I wrote a post on this topic recently after I saw a picture of someone being given a certificate of virginity on her wedding and I have decided to share my thoughts cos I just realized that most of us including me tend to forget that the issue of purity is what we need to focus on more.

[center]The way we take the issue of staying away from sex till you are married looks to be more of an ethics or cultural thing cos as a Christian what we need to remind ourselves of is that sex before marriage is sin and that what God has really called us to is Purity not just Virginity.

Maybe its our Nigerian culture and the societal pressure (church, friends or relations), cos that virginity that we carry on our head is mostly personal/ for your parents/ future spouse/ relations/ friends.
As far as I know, having sex can be easy to abstain from but the hard part is staying pure which encompasses much more than we talk about.[/center]

Please read further
http://allavosiyatalk..com.ng/2015/10/purity-not-just-virginity.html

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