yoksy:
we got married in a church

byvan03:
Until ladies tell me where they find this unusual men, I have no comment. Except the accident affected his brain and he couldn't remember having a wife or bedding one to conception, I really don't get what you are living with.


It seems is more of a marriage of convenience, there is neither love nor friendship. If you knew the deal from day 1, then it will make more sense to carry your cross with pride.

coogar:


you are a consummate rëtard!
all you illegitimate children sired by drunken fathers won't stop yanking my chains. why is it so easy for me to pick "friends" on this part of the forum?

abeg, don't liken me to that loser you call your father. utility bills? in otuku ozalla? the curses placed on you by your father's concubines are starting to manifest. na insanity & epilepsy remain after this phase!



when you start from a seed, the apple never drops far from the epileptic slüt that dropped it. when you grow from a firewood background, it's easy to think others use credit cards to buy clothes. you are the most hopeless sonofawhöre that has ever graced this forum.



wasn't that the same song you sang at your father's funeral?



look at this fool whose parents died as a result of having ascaris worm in their brain cells. you had to bring your bio-dad to the forum to box with the coog?

you have failed - just like the condom that shoulda prevented your conception. if only a prophylactic had stopped you from flagellating to the ovum, we wouldn't have had a poor excuse of a loser like you walking the earth.

coogar:


these men aren't unusual!

some men are genuinely turned off when their partners are pregnant. the attraction suffers an instant death till she puts to bed! that's just the way they are wired & i doubt it's got anything to do with love or friendship.

the risk of any given man to cheat on his wife increases during pregnancy, even if he finds his marriage satisfactory. some men are severely afflicted with pregnancy symptoms. this type of men are ambivalent about pregnancy and the changes that go with it!

wonlasewonimi:


Bros. Why you dey quote me na? E be like say Aunty marrymee know you wella. No dey face me tonight abeg.

byvan03:

If that's the case, then such marriage contracts should be reviewed and terms and conditions of affections put in place. This is unusual, can't get it up at home but get stoned to get it up outside, that is unusual.

Casually walks away when caught? Who does that? It is unusual! This Phobia for preggy makes a man who isn't suffering from brain scramble deny his wife's pregnancy? That's usual?

coogar:

there's nothing unusual about it.....
many marriages have suffered the same fate. mind, i ain't condoning his despicable action but there are some men who can't just stand a pregnant wife.



he's just being a dïckhead with the denial....
the crux remains he is not sëxually attractive to his wife as things stand. after she delivers, he will revert back to his old self. it's a temporary crisis.

coogar:


except that you are aunty marrymeee!

i will direct my wrath towards y'all.
the powers vested in me allow me to do as i please.

how dare you as a mere mortal question my decision making?

of course, marrymeee knows me - i shtupped the woman that sired the bastard!

MarryMeee:
don't listen to this unmarried 39yr old fool! These are the types with dysfunctional dicks that will come and defend their own. Ask him how we will pay utilities for next month and he wont know, but he will come here forming "i-know-everything"

Pem pem pem all over nairaland! Wife? he no get! House? He pays rent late to one landlord for one bedroom in Peckham! Phone? He has stopped paying his monthly instalments! Clothes? He don max out 5credits card that are not being paid for! All he is good for is sleeping around with people's wives for a living! Dont be fooled! Scam alert!

*singing* shameless old fool no go carry last ooo

Mznaett:
Men?? Fear them

fem29:

Ermm this is very personal. Do you know oga coogar. To be honest, Peckham is now a desirable area, property prices are extremely high cos it's quite close to central London.

Coogar please don't come after me oooo . 8 dey fear your cussed nor be small

coogar:


So you never repent from E fights

aaronson:
First off, ignore every persons who be telling you talk to God because, that's their way of not helping but think they helping. No God needed here, this is human behaviour and social psychology.


Human has this tendency to act childish and its called FIXATION in psychology, what this means in essence is before your hubby got married to you, he's been having sex with random girls and you married to him isn't an excuse not to continue.

Now, bare this in mind, He doesn't hate you but the love is hidden and shrouded by his fixated habit of extra marital affair. This happens because a man's brain only focuses on only one task at time unlike the women's brain which is capable of multitasking. This is the reason, Women are good at keeping multiple partners in secret than men.

