If a spouse has fallen out of love, the signs are often
obvious, but there are many reasons they don’t see
them, according to marriage counselor Kurt Smith. The
main reason is because they don’t want to see the
signs. It’s painful for a woman to say “my husband
does not love me anymore.”

Smith warned that demonstrations of affection and
loving words on dates such as birthdays, wedding
anniversaries, Valentine’s Day or Christmas, are not
usually reliable sources for demonstrations of love. On
those dates, there is social pressure to display
affection so they may not always be true. True love is
expressed in everyday actions when there is no
commemorative pressure.
He points out the five signs that show a husband no
longer loves his wife (these points can show if a wife
doesn’t love her husband as well).

1. Holidays and nothing else
If your husband doesn’t give you gifts on holidays and
anniversaries or even remember them, that would be a
sure sign he has lost interest. But what if he gives
cards and gifts expressing their love on holidays and
anniversaries and nothing else? What does that mean?
It might not mean anything, but it may mean he’s
fallen out of love.

2. His behavior is fickle
Imagine that one day he’s angry saying he doesn’t
want to see you, that he wishes you would vanish from
his life and the next day he’s embracing you, wanting
to make love. Does this mean that what he said before
wasn’t true? If he doesn’t suffer from bipolar
disorder, this behavior should alert you to the fact
that he may not be in love with you anymore.

3. It’s always you
You are always the cause of all problems. When you try
to talk, he says you see problems that aren’t there.
When you complain that it seems that he does not love
you anymore, he turns it into your fault. This is
usually a sure sign that he is looking for reasons to
get out of the relationship.

4. He doesn’t like you
He doesn’t praise you, or notice anything you make.
He criticizes your personality, your clothes, body, hair,
what you eat or your work. In short, to him you are
never good enough and don’t do anything right. Even
when you do something great, he reminds you what
you did wrong. He doesn’t encourage you to grow.
If you look back on your relationship and realize this is
a pattern that happens repeatedly, this should be
addressed.

5. He doesn’t work at the relationship
You ask him to change an annoying behavior and he
continues to do it. You ask over and over again, and
he pretends not to hear. You ask him something and he
doesn’t respond. It’s always you who gives, who
sacrifices herself for the relationship. You feel sick
and tired, and he seems not to care. This could be the
most obvious sign of a lack of love.

When we love someone it is difficult to see their
mistakes, and we can fall into the trap of justifying
everything they do rather than facing reality. It is
very common for a woman to see this behavior in
another woman’s husband instead of seeing it in her
own.

Signs of true love appear on a daily basis. You know
your husband loves you if he makes you a priority,
takes care of you, and encourages you.

When he doesn’t do these things, the love could be
gone. It is up to you — however painful it may be —
to accept it, take care of yourself and decide what you
will do after that.

This article has been translated and adapted from the
original article: 5 sinais de que seu marido não lhe ama
mais.

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