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How To Be Happy As A Single Young Person by itsIYKE(m): 1:57pm On Oct 22, 2015 |
Contentment with the person you love most "YOU"
Being single at any age can be challenging in a world
that seems to place so much importance on finding
the love of your life and becoming a couple. The
whole world seems to be geared up to support you in
this quest. There is very little support given to those
who are consciously choosing to be spend time
alone, learning to enjoy their own company and the
creativity it sparks. There is almost a sense of failure
or that there is something wrong with un-partnered
people which is really quite ridiculous, especially
since more and more people are realizing that the
partnerships they formed early in life, have failed to
pass the tests of time and they themselves are now
living the single life. Here are ten tips for making the
most of being single:
1. Relax. Your singledom will not last a lifetime. Well,
it will if it is meant to but this is a very rare karma.
The worst thing you can do is panic and think you
have to find someone immediately or your life is
over. This air of desperation is by far the most
debilitating energy to bring into a new relationship
with yourself or with anyone new for that matter. It
makes you blind to obvious red flags and puts you in
all kinds of compromising situations.
So once again - take a breath. Be happy to have been
given this special opportunity to get to know yourself.
Look at it this way — if you are uncomfortable
spending time alone with yourself, what makes you
think anyone else will feel comfortable spending time
with you? This can be quite a challenge to someone
that has continuously filled up their lives with
someone else only to discover that they really don't
know or like themselves at all. Having a relationship
with yourself is exactly like having a relationship with
someone else. You have to be supportive, caring,
understanding, and yes, you have to learn to listen
and communicate with yourself and your inner
guidance. Sometimes the only way to get you to listen
to yourself is to force this "time alone" upon you.
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2. Stay clean. Forget about coming home or staying
home plastered, stoned or disconnected — not a
good recipe for a successful relationship with
yourself or anyone else for that matter. No sorry
folks this is a sobering experience but trust me it will
start to grow on you if you just give it a chance. Why
not take this time alone to get the help and support
you need to beat your addictions once and for all. If
you can't do it for yourself — you won't do it for
anyone else. You know the drill... the time is now!
3. Give yourself a chance. Being happy alone does
not happen overnight especially if you are a
recovering codependent. There will be times that you
feel like you're invisible, no one will ever love you,
you're wasting your life, your life is passing you by...
and a whole lot of other negative self talk. The best
thing to do is to take yourself for a walk or — even
better — on a date. Learn how to cheer yourself up.
The better you get at being alone, the better you will
be at being in a relationship. For some it is extremely
difficult to cater to your own needs. Are you one of
these people that will happily cook if someone is over
but if it is just you, crackers and peanut butter will
suffice? Make the effort to cook for yourself.
Seriously, this is one of the most self loving things
you can do for yourself. Cook yourself something
new each week, each day even. You deserve it!
4. Study something new. Wow, what a perfect time
in your life to go to night school or study online or
completely change career tracks. Figure out what you
are passionate about and go for it. There is no one to
hold you back but yourself. Not sure what you are
passionate about? Spend more time alone. It will
come to you. Give yourself a chance to listen to your
inner voice. This process can take time and you really
have to be patient with yourself.
5. Meet new people. Not necessarily for romantic
reasons, just to expand your support community. If
you are consciously attempting to stay out of
relationships for a designated time period, you will
still need people to share your life with. Friendships
are paramount. Where would we be without our
friends? Truly alone. No friends? Are you friendly? Do
you make an effort to say hello and meet new
people? Perhaps you need some help with
overcoming shyness. It is always us that separates
ourselves from others. Take responsibility for who
you are or are not attracting into your life and make
the necessary changes to attract some solid friends.
6. Exercise. What a great way to get to know yourself
again. Start with reconnecting with your body. Its the
only one you have this lifetime and we often look
after our cars (which we can trade in) better than our
bodies. Singledom is the perfect time to get yourself
in shape and the endorphins released when you work
out keep your spirits flying high. Why not pick up an
old team sport you used to play in high school? It's a
great way to socialize and stay in shape.
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7. Rediscover your creativity. It's in there, I promise
you. We all have the ability to create magnificence.
You may have temporarily forgotten what you came
here to create but if you spend enough time alone
you will rediscover your creative self. What a perfect
opportunity to play when no one is watching! So take
out those pencils, paints, clay, inventions, designs
and let loose.
8. Focus your attention on your thoughts. In case
you have missed the last ten years of evolution it is
now widely accepted that, yes, your thoughts do
create your reality. Where are you putting your
attention? What is your most dominant thought?
Won't be hard to figure out just take a good look at
your life and your reality will be living example of
what is going on in your head. Take this time alone to
become extraordinarily of your thoughts. Monitor
them, erase and rewrite, spend at least 30 consistent
days changing negative thought patterns (it takes at
least that long to form new neural pathways in the
brain.)
9. Be grateful for what you already have. Each
night before you go to sleep, concentrate on what
you are grateful for in your life. Every tiny little thing
can help create the spirit of gratitude. If you are so
inclined start to write a journal about everything you
are grateful for and watch the list get bigger and
bigger each day as your gratitude attracts more
things to be grateful for. This is probably the most
important lesson of all, finding happiness in
contentment in what already exists in your life. The
fact that you have one is a really good place to start!
10. Step out of your comfort zone. Each week plan
to go somewhere new, or do something different.
Don't wait until Mister or Miss Right is in your life to
follow your dreams. Do it now. You have more
chance of meeting your special someone if you are
living your life to the fullest. Even if you don't want to
meet anyone you still will have a blast following your
hearts desires.
Being alone can be a positive force, turning you
towards greater creativity and greater personal
development. In this "space" that you call your own,
you can grow to know and love yourself as a separate
individual. One who is not dependent on another
human being for your identity and does not fixate or
keep moving around seeking pleasure, seeking
comfort, and satisfaction from the energy of another
being. You can learn to find contentment in and with
yourself — just be there alone, calm, cool and
collected with the person you love. You! 1 Like
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Re: How To Be Happy As A Single Young Person by vizkiz: 2:03pm On Oct 22, 2015 |
mehn, you need to arrange this shiit |
Re: How To Be Happy As A Single Young Person by itsIYKE(m): 2:03pm On Oct 22, 2015 |
vizkiz:no time......am not selling it |
Re: How To Be Happy As A Single Young Person by vizkiz: 2:31pm On Oct 22, 2015 |
itsIYKE: mtcheewww...this is trash. No one gives a crap about a rough post like this |
Re: How To Be Happy As A Single Young Person by itsIYKE(m): 2:37pm On Oct 22, 2015 |
vizkiz:leave it that way sir...now move on |
Re: How To Be Happy As A Single Young Person by Nobody: 2:46pm On Oct 22, 2015 |
itsIYKE:unattractive post.. give spaces next time bruh |
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