Some guys have a problem with it.  Do you?

For me, I won't allow it.
If she's fine with me being friends with a bunch of girls, then I won't mind.  But I know that's not going to happen because girls are jealous creatures.

If it's a fling that I don't really care about, then she can have as many male friends as she wants.  I wouldn't even bat an eye. 

Why not? She's going to do what she wants to do anyway. What's love without trust, right?

Simple fact of the matter is, girls love getting attention from doods. It doesn't she will end up cheating on ya. Just have faith ehn

What's wrong with it?
If their friendship is genuinely innocent, no sort of attraction attached, just good friends, what's the problem?

Go away with that feminazi crap abeg.  What's wrong with it?  There's plenty wrong with it, that's what.

    It is disrespectful

Haven't answered my question.

Why would you have a problem with this?

She's been friends with them before she met you, so obviously if anything was meant to happen. . . you wouldn't be in the picture.

Me dei, I don't have a problem with a guy having girl friends. Matter of fact, I encourage it. . .it helps 'em get in touch with their feminine side

Hiya Ibk.

Help me ask these. . .these [i]men [/i]oh. Honestly, it's gotta to be sum'n in the water making 'em so. . . so. . . I don't know. . . clingy and insecure. 

Don't have friends, Don't go there, Don't go here, don't wear this, don't do that. . .how's about they just get a life size barbie and have their way with it.

Sisi Jinx:

Why would you have a problem with this?

She's been friends with them before she met you, so obviously if anything was meant to happen. . . you wouldn't be in the picture.

Me dei, I don't have a problem with a guy having girl friends. Matter of fact, I encourage it. . .it helps 'em get in touch with their feminine side

What if you didn't know about them until after you get together?
It would be proper to break up I suppose ?

Sisi Jinx:

Hiya Ibk.

Help me ask these. . .these [i]men [/i]oh. Honestly, it's gotta to be sum'n in the water making 'em so. . . so. . . I don't know. . . clingy and insecure.  

Don't have friends, Don't go there, Don't go here, don't wear this, don't do that. . .how's about they just get a life size barbie and have their way with it.

Lol

I'm still waiting for mr man's explanation.

Why not peroxide, r u going to make her choose btn u n her friends?

She has no other choice. No guy in his right mind will be fine with it.

Hi spirit, where is your girlfriend Ibukun?

She's just hanging out with eight of her boyfriends, getting some booze. They are having poker night at John's house.
She's gonna spend the night over at her best friend Matt's house. Then on Saturday night she's going shopping at the mall with Mike after she gets off work.
I won't see her until sunday evening. She's going to church in the morning with Dave.

Rubbish

What is your girl doing hanging with other dudes when she has you
Just friends my black foot.

C2H5OH:

What if you didn't know about them until after you get together?
It would be proper to break up I suppose ?

Whether or not you knew about their friendship is not the point here, Acid.

The point IS. . .if something was gonna happen between her and her guy friend, it would have happened, so the fact that you are in the mix. . . that is the fact that she CHOSE YOU, is enough to put your mind at ease.

Pls don't be one of those guys. . . insecurity is not cute.

C2H5OH:

She has no other choice. No guy in his right mind will be fine with it.

Hi spirit, where is your girlfriend Ibukun?

She's just hanging out with eight of her boyfriends, getting some booze. They are having poker night at John's house.
She's gonna spend the night over at her best friend Matt's house. Then on Saturday night she's going shopping at the mall with Mike after she gets off work.
I won't see her until sunday evening. She's going to church in the morning with Dave.

Rubbish

C2H5OH:

What is your girl doing hanging with other dudes when she has you
Just friends my black foot.

What if she hardly hangs out with them? Spending time with them is rare? Does not mean they cannot be friends.

My friend such things do occur yes but not such things are not always the case. Like I said, what if the friendship is genuinely innocent. Just because she has male friends does not mean she will be doing such things.

Oh Lord deliver this guy from the spirit of paranoia.

