If you have been with this website long enoung you may have been one of the people who gave me some very helpful advice concerning me and a Nigerian in Manchester. Here's the update. I did go to Manchester,the funny thing is because he is out of status and we didn't work one small detail out I almost got sent home to the states. When I got there they asked me who was I visiting and I told them,then they asked where he lived and I didn't know. They called him and he was so scared that he wouldn't talk to them. I had to stay in the airport for an extra 3 hours before they allowed me to go. After all the advice I had recieved from you all I was SCARED to DEATH(well, kind of). He wasn't a prince chairming after all.For the first week we got along well but after that we argued alot about very trivial issues.Like what I was wearing or me not wanting to talk as much as he did.we prayed together and went to church together but we still had these little issues everyday.I figured this guy is messing up way to much to want papers.After to weeks I was ready to come back home to the states. As the days lingerd on I began to realize that the things that I don't like about him aren't really big issues and that for the most part,he had the qualities that I want in a husband.He gets on my nerves but over all he made it very clear to me that he only wants whats best for me and that he cares for me. So thanks you guys

glad u back safe. regardless of the circumstance, i hope u had a good time seeing a new and different country and culture.

TaniCarr:

As the days lingerd on I began to realize that the things that I don't like about him aren't really big issues and that for the most part,he had the qualities that I want in a husband.He gets on my nerves but over all he made it very clear to me that he only wants whats best for me and that he cares for me. So thanks you guys

erm, does that mean things are still on? You didn't sound so optimistic before you left.
Pardon my curiosity but were there any bedmatics involved?

Yeah things are still on. ;DI Dew to the advice I received from you guys I went there expecting the worse. I just told myself,if this thing doesn't work then at lest I got a free trip out side of the country. the first week was cool,the second week I began to find out things I didn't know about him and I got angry.He told me alot of things that I didn't like,concerning girls and things like that. I found out that he had more than one girl he was messing around with,and that he ended everything like a month in a half before I came.which was around the time I paid for my ticket.He said he wasn't really sure that I was going to come.So that caused some tension,but I understood where he was coming from.We argued alot because he wouldn't let me have my way all the time and I didn't like that and I wasn't use to that. We had one big argument and I told him I wanted to go home,we didn't talk for a whole two days.Then we went to church and we ended up allowing God to intervene and we work things out.It was an emotional roller coaster the whole trip,but the thing that I like is that he didn't care if I didn't like something or how I would take something as long as he was very sure what he was doing or saying was right.I thought that was annoying at the time.The thing that made me really love him the more is that he has such self control.We didn't even have sex and we slept together everyday!!!He said that he wanted to wait.I thought he was lieing at first but he actuallly stood his ground,and at a time I really wanted to make love.but because he said no,I had to act more reserved than him because I'm the women so I didn't push the issue.But I really did want to do it!!I figured even if he use to have more than one girl,it doesn't matter because I know if he has a reason to exercise self control he can,because he did it with me.I'm glad I went

_{Takes a very deep breath}

Wow, Tanicarr, glad you had a good time. I am just happy you experienced what it would be like being married to him. At least you got a taste of things to come.

All the best.

Thats so nice, long distance relationship, way to go girl

TaniCarr:

Yeah things are still on.

All well and good.

TaniCarr:

We didn't even have sex and we slept together everyday!!!He said that he wanted to wait.I thought he was lieing at first but he actuallly stood his ground,and at a time I really wanted to make love.but because he said no,I had to act more reserved than him because I'm the women so I didn't push the issue.But I really did want to do it!!I

I'm just saying, you should've test-run the tools. You never know.

glad to see you made it back safe.

i just wish a girl would travel all the ways from the Caribbeans to come see me in PH
i sure would treat her like a queen