Why is it beleived that in every relationship, there must be a period of misunderstandings and quarells?

Be it marriage or a dating relationship.

Share your opinions.

because we are humans.

Misunderstandings are bound to happen in any relationship, working or non-working. One way of avoiding hurtful resentments that may result from these misunderstandings is to keep an open line of communication with your partner.

meaning it is natural. right?

_{this guys just keep disturbing my peace wiff their everyday quarrels. I'm tired of settling cases o jare}

I don't know why we seclude marriage or dating as if in other kinds of relationship like friendship, family we don't have misunderstandings . You should understand we are people with different views. It's only natural to have misunderstandings.

sistawoman:

because we are humans.

Great answer @sisterwoman, sometimes i wonder whether you are a full blooded African American, cus it seems your simple common sense and sense of right and wrong is really starting to sound like that of a normal African.

Alternatively maybe your husband's DNA has mixed with your own a little too much after all the 

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The Utopian idea is that there should not be quarrels and misunderstandings in a relationship, however the reality of life and of being human is that there would always be quarrels and misunderstandings in a relationship.

In support of the very simple but encompassing answer given by @sisterwoman, the truth is that quarrels and misunderstandings are in every relationship. The difference however is whether or not there is love in that relationship to handle all the quarrels.

This is because love is what enables the two parties in the relationship[b] to continue[/b] to forgive each other and overlook all the quarrels and misunderstanding.

Hence my own motto is that:

If i can't sincerely tell a woman that[b] i love her[/b] without feeling that am lying about it, then i simply can't be in a relationship with her, cus[b] true love[/b] is the only thing that would sustain such a relationship in future when quarrels and misunderstandings start rearing their heads.

problems are opportunities for corrections

We atimes fail ourselves/blame hell out of ourselves not to talk of two people with different medulla oblongata.

it must happen, every individual has their own opinions

really?

yes

so many home have broken 'cos of this misunderstandings. you knw?

If everyone beleives there must be misunderstandings at times, why let it destroy their relationships?

When a relationship is without quarrels and troubles then both partners aint real to themselves.
Come to think of it all lovey lovey and no quarrel makes the relationship a dull one.

Yes there must. However, I do not believe it should be intentionally initiated.

We are all humans at the end of the day and pesonally, through misunderstandings and quarrells, you can actually get to understand and know one another better, as topics and issues may arise that you would have never thought about, and it's often a time and opportunity to tackle them.

If there were too many misunderstandings as in more bad times than good, then that's also a way of underderstanding that that person may not be for you.

Fair enough we can't agree on everything, but neither can we disagree on everything.  

steve49ja:

When a relationship is without quarrels and troubles then both partners aint real to themselves.
Come to think of it makes the relationship more fun.

when you you quarrel, your partner respects your views about certain issues & this makes the bond stronger

ben, they get out of hand cos of different reasons
as there r different people with different opinions, so also are there different reactions to different situations

bluespice:

ben, they get out of hand cos of different reasons
as there r different people with different opinions, so also are there different reactions to different situations

Exactly, hence the reason to then understand one another better.

Oxone:

when you you quarrel, your partner respects your views about certain issues & this makes the bond stronger

True . . . .but not in all cases, some men just see it as nagging or moaning

lol yeah
but then arguments should be morderated
no need to be overtly insultive n what not

tope i chose to call those menby their real names- babies

Anything that involves women will most definitely have some misunderstanding attached, its just natural to their DNA

tope5000:

True . . . .but not in all cases, some men just see it as nagging or moaning

A REAL intelligent man will know when a good woman is 'talking' for the best of the relationship. Let them nag jare, we women are not stupid! lol

bluespice:

lol yeah
but then arguments should be morderated
no need to be overtly insultive n what not

tope i chose to call those menby their real names- babies

Abi!! That is why we are there to mother them, advise them and talk sense to them.  

whitelexi:

Anything that involves women will most definitely have some misunderstanding attached, its just natural to their DNA

Go and find a seat!

@Secretz, i was sitting when i posted that

bluespice:

tope i chose to call those menby their real names- babies

Tee hee hee . . .and thatz what they are

whitelexi:

Anything that involves women will most definitely have some misunderstanding attached, its just natural to their DNA

*Roll eyez*
If guys already know that its in our DNA then why complain that we nag too much

Secretz:

A REAL intelligent man will know when a good woman is 'talking' for the best of the relationship. Let them nag jare, we women are not stupid! lol

Gbam

tope5000:

Tee hee hee . . .and thatz what they are

*Roll eyez*
If guys already know that its in our DNA then why complain that we nag too much

Cos it is in ur DNA to nag and it is in ours to let U know that U nag.

Seriously, most ladies dont even know that they nag!!!!! 

I have heard this line one too many time "Me nag? No, I am just saying". Meanwhile, the lady is nagging ur head off from here to Ethiopia!!!

lol secretz n tope u ladies sha

ushe!

Uche2nna:

Cos it is in ur DNA to nag and it is in ours to let U know that U nag.

Seriously, most ladies dont even know that they nag!!!!!

I have heard this line one too many time "Me nag? No, I am just saying". Meanwhile, the lady is nagging ur head off from here to Ethiopia!!!

Lol . . . . . .
Hate it or love it . . . . . u guys still cant do without us
so get use to the nagging

bluespice:

lol secretz n tope u ladies sha

ushe!

Yes ooohh! We must talk!

tope5000:

Lol . . . . . .
Hate it or love it . . . . . u guys still cant do without us
so get use to the nagging

Period!!

mistas get used to our talking
if we dont u best know somn is wrong

tope5000:

Lol . . . . . .
Hate it or love it . . . . . u guys still cant do without us
so get use to the nagging

Aint it the same way round? Like you guys can do without us

steve49ja:

Aint it the same way round? Like you guys can do without us

Who lied to? . . . . pls go n slap the person

steve heard of anne summers?

bluespice:

mistas get used to our talking
if we dont u best know somn is wrong

True dat!!!!!


I do rather take a vocal lady than one who just keeps quiet, A vocal woman might embarrass U in public and U will be aware of it,,,,,,, a very silent one will make U the laffing stock of the whole neighbourhood and U wont even know it!!!! U still be walking around like U are the man!!!