Even though each breakup is a special case, still there are some common mistakes that almost all people do in relationships which prevents them from recovering early.

Suppose your net worth was 10,000 Dollars. How would you feel like if you invested all the money you had in the stock market then lost them all?? Of course that would feel awful because you won't have any money left. People who study investments will always tell you not to put all of your eggs in one basket not to suffer if something happened to that basket.
Now what if you did the same thing with your emotions? what if you became one hundred percent dependent on only one person to feel good, won't that break you if that person left you??

The reason most people don't recover from breakups quickly is that they make their emotional state completely dependent on their partner by:

- Contacting their friends less often: Most couples do the mistake of weakening the connection between them and their friends on intention right after getting into a relationship. In this case the person becomes 100% dependent on his partner to satisfy his social and intimacy needs and so if his partner left him he feels very lonely

- Dropping the hobbies: Another mistake couples do is becoming 100% dependent on each other to feel good instead of keeping their hobbies and interests intact. Again the loss of the partner in this case means the loss of happiness and the meaning of life.

- You are everything in my life!!: Some people go even further and stop doing anything useful or focusing on anything in their lives but their partner, thus making him the center of their lives. Those people suffer the most after breakups and hardly recover unless an expert helps them.

In order to recover quickly from breakups you must not make your mood, life and everything that you have dependent on your partner, and if you broke up with him already then bring your life back and you will find that recovering is becoming much easier.
Of course your partner should be the most important person in your life but in the same time you must never make him the only important thing in your life, else you will become broken if he left you.

Even if you didn't breakup with him your life will be meaningless, tasteless and you will sooner or later start experiencing dissatisfaction.
A healthy relationship is the one that allows you to grow, make more friends and have a better life and not a one that makes you dependent on one person for satisfying all of your emotional needs.


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