Esthersblog:
Culturally, some tribes will say the white wedding should be done in the groom’s church, some others, the bride’s church, and also, the liberal ones who are indifferent about where the white wedding should take place.

It is believed that, as a man, you are going to ask for a woman’s hand in marriage and therefore, you have to adhere to your bride-to-be and her family’s decision about the location of the wedding, and if it’s not favourable for the man and his family, then the groom and maybe with some members of his family will have to discuss it with the bride’s family and afterwards come to a conclusion.

It is also believed that after the wedding, a woman is supposed to join her husband in his church fully and as a result of this, the white wedding should be held at the bride’s church to honour her for the last time since he is taking her out of her church.

Traditional and white weddings are usually held at the bride and her family’s choice of location. But sometimes when making the decision about where the white wedding should take place, conflicts arises from both families. The parents of the bride would want the wedding to take place in their church and at the same time, the parents of the groom wants the wedding in their own church as well.

What would you do when both parents want the wedding to take place in their churches at the same time?

Kachisbarbie:
Culturally, it's the woman's church... (so I heard), because she would be leaving her church to the groom's church after that day.

Wetin no dey cause problem for Nigeria sef? Location again? But they can travel to the US, that one doesn't cause problem.
Just do court wedding make everybody rest biko.

Seriously it's about compromise. One person has to play the fool, whoever decides to isn't my business right now.

robosky02:


kashi whats your own

What I do?

Kachisbarbie:


What I do?

fav444:
Not in the Catholic Church o, the rule will either make u go in or go out. No room for wed and after go to ur husband church. if u must wed there u must remain a member. if u can't follow this rule na u sabi

pet4ril:
It's commonly done in the woman's church but if the man really wants it in his church maybe because of his friends especially if they are living in the city, it's a matter of understanding. Talk it out with the bride then they have the traditional in the village and go to where they are residing to do the church wedding

jamesbridget13:
Hmmmmmm. I dont see why d venue shld cause any problem. Its only a matter of understanding each other. In my case i n my husband planned to have it done in his church but my dad kicked against it. I had to let him knw dat if it must be in our church dat it must also be in d town my hubby lives which happens to be our lga n where i work. My dad accepted n he arranged with d pst n we had it done. Kogi state n rivers state is quite a distance ooo. My dad had to do as we wanted o. My hubby even liked it because his church procedures no be come chop o. Lol
Pls about to wed peeps, dont let venue cause a thing. Just iron it out with understanding.

Esthersblog:
Lol. Sometimes some parents make a big issue out of it. Thanks.

jamesbridget13:
parent sabi worry. #sweettalking them is d key. Just give dem d advantages of having it where u wish. U ll see them reason along side. Are u ATW?

Esthersblog:
It's a good friend of mine who is about to wed, and this has been an issue for over three weeks now.

jamesbridget13:
k. She better apply wisdom o

nnamdibig:
The only marriage in the bible is traditional marriage so I don't see any problem in location of white wedding. It's just a case of both couples deciding where it's very convenient for them. A friend invited a pastor to the reception hall. After a very short service, they went out & came in for reception at the same venue. Very simple and cool.

Esthersblog:
Culturally, some tribes will say the white wedding should be done in the groom’s church, some others, the bride’s church, and also, the liberal ones who are indifferent about where the white wedding should take place.

It is believed that, as a man, you are going to ask for a woman’s hand in marriage and therefore, you have to adhere to your bride-to-be and her family’s decision about the location of the wedding, and if it’s not favourable for the man and his family, then the groom and maybe with some members of his family will have to discuss it with the bride’s family and afterwards come to a conclusion.

It is also believed that after the wedding, a woman is supposed to join her husband in his church fully and as a result of this, the white wedding should be held at the bride’s church to honour her for the last time since he is taking her out of her church.

Traditional and white weddings are usually held at the bride and her family’s choice of location. But sometimes when making the decision about where the white wedding should take place, conflicts arises from both families. The parents of the bride would want the wedding to take place in their church and at the same time, the parents of the groom wants the wedding in their own church as well.

What would you do when both parents want the wedding to take place in their churches at the same time?

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Richy4:
It has never been an issue in my state. it is an unwritten law that when it comes to church wedding, the venue will always be in the groom's church.

except on a situation where the groom doesn't attend church. But if the girl was a catholic member, and the man wasn't, some parent sometimes will insist that she should not marry the man (initial gra gra as we call it. but they will later chill as the gifts start rolling in) because the wedding will be taking place in the groom's church.

Especially those girls that got parent that are knight of saint this or that

qhutetomsel:
something like this happened during my parents wedding where both families wanted the wedding to take place in their different churches. They ended up doing the wedding in their different churches on the same day.. but personally I think the decision of the bride's family should be honoured.

Kachisbarbie:
Culturally, it's the woman's church... (so I heard), because she would be leaving her church to the groom's church after that day.

Wetin no dey cause problem for Nigeria sef? Location again? But they can travel to the US, that one doesn't cause problem.
Just do court wedding make everybody rest biko.

Seriously it's about compromise. One person has to play the fool, whoever decides to isn't my business right now.

MMotimo:
In my Yoruba family, paternal and maternal, the bride's family sponsors the introduction, wedding reception and engagement ceremonies.The wedding is done in the bride's parents' church. As far as I know, this is the norm in Yorubaland unless things have changed.

virginboy1:

For real? And I was thinking to marry a Yorubaland lady would be expensive due to the plenty Owambe'.

MMotimo:


The owambe on the wedding night is usually sponsored by the husband's side at a venue of their own choosing, that's why I didn't add it up there. As far as I know, this still holds true.

MMotimo:
In my Yoruba family, paternal and maternal, the bride's family sponsors the introduction, wedding reception and engagement ceremonies.The wedding is done in the bride's parents' church. As far as I know, this is the norm in Yorubaland unless things have changed.

virginboy1:

My sister I tire ooo, to marry for naija no easy at all. Tribe,Religion,Location,Tradition,History, Language et al na part of its criteria.

virginboy1:

For real? And I was thinking to marry a Yorubaland lady would be expensive due to the plenty Owambe'.

Esthersblog:
At all, its not easy. It just too much stress...