is impotent, yet kept it secret, putting a very Hot and sex starved woman in limbo for 20 years, now almost menopausal.

The id!ot should have stayed single, rather than placing such a horrendous burden on the woman.

I dont know the validity of this story. First u mentioned deeper life and didnt mention ur church. so does it mean ur church encourages pre marital sex?

Since u know so much about this woman and her hubby, u should have given us the church address and ur church address so we can verify for ourselves.

A picture should have also gone a long way in validating this story.

Verdict: I dont believe ur story because of lack of convincing evidence

My opinion: While I dnt support the action of the husband, saying that the whole incidence happened because of their belief(decision not to have sex outside marriage) is unacceptable.

The whole issue is as a result of lack of good moral conduct simply put Lies and Deceit. Instead of encouraging promiscuity and fornication how about encouraging people to become more sincere about issues during courtship.

Sincerity and openness is what we need during courtship cos it will contribute more to our building a strong and happy marriage. Sex during courtship wont. You can have all the sex in the world and find out after marriage that hubby or wifey is a murderer or into one evil or the other. What then will u attribute that to?

We need sincerity during courtship and not sex.

Peace.