ronald4lif:

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Nicely written. But pardon my ignorance. You said that if you're a lady who's insecure and egoistic one shouldn't ask a guy out.

I've restated earlier that women who initiate romance are confident, bold and not afraid to go for what they want. Your admission of insecurity is to say they lack confidence, frightened by the thought of failure. What does that say of them?

In another instance, you said if a woman knows the man in question is a confident type, one who can't stigmatise her and if the lady is certain she won't be slighted she can make the first move?

I don't remember saying "if she's certain she won't be slighted" if I did, then I take that back. A guy could be really into you and still reject your advances....this is where being secure and self-possesed comes in - that way, you'll be able to handle whatever the turnout in good faith.‎

What you're saying here is that any lady who can't muster the courage and find a mind worthy of asking him out has no reason to be with such man, even if he's the initiator of an affair. The man is simply unfit for her. ‎

So my question to you is why should a woman involve herself in a romance with a man who lacks confidence and unsuitable for her even if the man is the initiator?

Okay, if I get you correctly, the points raised here is that
1. The man lacks confidence
2. Is unsuitable for her
3. He is the initiator.

Okay first off...it is solely her prerogative what she decides to do should she find herself in a situation above. We're really in no position to decide who and why she should date anyone. Sometimes, we are sent into the lives of some folks to raise them up. If she has been imbued with the capacity to love a man who has little or no confidence in himself, she can take the leap.

Also, what makes him unsuitable? Are her reasons timetested?

Really dear, there's no one size fits all.
People just need to follow their heart and stay true to it, and they'll be fine‎

keyzid:

shuuuu Plenty irresponsible shark i see. If you see a good husband material, it's better you don' let him. Husband scarce dese days. No be play talk oo. Many just want to have a taste of the punny midst sweet talks from their sugarcoated mouth. Very few just want to be serious. expecially in this our generation. so, forget that mentality ooo. Even as a guy, i can tell you, out of every 100 ladies i might see in a day, maybe 5 might just be the real wife material.

Husband is scarce??


who's looking for one?? When I'm busy looking for money!?
Abegi!

Xtracoool:

You and smiley

I adore smileys....

francizy:


I no mind oh, so which one will do it best?

M.zpecs, Lav.eda or Olivia.arims?

No of the above.

Delectablegyal, pussysandie, sandie or irunoobo would do just fine.

gemale:

Even if u rili rili like him? U wld allow ur ego get in d way of u attaining romantic fulfillment? Well its still ur tym 2 make yanga.

I'd still make my "Yanga" even after 30!!

LoL! I'd flash him those romantic signs n lights...if he can't decipher its meaning, then, he ain't smart! I detest dumb people!

tosyne2much:
See ehn ! If I like you, I will definitely show you a greenlight and it's expected of you to woo me.. And if you can't, I will drastically lose interest in you

erico2k2:

That's what guys term the first move. U do t need to physically ask him out. All that you just said would make him take U on a date. Of he can't see the light your flinging at him then he is colour blind ie not good.

Thanks!

You're a Darling!

Kachisbarbie:
Some ladies expect guys to know when they are in the mood to be wooed, if they are his level or not... like he is psychic _ yet they can't do same.
Guys get turned down everyday, and they are not dead.

You don't go about approaching every random guy, those signs you expect a young man to watch out for, you should be smart enough to watch out for same signs.

Observing a guy closely (especially when you guys have established a reasonable degree of familiarity), you would notice if he is into you but has issues expressing himself probably for fear of being turned down too. That's the time to strike...

Kachisbarbie, quickly PM me and send ur bank account details

lookingfly:
I think gals most times want to be worshipped and that's what most guys find very hard like me. I have been in a position where a gal kept on giving me the strongest green light possible and was very glaring she wants me to woo. I went ahead wooed and the next thing..... I have a boyfriend. So I let her be but now she feels like eating me raw because she was expecting I will keep pestering her. But am too big for that, why the forming for me.

Estharfabian:
I'm sorry?

