Even with the most devoted couples, it seems that once-
common conversations in bed have been replaced with
endless scrolling through social media apps or funny image-
based sites – individually.
Is the internet putting up a barrier between people, even in
bed?
We compulsively carry our smartphones with us wherever we
go. The classroom, the bathroom, the bedroom, the outdoors
— our phone is always in hand as if it were some magic self-
defense tool capable of protecting us from all that is evil in
the world.
It all happened so fast. We didn’t have the time to set any
boundaries for smartphone usage, and now we find ourselves
unable to save our relationships and form meaningful
interactions with those dear to us.
Smartphones are very useful in many circumstances.
However, although not ruining your relationships per se,
they can harm it in devious ways.

1._Lack of Mindfulness_
A smartphone is a modern day distraction that is so common,
it’s hardly noticed any more. It accompanies us wherever we
go, demanding our attention multiple times a day. A phone
call, a Facebook notification, oh look someone just pinned
my cake pops recipe!
We become irrevocably immersed in our digital lives,
prioritizing the virtual world over anything else. Is it really
that important to Instagram your dinner, rather than actually
savoring it and sharing your impressions – or maybe a
forkful of the dish – with the person next to you?
Smartphones get in the way of our relationships, making it
impossible for us to wholeheartedly devote our attention to
the present moment. As a result, we lose many moments of
wonder that are unique and never to be lived again.
Why pay a #15,000 to see your favorite band, if you’re going to
watch the whole thing through your smartphone camera
anyway?

2._Loss of Communication_
Smartphones can be the culprit of communication
breakdown among couples.
Intimacy is hard to achieve or maintain when your phone
keeps beeping with alerts, notifications and email reminders.
A constant, merciless distraction, our smartphones have
come to replace deep-felt, long conversations in view of non-
urgent, shallow tasks; retweeting a fun tweet, updating your
Facebook status for the 136th time.
In fact, some people talk more about their relationships on
Facebook than they do face-to-face with the person they’re
actually in a relationship with!
We’re becoming so obsessed over how our lives look to
others through the digital glass that we forget how
significant it is to live, invest and relish in the present
moment and the reality we’re in.
Why choose to communicate through social media, rather
than enjoy a friend’s company? Or better yet, do something
together, other than sitting side by side staring at the
displays on your individual devices?
Inevitably, excessive smartphone use drives us away from
each other, and we only choose to communicate
impersonally and for superficial matters. Somehow, bonding
and intimacy no longer appeal to us, making it impossible
for us to build any new, sincere relationships.

3._Destabilization of Relationships_
To sustain a relationship it needs to be based on constant
give and take, where we think about someone else at least as
much as we think about ourselves. Smartphones upset this
balance.
They can turn us into selfish, nonempathetic individuals
who are only worried how many likes their Instagram photo
received, or how many times their meme got repinned. We
place too much emphasis on our digital lives, and we lose
sight of the urgency and beauty of the everyday.
This leads to a vicious circle, where the more we interact
with the digital world, the more we . . .
become indifferent to the real world and people;
get attached to the meaningless approval of strangers
online;
seek validity and recognition from people we don’t
know;
fail to see or interact with people we do know;
lose the connections to the real world and real people;
depend on the virtual world.
..
We’ve become convinced that our mobile alerts and
notifications are urgent no matter what. We feel the urge to
reply or check our email and social media accounts over and
over again like our lives depended on it.
As a result, we’ve become overly attached to digital
communication, regarding real life communication as
secondary.
We exchange the depth and quality of face-to-face
interactions with shallow and impersonal connections. We
have fallen under the delusion that smartphones improve our
experiences and relationships, when in reality, they’re slowly
eating them alive.
We sabotage our happiness and wreak havoc with our
relationships, failing to see which is more important in our
life. Small, precious moments are slipping away because
we’re focused on reading all of our emails, and we get
unreasonably anxious if we put our phones away even for 30
minutes.
Perhaps we should ask ourselves whether being disconnected
is, after all, really that hard. Do we really need our
smartphones in the bathroom or in bed?

Change your reaction towards your phone today,always respect the presence of your husband,wife,boyfriend,girlfriend or fiancee and save your relationship from it unprecedented fall.