uboma:



Some men are just devils.

I support the woman in the story jare!

Imagine his flimsy excuses for requesting for a divorce.

Bless you, nna.. Very cheap excuses !!

phemmie06:

The woman must be smarter than the man

Of course, she knows what she is doing..

Excuzeme:
Too many silly "kids" on Nairaland!
I was expecting people will focus on the "legality" of her request... instead of all these "she is brave" nonsense?
What is "brave" in that "self-defeating" statement she has made?

If she has a Lawyer (someone who is trained on what the law allows), do you think he will allow her make such foolish statement in front of a Judge...... or is that place a 'street fight' corner where we score cheap points meant for the public gallery?

- Are we even aware that the LAW does not support "forced marriage"?
That is, you cant keep a person (male or female) in marriage, against their wish?

- Are people aware that in marriage, both spouses benefit from each other (I am sure the man is also not in the shape she met him, when they got married! maybe she should first try to put the man back in shape) and as such, none of the two can "reverse nature" moreso, none of the two can "prove definitively" that it was the other spouse that cause them to become as they are afterall, unmarried people dont remain how they were, as years go-by. Ageing is a normal and natural process not dependent on any spouse or person

- Are we even aware that "not accepting to a divorce" as she has done, does not in anyway prevent the divorce from being granted by the court?

Ofcourse, these Judges at times want to see if they can take the "easy option" (both spouses want a divorce and just divorce ...straight.) but where this is not possible, judges will first adjourn the case (with the hope that they will use the time to try to settle), but when they come back and one party still insists that he/she will not remain married to the to other spouse, the court has no choice than to grant a divorce.....
.. since you cant force anyone to be married to another, against their will -.... it will be an infringement on their right to "freedom of association", as enshrined in the constitution!

As a matter of fact, l am sure the judge is listening to her statements and concluding that "these two cant remain husband and wife anymore" and will use the woman's statement to further convince herself that the marriage should be dissolved immediately.
No Judge would forcefully "tie" two cantankerous people together, knowing that frustration at not being able to get a divorce, may lead to "unwanted consequences" for one of the spouse.

I have a feeling that "most women" think they have some kind of power to refuse a divorce, or they seem to think it is their "choice to determine" whether a divorce is granted or not.
Well, definitely delusional.
It is the Judge that decides.... and hardly will you ever hear a judge refuse a divorce, once one of the party vehemently refuse to remain married to the other spouse.

Award of 'associated cost' is another matter entirely

Please, let us always seek to enlighten ourselves....... ignorance is dangerous.

U are a smart person with or logical response women have the thinking of holding a man down by refusing divorce.often time dey are dissapointed.

To me d marriage is dead on arrival.Woman has behaved like a market woman with her response. Irony is after d marriage is dissolved everybody hailing her will finally blame d woman for d marriage failure and no man will marry her again.

Irresponsible man though very funny

Sleekyshuga:

It's been a while I got a useless quote from a senseless moniker.. So, enjoy the attention while it last ..


Simply put!! He should register her in a gym.. From all I gathered, her drama is in a bid to resolve with her husband, and maybe, make him see divorce as a last option as there is no way he can bring her back to what she was..


If he murders her, he will face the LAW as two wrongs cannot make a right .. His reasons to end the marriage ain't genuine enough..

Did you for once think that she may be buying time to resolve her marital issues with her husband as divorce is not always an option? I had my first post with lots of smileys because her request was near impossible, if not impossible.. Her bravery here (to me) is not been in a rush to end it up.. So, pls, take a chill..


And to the e-idiots quoting me, spewing trash, you should learn how to use a smiley, it's interpretation, and fully understand what sarcasm means..

If after d man murders her and is lost with d wind will u assist in finding him.u think this kind of man can't do it.or even If he killed her and say is self defence knowing well d wife was a troublesome woman.will any of u mourn d woman.Looking for ways to give woman morale after she is gone u people will still turn around to blame her.

Houseofglam7:


Yeah, wanna tell me something?

Yup...you've been missed.
Happy 2016.

Thumb up 4 dat woman,smart nd brave.u nor get whr u dy go oga.na for beta for worst.u neva see anytin.return her shape or u remain stock for life.

