Dear Bunmi,
My husband took a second wife without my knowledge. We’ve been married for seven years and still remain childless due to his own fault (doctor’s report). I heard from the grapevine that he took a second wife over a year ago.
Love-gone-sour

Love-gone-sour

The irony of it all is that he claimed to be single, so the other woman doesn’t know of my existence. What do I do? Does he still deserve my love? At times I feel like running away. I hurt and stay awake every night he stays away.

I am dying in silence. Bola, by e-mail. Dear Bola, Have you really confirmed that your husband has a second wife by asking him? It’s amazing the unnecessary pain we put ourselves through because of lack of dialogue.

Men could be as emotionally strung as women. The fact that your husband can’t give you a child must be devastating to him and some men in his shoes have happily accepted other men’s pregnancies to save face.

You obviously still love your husband and you need to seek urgent medical solutions to your childless state.

Lastly, you too have to decide if you love your husband enough to stay married to him without the prospect of a child. The longer you leave these soul-searching questions without seeking answers, the more frustrated you’ll become.

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/01/im-dying-in-silence-heard-my-husband-got-a-second-wife/

Dear bunmi, dear cynthia, dear bola next would be dear devine(op). ok mrs bola you said you *heard* you re not even certain. My take on this is try as much as possible to ascertain the claims of your supposedly grapevine of a source to knw if it is really true. And if it is positive, try to talk to him and tell him hw you feel by his actions. That taking a scecond wife won't guanrantee a succssful family. You guys can work things out by subcribing to adoption. But if he still insist on his stand, just be calm and move on you don't need to be depressed since you said the childlessness is his fault from the doctors report. Be consistence, humble, and loyal in a way as to send out signals that would make him curious, like acting as if it's a norm. Don't forget to back it up with payer's. By God's grace he will come back to you. Patience is a virtue, God never sleeps. Gooduck in your quest.
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