Enough of education, How can you remedy this situation at hand?

Run a psychological test on him and see if he still care for you, Since you pregnant, its a lot easier, when he's in the house, just pretend, break down in pain and ensure you continue in the pretence of pain till he takes you to the clinic so the doctor would really ascertain you fine and need rest. So when you get home, make him understand he's the reason you broke down earlier and it was a post traumatic stress he's been putting you through, let him see your tears again at that point in time and watch his reaction and response after then.

Note- He might not quit that fixated habit of extra marital affair but I bet he would up the affection and care he has towards you which was hidden.

coogar:


where i go sabi tramp that works as a shelf attendant at tesco? shim keeps claiming to know me but it's a wet dream.



i can't come after you - you have diplomatic immunity.

fem29:


Coco to be honest I don't think she should be worried about trying to worry about how his phyche has been affected by his leg being injured etc etc. There is no excuse for what this man is doing. Imagine if it was her that all that happened to she would bloody get on with it. She would not sit around thinking of stupid shit to do to bolster her self she would simply continue to do whatever it is she has to do to make sure her family is alright . We really should stop giving men passes, it's bullcrap (forgive my french). I'm just sick of it. I've been through so much and I've had to go through it alone cos our hubby's always have a REASON for the crap they do.

Poster please ignore this and maintain your zenith. I am venting

cococandy:

@bold, that's definitely not me.

If you're sick about people that give men passes and excuse bullcrap, pls welcome to my world.
I'm even sicker of it.


What made me type that post after my initial one is because of what she said happened to him.
Even taking viagra to go cheat outside means he's probably not just doing it because he has uncontrollable libido. I just feel like it signifies more going on with him.

It's not like I don't know that if she was the one who was cheating for whatever reason (even if preserve her life) no one will make excuses for her. And that kind of post would make me the evil feminist who wants a man to take back a cheating wife.People are full time hypocrites around here. You know like a full time job.
It has even turned to a competition of who can mock the OP more. So instead of compassion for someone going through something heartbreaking, you see mockery littering the thread.
Of course it's sickening but don't vent on me nne.
I don't support foolishness. Or fighting for a marriage where you're fighting alone.


I just see each situation differently. Hence my resolve to not base my opinion on what others will think but how I see the situation.
And in this case I think if he's willing to work with her, they can make it work.

Each case and its own peculiarity. No blanketing.

fem29:


I know the 'feminist' bashers on this site wear one down and we kinda start modifying what to say to kinda keep them off our backs . I don't even see myself as a feminist cos I'm not really doing anything to advance the female cause, I just don't want to be treated like shite.

But I don't want this woman to start second guessing herself. I don't even have so much of an issue with the cheating, it's how he is treating her in this very difficult and delicate time. 8 month pregnant is the most vulnerable you can possibly be. She needs to forget about what he is doing and whatever 'reason' he may have for doing it. Focus on her and baby.

cococandy:
Lmao at first paragraph. I see what you mean.

On the contrary I enjoy the effect my posts has on them.
Very much.

I just don't want to deliberately be unhelpful to someone who I think my opinion might help just because I want to piss some mofos off.
I just finished a class in psychological versus physical healing and when she said he was in an accident that left him with walking disability, it struck me as something that may be out of character for him.

Of course I may be wrong. He could be a womanizer and she's just finding out. It left to her to see which it is and make her decision accordingly.

cococandy:
Lmao at first paragraph. I see what you mean.

On the contrary I enjoy the effect my posts has on them.
Very much.

I just don't want to deliberately be unhelpful to someone who I think my opinion might help just because I want to piss some mofos off.
I just finished a class in psychological versus physical healing and when she said he was in an accident that left him with walking disability, it struck me as something that may be out of character for him.

Of course I may be wrong. He could be a womanizer and she's just finding out. It left to her to see which it is and make her decision accordingly.

fem29:


Nah I just hate seeing their posts . They just rile me up and I know they are subjugating women in real life. Their wives and girlfriend's are suffering

bukatyne:


Not necessarily

Not everyone practices what they preach.

@cococandy:

Such a beautiful work on this thread; kudos.