Excuzeme:


Obviously you are not Yoruba ... but your question still deserve some attention.

Though there is no "datum" that l am aware of, showing that Yorubas divorce more than any other tribe in Nigeria but let us take your assertion at "face value". let us assume what you "observe" is actually true!

Look at it from this angle:

White people (Americans and Europeans) have the highest rate of divorce worldwide.
It is not a coincidence that these two continents are also the most developed, civilized and exposed, of all nations.
So, what id it that makes divorce and those attributes to go together?

It is because as you become more exposed (and our Nigerian women especially, are threading this path), civilised, developed and advanced, you abandon "old laws and taboos" which forbids divorce and shames divorcees.

In the Americas and Europe, being divorced is not considered a stigma.

So, if you walk back from the last line of my post (okay, you have to be intelligent to be able to do that), you will realize that there is a correlation between the level of "racial/tribal development, civilization and exposure and general sophistication of the populace" ...and the propensity to divorce, when the marriage fails.

It might interest you to note that Igbos have the highest rate of "wife-murder" within Nigeria and especially in diaspora, even though they have a lower rate of divorce as you seem to suggest!

In other words, when "shyte" happens, while one tribes rushes to get a divorce, ......the other rushes to "get their cutlass"!

Reflect on it a little bit, before you hit reply button because l know you are already fired-up and fuming!

you just decided to turn it around into a tribalistic argument and u are definitely on your own....forget that europe crap comparison or US comparison as they're countries of which yoruba is NEVER and can NEVER be a country.....rather what u are having is grandiosity of comoarison

and havent u noticed the most divorced yoruba ppl are the uneducated ones?
make a research on this before u come back to quote me.

sexylogan:


Yup...you've been missed.
Happy 2016.

Awwwww..... Were you the one that sent me roses this morning?

Houseofglam7:


Awwwww..... Were you the one that sent me roses this morning?

You only got the roses?
The guy didn't deliver the chocolates and red wine?

funny

sexylogan:


You only got the roses?
The guy didn't deliver the chocolates and red wine?

No freaking way!
You just know how to blow my mind, don't ya?

Sleekyshuga:
Bless you, nna.. Very cheap excuses !!

True!

You look good @ profile pix

hooklover:



If after d man murders her and is lost with d wind will u assist in finding him.u think this kind of man can't do it.or even If he killed her and say is self defence knowing well d wife was a troublesome woman.will any of u mourn d woman.Looking for ways to give woman morale after she is gone u people will still turn around to blame her.

Murder her? Why? Sir, what is/are her crimes that should warrant a divorce? His shits came out to the open, and the next thing he thought of is dissolving his marriage with those flimsy excuses..

Men should learn to understand that women ain't toys you just use, and discard..

Brother, give her back her shape or deal with it ..

Lol, the woman is simply saying: Nam eba mmi aba nangha akeba.

She want the man to retoast her so they can start all over...so judge abeg, tell the hush to reshape her anyhow he can.

Who go return the man to him former? or was he shapeless?

Cassanova dandy, as you make your bed so you are sleeping on it. Your child's mother you did not marry. The marriage of three year is not good another girl again at your age, how unhappy man you are creating for yourself. You had better transform your wife to sixteen year old if you sincerely wants a divorce. Dear wife, you are out of shape is for one reason, childbearing and no denial of that as it is a very big gain for you seeing your child/children. Just work for the divorce not to be. Cassanova, if you want peace in your life, stop the relationship with the third girl that comes to office and take care of two that has children for you. Oloju kokoro okurin.

orobs93:
Gbam

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orobs93:
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Yes oooo! That man is stuck. Divorce ke. So that he can go disfigure other ladies? Hold him well well.

@Excuseme:

Very good points especially your first point.

You cannot force an unwilling partner to stay with you.

Houseofglam7:

No freaking way!
You just know how to blow my mind, don't ya?

That's because i know you and appreciate the fact that you are one in 7billion

marriage by force till death do them part........

......... And they lived not happily everly after.

Smart woman
Today's woman


Am loving your intelligence!