TK0907:
This is an issue that has led to break up of some relationship that i have been involved with because i always wants to know all your past so that even if i got to hear anything from outside, it won't sound alien to me but sometimes i tend to remember some part of the dirty past and i have this feeling that what if this my partner actually goes back to this old practice after getting married to her and after this thought, it immediately change some part of me towards the lady. Most especially knowing all the past of a lady that a man intends to marry.
Is it appropriate in knowing the past of someone you intends to marry?

iceberylin:
Yh...try to know the name of the midwife that helped to deliver her...

Cutehector:
People say yes buh are they willing to open up? They r sayn yes because they want thr partners to tell dem buh will they tell dem theirs too?

And people judge a lot these days. U tell ur woman u used to b a robber and u'v repented, she will judge u. U tell ur partner u slept with 100 men in d past, he will judge u.

Its not easy for one to open up abt thr past because they feel they will b judged.

The problem here isn't one being honest abt thr past, the problem is, will u as d partner not judge him or her and accept thr flaws and move on?


Think befor u want to say yes.

100% correct on your point.

The issue is not whether it's necessary for your partner to reveal the past to you,,but whether you as a human can handle such past and not let it affect your relationship/marriage.

If you know you cannot handle such things then it's better you don't hear it at all and act like you married a saint. If you are willing to hear your partner's past then be prepared to share your own past too without leaving any stone unturned.

Simple...

TK0907:
This is an issue that has led to break up of some relationship that i have been involved with because i always wants to know all your past so that even if i got to hear anything from outside, it won't sound alien to me but sometimes i tend to remember some part of the dirty past and i have this feeling that what if this my partner actually goes back to this old practice after getting married to her and after this thought, it immediately change some part of me towards the lady. Most especially knowing all the past of a lady that a man intends to marry.
Is it appropriate in knowing the past of someone you intends to marry?