My best friend just found out her husband had sex with another woman. she is so distraught and depressed. they have been married for 4 years with 4 miscarriages. this is someone her life revolves around and trusts.
She said she has forgiven him but finds it had to forget.

JustHere2Observ:
this is someone her life revolves around and trusts.
She said she has forgiven him but .......................

There in lies the problem. She can forgive, but she has to plan her exit strategy starting now. He will do it again. "Her life revolves around him" is not excuse. Albeit, understandably, it will be difficulty. It's 4 years not 40 years. Time to get to plan B- how to escape. I smell abuse.

BTW: what is the back story of their relationship and miscarriages? I appreciate how short and to the point your post is, but now I am curious.

it shudnt b such a big deal 4 her! there is sumtin u ladies need 2 undastnd, ffucking and being ffucked...

Xiadnat:


There in lies the problem. She can forgive, but she has to plan her exit strategy starting now. He will do it again. "Her life revolves around him" is not excuse. Albeit, understandably, it will be difficulty. It's 4 years not 40 years. Time to get to plan B- how to escape. I smell abuse.

BTW: what is the back story of their relationship and miscarriages? I appreciate how short and to the point your post is, but now I am curious.

miscarriages is due to hormonal imbalance and they were planning going to the US for proper care. She loves him dearly and he does also.
He has promised not to do it again, but she is not so sure.
I asked her to try work it out...she has been through alot, depressions from being sexually abused by her father's cousin.

Men are created to cheat no matter how beautiful you are.

JustHere2Observ:


miscarriages is due to hormonal imbalance and they were planning going to the US for proper care. She loves him dearly and he does also.
He has promised not to do it again, but she is not so sure.
I asked her to try work it out...she has been through alot, depressions from being sexually abused by her father's cousin.

OK. I still stand by my initial gut response. She needs to exit the relationship for now.

Separation from the marriage is in order. She needs to sort herself out it sounds like. He needs to sort himself out.

It does sound like the relationship may have been wrought with emotional strains to begin with. Her medical misfortune with infertility/miscarriages, her past physical abuse, questionable mental state with the depressions.

I don't doubt they love each other. But, the husband likely was looking for an easier way out of his imaginably stressful 'home life' situation.

They need to separate for awhile and deal with their baggage. If it is meant to be, they will find their way back to each other--this time hopefully, whole and emotionally stable.

I wish your friend well tho. It's all right. Take in stride and life will carry on and work itself out.

My apologies to your friend.

It depends though.......

If it was just sex, I don't think there's anything to worry about. If it's something else, well.........



One thing women keep forgetting about men, nay about humans in general, is that Forbidden fruit is always tempting. Perhaps his wife got too boring and she wasn't willing to experiment or she no looks the way she did before.
I'm sure you get me.

Also, four miscarriages huh? Perhaps his friends told him to "try another venture". You get me right?
**Puffs weed while thinking of philosophy**