KashyBaby:
I only give my full trust 1 time but when it's broken...then I have to say sorry Coz that person can't regain anymore no matter what..

PunkyVeer:
It is the most difficult thing to rebuild. There's always gonna be pieces missing just like a broken glass. As hard as you might try to glue & put together all the pieces of a broken glass, you can never get it back to it's pristine condition.

adewumiopeyemi:
u need to forgiva and forget hope u no dat

KashyBaby:


Its OK to forgive,but hell no I will forget

all4naija:

Are you an expert in relationship? Jeez!

PunkyVeer:


What does what I said have to do with being an expert? I'm only speaking from my experience.

all4naija:

Oh,I see! I am baffled by your experiences. It means you aren't a young lady I used to think you are.

How old are?.

PunkyVeer:


I'm old enough. It's life, each day is an experience. I don't have to be a toothless granny to acquire a few experiences, especially when it comes to betrayal. Just as long as you get involved with people, there are chances that at least one of them will stab you in the back at some point. It's a dog eat dog world & I've made peace with that.

all4naija:

You write in parable and it is difficult for me to understand you. Can you explain a little better, literally?

PunkyVeer:
It is the most difficult thing to rebuild. There's always gonna be pieces missing just like a broken glass. As hard as you might try to glue & put together all the pieces of a broken glass, you can never get it back to it's pristine condition.

Ray360:

You are one of the very few ladies here who posts sensibly. keep it up.



Dear OP, both of you need ample time to emend this fracture in trust. true Love, Trust, Faithfulness and other condiments that bond relationships are difficult to burgeon again after a dwindle. revive some of the things you did that cemented trust at first and take it from there.[b][/b]

PunkyVeer:


What's difficult to understand about that? Ok in simplistic terms, I've had my fair share of betrayal, from friends - family & age has nothing to do with since I don't live in a bubble. I put myself out there. I live. I open myself up & give people the opportunity to hurt me. In the end, still I rise. Can't keep a good woman down

all4naija:

Wow! I am very sorry for your bad experiences. Life is a bit complicated and that is one of the reasons you need to be careful with your relationship, forgive those who offend you and forget. Why do you give people the opportunity to harm you or hurt your feelings?

adewumiopeyemi:
How do you build trust after it is broken? can d person regain d trust from his/her partner,......... coment guys/girls

KashyBaby:
I only give my full trust 1 time but when it's broken...then I have to say sorry Coz that person can't regain anymore no matter what..

PunkyVeer:


And I've had plenty of good experiences too, to balance out the bad. IMO, that's what life is about, the good & the bad. Thankfully for me, I'm the live in the moment type of person. I laugh when situation right now calls for a laugh & cry when it calls for me to cry. The past doesn't matter, it's all about NOW. Forgiving is not very easy for me though, but it doesn't mean that I'm seething, thinking about what someone did me wrong. They hardly ever cross my mind when I hate them that much. There's about two of such people I find it very hard to forgive them.

Well all4naija, like you said, "forgive & forget". I may not necessarily forgive but I don't wear my scars as a badge either. Meaning, I don't let negative past experiences totally define me. So yeah, I give people the benefit of the doubt aka give them the opportunity to hurt me/stick a knife between my shoulder blades if they want. I'm not gonna be afraid to live just because some people are lousy. I will live, get hurt & get over it. Rinse & repeat until my last day on Earth. I'm an optimist above all else

all4naija:

Lol... I think you are funny.

PunkyVeer:




It is what it is.

all4naija:

You have more of the nature of a man to me than a woman.

PunkyVeer:


Well, you say you don't believe in astrology but anyway, I'm an Aquarius & it is a masculine sign. We're no weeping willows. We bounce back. Maybe that's what you're sensing

. Astrology is used by con artists to play on people's psychology. Hahaha...

all4naija:

. Astrology is used by con artists to play on people's psychology. Hahaha...

PunkyVeer:


What's your sign?

all4naija:

Taurus! I don't believe in that bullcrap!

PunkyVeer:


You sound exactly like a Taurus. You're stubborn & controlling. You're probably a fatass too since Taurus people love to eat, especially good food & are greedy AS. Prone to weight gain more than any other sign because they have a sweet tooth. Hitler was a Taurus, btw He's not fat like most Taurus but he had that control freak thing Taurus are known for. I'm not surprised at all by this revelation. Me & Taurus people often clash a lot- they control, I rebel. Oil & water.

This is purely psychology, by using our discussions here to judge me as Taurus sign. FYI, I am not greedy(one of the areas I not good at) and not fat. I don't like Hitler personality though.

I usually have disagreement with people in this forum not only you, hun. Hahaha...