Op, i must commend your working conscience, you admitted your guilt and also used it as a yardstick to always forgive her. Some men would have painted themselves as saints or even ended the union the first time they suspected her.

If she abort, you become an accomplice with her, if anything go wrong during abortion you will become the bad one besides your son needs her. The bad part is after the abortion, you might still not move on with her as before not excluding the possibility of the child being yours.

Please for your son's sake still keep the matter within till she birth, then do DNA test but relate with her as though you wont forgive her, let her conscience flog her for the time being. Warn her of divorce if she abort, lest she does it behind you. If DNA says its your child afterall and you can forgive and continue, then forgive her as you are not also innocent. loneliness or friends could have caused it or she could have felt led on knowing you do same but you both need counseling. Also watch if she is truly repentant. If you cant forgive its up to you. If you can forgive but for the pregnancy, wait to be sure the baby is not yours. Deal with her because you are you not what african man would do, it could have been you who impregnated another woman.

Yomieluv:
do you still need advice for this?


till she kills you before you know you have to send her packing.


either male or female,no excuse for infidelity.

are they not birds of the same feather? Like husband like wife.the husband is as guilty as the wife so which one be send her packing?

Let her give birth 2 d baby n return him back 2 his original father

Those of you calling for the head of his wife, is not fair because the OP said he is no saint either
as he has cheated on her too. Forgive her and give her another chance. You should also repent
from cheating on her. Both of you deserves a second chance.

plaetton:


This is silly.
Funny how Nigerians always seem try to rationalize the most absurd and irrational.

That union is over. Period.
Anyone that advises otherwise is being Very very insincere.

k

He who hath no sin cast the first stone.

Op admitted to infidelity too. Would he know how many people's wives he may have done same to while he was "staying warm in other women's arms" away from his wife?

This is a family matter. You and your wife need to settle down and decide what's best for the two of you AND FOR YOUR SON MOST ESPECIALLY

One key advice: keep your extended family/brothers and sisters, umuna way from your own immediate family decision. Decide and action on what's best for you, your son and your wife.
Marriage is not for better alone. Its for better for worse. You can make it for better for sweet instead of worse depending on the choice you make at this first crucial huddle.

SAMBARRY:
you are becoming so harsh this days

who is sharpening your teeth?

e mi?
Well things change sometimes,too many evil to change a gentle soul to a harsh one.But you know what,i still remain me whenever i log out.

ronald4lif:
If I were you I'd divorce her straight away, like right now. She couldn't even insist on condom while fvcking about. What a shame of a wife.

but it is not a shame for the husband

he got a taste of his own medicine

I like that kain family circle. The parents from both husband and wife side too will be ci parents. See full house

cococandy:
So who's the baby daddy and does he know?
Before una abort the pikin make sure he's not after getting his baby from her or you'll have a bigger mess than what you already have.

As for what to do, get your family together. One person has to move to join the other. Distance is bad for any marriage no matter how much love you guys have between you.
Or Else both of you'll continue sleeping around.
If you don't mind having those extra partners then the pregnancies that come from them shouldn't bother you. The ones from your mistresses should also be welcome since she's bringing hers from her side bobo to una house.

Just gather the pikins under one roof and raise them all as yours.

SAMBARRY:
you are becoming so harsh this days

who is sharpening your teeth?

Who else if not you Sambarry

edwife:


e mi?
Well things change sometimes,too many evil to change a gentle soul to a harsh one.But you know what,i still remain me whenever i log out.

Madam Edwife

"emi" is one word not "e mi"

As you and Coco no wan pay me to teach una the language, make I kukuma dey expose una dey go

plaetton:


Totally unbelievable bullshyte.

Even you, oh cocoa Candy?

Be sincere, Would you offer this advice to your own brother?

If he's also keeping mistresses yes.
If not, no.

lol @even me? I'm the first you should expect to type something like that. Do you think I'd open my eyes and say what's good for the goose is not good for the gander ever?

Kimoni:


Madam Edwife

"emi" is one word not "e mi"

As you and Coco no wan pay me to teach una the language, make I kukuma dey expose una dey go

Ermm. How much will you pay?

troy20:

see the sort of things you come up with.

I bet if the husband was the one that gave woman belle outside and I said she should accept the baby then I'd your example of a good woman.

Mtchew

cococandy:

Ermm. How much will you pay?

Who dey pay? Me or you?

akinsneh101:
I and my wife are in love before we had our Son and the love got more stronger after we gave birth to our Son, after giving birth to our Son, life got a little bit hard for us which made me decided to travel abroad to Make ends meet and make sure I and my family live a good life.

As a first travelling experience, things did not quickly went fine which is normal. Within this period , my was not always in good terms with me but i was calm with her because i understand how it would be for a woman not having her hubby around her and even Financial need was not constant.

In a while , God opened was and things got better, I was able to cater and provide for my family financial needs.

