Its never a sign of maturity to date or court a person for ten years, Its not really an achievement, Cos some of the marriages that had long courtship still end up in chaos. And relationships of months or few years still turn out to be blissful.
Why?

We must come to the realization that the quality of time is not dependant on its quantity. What do I mean?
Dating for Long years doesn't necessarily mean that you have known the person. its cool to court for years if you are graced to do so, but then what's the content of the long years?
If its just clubbing, Going to beach, Having sex, chatting everyday, writing love poems, fantasying, ETC, Then the long years is valueless.

No matter how short a relationship is, What matters is knowing the person, knowing their life aspirations, knowing their views on life, religion career, politics and all facets of life, And this can't be possible without Asking questions and spending VALUABLE TIME.

Chatting about how many kids you guys want is gibberish, That's fantasying when reality hasn't been settled.
You guys should be working on yourselves to see the marriage work out fine. if it sure does, then discussing about choice of children will be necessary.

And this is why a lot of marriages are suffering today. Their dating and courting period was only FUN filled. No asking of serious questions..
Questions like; If I provoke you to the peak, how would you react?
Would you allow me deny you sex cos I want to fast?
Why will you still hold onto me when my face is wrinkled, and my beauty faded?
What's your take on divorce?
I can keeping counting, I mean serious questions that will give you a direct and concise clue to who your significant other is.

And so after getting married with your ignorance and it leads to chaos, you start shouting and ranting of how you dated your partner for ten years, and blah blah blah.
But you haven't said what you both spent 10 years doing..

It would shock you how some relationships are managed, especially some long term relationships; They talk once in one month, whatever they're gonna say is all about how they feel and all those romantic sermons; "I wish you were here" "I can't stop thinking of marrying you" and all these blabs!
And they continue like this, for five years, so what makes it valuable?
Sending time talking feelings is a waste of time!

Maybe I'm derailing from my original subject. conclusively,
Dated for 6 years? it doesn't matter, what's the content of the years?
No matter how much you spend doing what Is irrelevant, it doesn't make it relevant.
And a little time spent doing what is valuable can yield powerful results.

How long you've known a person is not a determinant factor to How well you know them.

Ask questions, if you want to know.

#IamSARANG.

Wow

Nice write up. Makes a lot of sense.

I love this