Men, your marriage is the best it can possibly be, right? Well, maybe. But if you’re like lots of couples, you find it all too easy to put everything and everyone else first and take each other for granted.

Unless you become aware of your own hurtful attitudes or actions — so that you can correct them — your chances of staying in love ’til death do you part are close to zero. Not to worry, though — you can easily get back on track by watching out for these 5 common mistakes:

1. You spend money without consulting your wife

Making big purchases such as buying a car without first consulting your wife is a huge no-no. Why? Consciously or unconsciously, men frequently assign themselves the leadership role in the relationship. That, too, is a mistake. A couple’s relationship is a shared leadership position.

2. Can a selfish lover return the favor?

In the bedroom, men forget – or, worse, haven’t figured out – that their wives often need more than they do to get turned on. Affection, making her feel loved and needed — that’s basic for her to feel aroused. Turning a woman on begins well before the lights go down. Men perceive sex as a sufficient means of being close, of having a connection. But women want a connection prior to having sex.

3. You’re hearing but you’re not listening

Listening does not mean nodding along as your wife explains what is bothering her, all the while thinking up ways to fix the problem. What she most often wants is to talk things out, and she wants you to be actively engaged in the conversation, not by trying to be the hero and save the day, but by demonstrating an interest in what she is saying and caring about what she is experiencing emotionally. This is not passive. Listening to establish a connection is an active process.

4. Keeping those feelings on lockdown

Listening to your wife talk about her feelings is essential. So is talking about your own. Many men, however, think they need to hide their feelings or risk being seen as weak. That’s a mistake. Not sharing your emotions can be a real downer for your wife. The woman feels like she’s missing a close connection that she wants with her husband. When he’s withdrawn, she feels like he is leaving her. Growing up, a man learns that he can’t let others know when he’s scared. But opening up is taking a risk, and that takes courage.

5. Going on a power trip.

Being a man does not mean being in charge – many men don’t get that. For instance, you may try to get what you want by being dominant. But it’s not about making demands or trying to overpower her. Women will pull away from that. The “power position” that men often put themselves in essentially negates the relationship, which must be reciprocal, supportive, and caring.

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Nice points but lemme add...
6.Not allowing your ambitious wife to work even when your own salary alone can't feed and take care of the whole family.This is common as some husbands turn their wives into housemaids telling her to be cooking and taking care of the family although if the salary is sufficient I see nothing wrong with it.

7.Getting arrogant and self centered when a large sum money is in your hands by doing whatever you want with it and then coming low and seeking her attention when you are broke.

8.Not attending to the sexual need of your wife I think that's self explanatory.

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Not showing enough care when she's pregnant

Hmmm... Dis is where dey tell me dat I'm not a good enof husband... And dey throw accusations at u without considering d kind of person u are. Hmmm. How can u tell me to sit and be listening to everythng she's saying? Does she listen to everythng I say? I understand u mean well but seriously I'm tired of all dis advice, it always makes one couple feel like dey are not good enof and dats bulllshit. Cos we are not meant to be perfect as husbands... She has her own side of shitloadss and I have mine, if we can stil be together after realizin our insufficiencies den I'm good wit dat and she is too. Its all dis advice and counselling dats makin women feel like men aren't good enof and dey need to be better and there are better men out there and den dey look for a lawyer and divorce and den find anoda man and d same circle all over again...

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