But the sad part of it is that each time i visit home to check on my family , I usually detect infidelity in my wife, I used to find a place in my heart to forgive her because i know she is also human because its not easy been alone , because i am not holy too lol.

But the worst case now is that my last visit was a bit long and she got pregnant, but after the test and scan the result showed the pregnancy is 7 weeks and few days but my stay is still counting 5 weeks plus, after scolding her she confessed she had intercourse few days before my return which means the pregnancy is not for me.

Now she is begging me that she will abort the pregnancy but i should keep it secret between us and forgive her and she will never do such again, swearing with everything useful in her life.

This is a painful thing, Its very sad and traumatic because i have been having intercourse with her all this while which means i have been climbing another person pregnancy which is a taboo in Africa for such man.

PLEASE I NEED YOU ALL TO ADVISE ME WHAT TO DO.. I AM LOST I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO .. MY HEART IS BLEEDING !!!

kick her out of your life like polio!

Kimoni:


Who dey pay? Me or you?

See this madam o.

Na me wan teach you, I go still pay you?

Is your mom Igbo?
I heard those people like money too much.

cococandy:

See this madam o.

Na me wan teach you, I go still pay you?

Is your mom Igbo?
I heard those people like money too much.

Hehehehehehehe

Coco don turn 419 oo

I said you and Edwife don't want to pay me to teach you my language, hence, I will be exposing your blunders like I just did to Edwife

But you just hear "pay", your antenna don dey calculate money wey go enter ur pocket

Who like money pass sef - Ijebu woman abi Igbo woman

Kimoni:


Hehehehehehehe

Coco don turn 419 oo

I said you and Edwife don't want to pay me to teach you my language, hence, I will be exposing your blunders like I just did to Edwife

But you just hear "pay", your antenna don dey calculate money wey go enter ur pocket

Who like money pass sef - Ijebu woman abi Igbo woman

Okayyyy. I get you now. Don't mind me. My body dey hot for money now.

So you won't teach me for free?

Well Business between ijebu and Igbo woman must involve some money sha.

So how much will charge me?

coogar:


kick her out of your life like polio!

Unfortunately, polio has been fully eradicated from Naija. So no amount of kicking will drive that woman from her home. For better for worse is what they signed

cococandy:


Okayyyy. I get you now. Don't mind me. My body dey hot for money now.

So you won't teach me for free?

Well Business between ijebu and Igbo woman must involve some money sha.

So how much will charge me?

500 tassan naira

Or how did Chilli spell the "tassan" sef

Kimoni:


Unfortunately, polio has been fully eradicated from Naija. So no amount of kicking will drive that woman from her home. For better for worse is what they signed

she has pissed on their marital vows.
put yourself in his shoes - if you catch your wife with a stranger both enthusiastically violating una marriage vows, what would you do?

His heart is bleeding.. Edwife get the emergency kit

Ole gbe ole gba

Abortion is her own call not your child and not your body

Kimoni:


Madam Edwife

"emi" is one word not "e mi"

As you and Coco no wan pay me to teach una the language, make I kukuma dey expose una dey go

I cannot pay you never,you will teach me for free.

How can I pay you? Emi? I know how to get you to teach me anyway,i am not worried.

coogar:


she has pissed on their marital vows.
put yourself in his shoes - if you catch your wife with a stranger both enthusiastically violating una marriage vows, what would you do?

They are both guilty of that naa

Besides, he doesn't really mind the infidelity, it was an open marriage afterall. He's more concerned about the baby that's not his. And I am wondering, isn't that to be expected in an open marriage?

Kimoni:


500 tassan naira

Or how did Chilli spell the "tassan" sef

Only?
That's nothing.

Don't worry my accountant will wire you the money when she resumes duty for the day.

cococandy:

Only?
That's nothing.
Don't worry my accountant will wire you the money when she resumes duty for the day.

waiting

Ewuro4:
His heart is bleeding.. Edwife get the emergency kit

Ole gbe ole gba

I will not save this one,they are both pathetic,i can't stand idiocy especially when people like them are polluting the marriage institution.

Ewuro please using this medium to beg you: Ẹ jọọ,Ko t'ope ma as you do it.

edwife:


I cannot pay you never,you will teach me for free.

How can I pay you? Emi? I know how to get you to teach me anyway,i am not worried.

The only negotiation we can have is if you teach me gifs

That thing no dey ever work for NL when I paste it

edwife:


I will not save this one,they are both pathetic,i can't stand idiocy especially when people like them are polluting the marriage institution.

Ewuro please using this medium to beg you: Ẹ jọọ,Ko t'ope ma as you do it.

Google inspired translation

I can't even read what you wrote eddy love

edwife:


I will not save this one,they are both pathetic,i can't stand idiocy especially when people like them are polluting the marriage institution.

Ewuro please using this medium to beg you: Ẹ jọọ,Ko t'ope ma as you do it.

He deserves it, she is a goner.. Case closed.

@2nd paragraph ... HUH?? but I have an idea what you're talking about.