C2H5OH:

What is your girl doing hanging with other dudes when she has you
Just friends my black foot.

That's right and while at it. . . what does she need her siblings for? Oh and let's not forget those demanding parents. You are world after all.

Shior

Sisi Jinx:

Whether or not you knew about their friendship is not the point here, Acid.

The point IS. . .if something was gonna happen between her and her guy friend, it would have happened, so the fact that you are in the mix. . . that is the fact that she CHOSE YOU, is enough to put your mind at ease.

Pls don't be one of those guys. . . insecurity is not cute.

Sisi Jinx:

That's right and while at it. . . what does she need her siblings for? Oh and let's not forget those demanding parents. You are world after all.

Shior

You are better off keeping female friends if you know you have nothing to hide.
If I tell you I don't mind or that I don't care, then it probably means I don't respect myself or my relationship with you.

Has nothing to do with insecurity.

What's next

Is she gonna start calling me from work to tell me she's coming home late because she's hanging out with this really cool guy she just met?

Insecurity kor penarity ni

Treetop20:

women
say nothing they crucify you
say something they still do

Tee hee hee

We love you too

C2H5OH:

What's next

Is she gonna start calling me from work to tell me she's coming home late because she's hanging out with this really cool guy she just met?

Insecurity kor penarity ni

Mr man, you keep mentioning the same scenario and aren't considering the ones we put across. Yes what you said could happen fair enough in that case the girl is wrong but what if that is not the case? That the friendship is innocent, she does not go to Emeka's house, she does not spend the night with Akin, etc etc

Mscheweee.

Are you telling me to wait until Emeka starts pumpin the gas before I put the brakes on it?

you know you wouldn't be cool with it if the reverse was the case.

New generation relationships are getting more and more ridiculous by the minute

Poster, are you talking about your 'girl' or your wife?

Besides, being friends doesn't neccesarily mean she/he calls him/her up constantly and discusses on the phone, it could just be a 'happened to see john at church/party etc etc and laughed and talked for a bit as friends'

C2H5OH:

Are you telling me to wait until Emeka starts pumpin the gas before I put the brakes on it?

you know you wouldn't be cool with it if the reverse was the case.

If they were genuine friends I wouldn't mind, the kind of friendship I'm talking about doesn't mean they constantly hang together and she shuns you for him, it could just be a 'happened to see john at church/party etc etc and laughed and talked for a bit as friends.'

Sometimes you need to give your girl/guy the benefit of the doubt.

ibkaye:

Poster, are you talking about your 'girl' or your wife?

I thought you said it doesn't matter?  Are you telling me it's okay while she's still my girlfriend, but I should suddenly expect an automatic change when I put the ring on it?

Sometimes you need to give your girl/guy the benefit of the doubt.

Not when it puts your relationship in jeopardy.
A girl like that is not ready for a relationship, period.   No guy with balls would allow it, unless he does not care about her.  It's a slap in the face.

Igwe.:

What's she doing there?

Why not? Are you insecure too

I didn't say it mattered, I just wanted to know specifically who you were talking about, if both, fair enough.

Anyway sha, God bless your girlfriend.

Both.

the truth is my girlfriend has more male friends than female ones. comes

from growing up among 5 brothers. at first, i

was really jealous and i always had my guards up but after some months

i came to realize that i was just being paranoid. depends on the girl

really.

C2H5OH:


Why not?  Are you insecure too  

Insecure ke, not at all, rather would like it if she associates with her mates whilst she keeps the whole thing in a professional level,just like colleagues in office or school, but surely would be under a close marking since an absolute power corrupts absolutely.

sexylogan:

the truth is my girlfriend has more male friends than female ones. comes

from growing up among 5 brothers. at first, i

was really jealous and i always had my guards up but after some months

i came to realize that i was just being paranoid. depends on the girl

really.

It's called being cautious. She could be using that excuse to Bleep each one of them without your knowledge.
I think the only reason you are more accepting of it now is because you got used to the rubbish.
Your girl is controlling you big time duu