Estharfabian:
Husband is scarce??


who's looking for one?? When I'm busy looking for money!?
Abegi!

keyzid:

:DAre you for real? I love ladies who wants to hav etheir own money rather than sit on one mans ready made wealth .
All the same, in a bid to hustling for the betterment of life, don't forget, you will be needing a partner in all at some moments.
My One Penny advice .
I'm Dayo btw.

When I've actually made it in Life, then, I'd look for a significant partner...


Buh for now...that's like the least of my priorities...

I'm Esther...

oseod:


Nah...not scared of rejection....at least not anymore
The problem then was I prepared a script in my mind where i was the producer and director and she didn't follow the script....

Right now no script. ..after doing a very brief analysis on the babe in question I walk up to her with no expectations....... since id really only be interested being a friend...
and I know girls hardly do that except she's immature or she was scammed in computer village that very day

I personally don't see anything wrong with a girl approaching a guy...... relationships start from stranger-friendship-dating-courtship
At the friendship stage It shouldn't really matter who approached who...

Even if it's the guy who approached you, so long as he's immature, the guy would still take you for granted once he knows your weaknesses

Laveda:
Yeah ma'am I've been waiting for your comment
Cc: Naija boiy...

You can see that she further buttressed my point.

Estharfabian:
I'd still make my "Yanga" even after 30!!

LoL! I'd flash him those romantic signs n lights...if he can't decipher its meaning, then, he ain't smart! I detest dumb people!

Estharfabian:
When I've actually made it in Life, then, I'd look for a significant partner...


Buh for now...that's like the least of my priorities...

I'm Esther...

ronald4lif:


Nah, I'm her tutee. Still learning.

Laveda:
Like I said before...its no biggie....just has to do with the guy's mentality.....and level of maturity.

kinglekan:




No of the above.

Delectablegyal, pussysandie, sandie or irunoobo would do just fine.

kinglekan:


I don't want all these bois to be disturbing u anyhow.

francizy:


It's no biggie and you haven't asked me out yet?

gemale:

Dts harsh I think labeling d person dumb. Some men naturally find it hard 2 comprehend women while some r rili shy & self-conscious around women afraid of offending them & even when som guys out rightly approach u girls, u wld refuse in d name of playing hard 2 get &which some guys might interpret as u girls bt bein in2 dem. Bt if u were 2 approach d guy, he wld @ least know.

LoL

sorry, I'm not human!

I don't play Hard to get...
Besides, those signs should outrightly point out my intentions...it's me "Flirting"...It's totally up to the "Shy, insecure" guy to learn the language...That should atleast tell him I'm interested in him.

doveda:


Is this the new naijab oiy I am seeing?

This new year is changing you o

Your posts are devoid of any emotion.

Did you perchance get a new gf or what? :PP

Biko, tell me your secret

And I don't even know you!

wristbangle:


If he fails to decipher the bolded, then he is a bimbo.

LoL!


seriously!

naijaboiy:

And I don't even know you!

Oliviaarims:

Lol. Y'all will grow beards that will sweep the floor before that happens.

Laveda:
Just wait!!!!!

Laveda:
Naij aboiy..read this

You know what? That girl Isheartless That's the worst way of turning a Nigga down..it can be done politely .... before u embark on such journey again..I need to look very well
.and it won't be a random Nigga...I need to study him very well and know his kinda person..this should be applicable to you too...

Chai!

Talking to random girls is one very difficult task I can't boast of being successful in. Very awkward and challenging.

I have some friends who do it and successfully pull it off. I don't know how they do It. Some guys are just bad.

tommychow:
Please, stop lying to yourselves ladies. You lack the communication skills to effectively woo him. That's it. You'll be utterly unwise to be completely upfront in your intention to date him. You need to have a lively, interesting first impression so he can open up and enjoy your company. I think that's the problem; 78% of naij girls can't create and maintain an interesting, intellectual conversation. It's always the man's job. Oh, except when it comes to gossiping.

Develop your communication skills, dress attractively not slutty and chyk the hell outta tha nigga.

kinglekan:




If dem born u well attach string na, u go know as water take enta coconut.