we have been friends for about six months now. hes a good friend to me and we get along very well. all this while i have loved him secretly and funny enough, we have never discussed anything about love life until just last week when he started asking questions about my boyfriend and i told him i dont have. when i asked about him he said he has just expressed his love to someone but refused to disclose who the person is and that she has not agreed. the way he talks about it, its like speaking in parables. im suspecting he may be talking about me or someone else, i dont really know.

now the feelings i have for him are even more intense and i cant eat or sleep. i dont know either if he has feelings for me. i as a woman have never liked the idea of approaching a guy first. but now im being tempted to throw caution to the wind and tell him how i feel about him, but i fear wat the outcome may be. pls wat do i do? im really confused.

pls advice me.

Pls, throw caution to the wind

@ben20001 thanks for ur response.
but really, if one of ur lady friends come to u to tell u she has feelings for u how will u see her and how will u feel?

pls more replies needed. i really need help on this

. . .was only jokin, girlie.

in my opinion, you need to show some green light. . this might really help. instead of expecting a miracle.

just pray the guy won't take advantage of you.

Ben20001:

. . .was only jokin, girlie.

in my opinion, you need to show some green light. . this might really help. instead of expecting a miracle.

just pray the guy won't take advantage of you.

pls can u kindly give me some clues? plssssssssssss

girlie2000:

pls can u kindly give me some clues? plssssssssssss

u r a girl, girlee. u shdnt be askin for clues.

foye57:

u r a girl, girlee. u shdnt be askin for clues.

and do u think if i knew, i wld be asking?
i have never been the type who make passes at men or force myself on men. i really dont know! pls give me clues if u know of any, i need help thats why i came out here to seek it.

appear naked when he comes in, open your laps wide and ask him to dip his pe nis inside your hot steamy pu ssy, thats the only way to express your feelings to him.

simple as asking what he thinks of you?

it is tricky but be carefull and pls pls dont spoil it by sleeping with him

AjaraEwuro:

appear naked when he comes in, open your laps wide and ask him to dip his pe nis inside your hot steamy pu ssy, thats the only way to express your feelings to him.

haba! AjaraEwuro, dont spoil d poor girlee!
@poster
Just show him more care and attention. ask him wittingly what he feels abt u. pls don't sleep with him or try to appeal to him sexually.
all the best dear.

@foye57 and JJYOU thanks, i appreciate ur replies.

still open to more suggestions pls

why not?

Be careful girl,lest ur actions wud scare him away and make u look like some desperate slut.what if he does not feel the same way as u do and turn u down,can u handle the rejection?
Things like that are better left for men,let him make the first move,Ok.dont let ur emotions ruin the beautiful relationship u are enjoying now.Hes a Nigerian man,let him make the first move,if na Oyinbo e for be a diff. ball game.

@ifyalways, i thank u so much. i think i need to get a hold of myself

@ girlie,

* Call him on phone (at most once a day) and ask how he's doing
* Acknowledge his looks- like, whao! you look so handsome today
* Allow him to accompany you to some places, eg salon, cyber-cafe, church/mosque, etc, and do likewise.
* Little gifts every now and then will do.
* Ask him what he feels about your dressing when you're about going out (As in , do i look okay?)
* Show great concern in matters relating to his family and friends.
* Do console/encourage him when he feels sad, discouraged and confused.
* Always look good (from head to toe). Don't overdress, just be simple and unique.

Those are the clues i can think of for now. Please don't throw yourself on him, don't seduce him, that will only make you look worthless. It could even mar your blissful relationship with him. I'm sure he'll prefer to go for the girl he spent some energy on, than the one that came for him. Who knows, you could even be the one he was indirectly referring to, so just play cool and matured, till he eventually opens up.

girlie2000:

@ifyalways, i thank u so much. i think i need to get a hold of myself

That, will surely favour you all the way.

@Afribiz thanks for ur suggestions too, i appreciate. actually, i do some of the things in ur list already cos of our friendship. maybe i'll need to do more while i try to get a hold of myself

lets know how d cindarella story goes dear. cheers.

sme sme boy putting my sister through all this stress.

If your sister no fine no be him fault