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Prec1ous:
Hahaha. I am 100% sure that this is Moat Academy. Sorry eh!

Lol
How you take know?
You attended there to?

Jewessgratitud3:
Hmmm... Interesting read. You're welcome dear.

The thing is, it's your nature to be a reserved person and there's nothing you can do to change that. It is even to your own advantage because who knows if you have had your way with girls early in life if you would have been infected with a deadly disease or roped in for unwanted pregnancy.... In every situation you find yourself just be grateful to God cos I believe it's all for a reason. Like me I don't regret any of my actions then so I'll advise you not to feel bad or regret any decision you made back then. It's all for a reason. The important thing is You didn't land yourself n any kind of trouble or lose your health. Disease dey town o, so be careful.

If you can, please I'll advise you to keep your virginity until your wedding night. Being able to keep it till now is a very good virtue some men lack that cost them their lifes and families. So if you can keep yours, it will help you to have a very strong-will that will enable you exercise self control and keep you out of extra marital problems when you eventually settle down.

Just keep holding on. Don't try to lose it. God will bless you with a woman that deserves and will treat you right. Her respect for you will be topnotch. Trust me.

You just earned my respect dear. Keep it up!
Thanks for sharing.

Thank you very much for reading. I know it's long and boring at some point but thanks for reading til the end. I really appreciate.

https://www.nairaland.com/7891380/making-post-based-demand-why

I've always wanted to share this same story about why I am a virgin at 30 until I saw the above thread.

WARNING: LONG READ

Ever since i grew up to know myself, I've always been an indoor person. I can stay inside the room from sunrise to sunset. I don't get along with random people easily. Of course I used to go out to play with my peers occasionally but I was more of an indoor boy. I am not an introvert per se, I would say I am an ambivert cos I have the traits of both introvert and extrovert. My parents were not the over religious type, so it wasn't about morals or something like that. It's just my personality.

Unfortunately, I attended an only boys school for my junior Secondary, so i didn't have an opportunity to learn how to converse  with girls early. In the University, it was same story. I attended one of those new Universities Goodluck Jonathan created, the total number of us students in the school was less than the number of just one department you will find in a typical Nigerian University. The girls were like 10, so only the real gamers were having their way. I have to say that when it comes to  getting along with the boys,  I'm a real OG. Talk about football, politics, music and even girls matter, I sabi am.. But carry me put for where the girls de, I go cast. In our 3rd and 4th year, many girls were given admission, but even a girl that should ordinarily not be a challenge for me will slip through my finger because "I didn't play my card well".

One day, a course mate of mine jokingly asked if I was gay. Because to him, since I wasn’t a pastor or the churchy type, why would I not have at least one babe that I was knacking? He should know because he was my next door neighbor too!. He was older than me with six years, sometimes we’ll just be gisting and he’ll just be telling me about some of his girls and I will just advice him on how to handle issues. [color=#006600] Me weh no fit get one for myself ooo.  He once joked about arranging some girls to rape me since I was denying them my 'milk' lol. But na me know my issue.
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Funny thing is, most of my guys are real gamers except me and I can’t share my issue with them, they are the ones always telling me their babe issues. Instead, what I ended up doing then was to denigrate the girl, that she’s this or that. It got to a point that one of my guys said and I quote "woman weh go fine for your eye make you like, God never create am”. If I was walking by the road side and you ask someone who knows me personally who my babe was the person is likely to tell you that I hate women (which is not the case). I just don’t know how to relate with them. I have had some few contacts of girls but once a girl misses my call without at least flashing me back, I  take it seriously and if it happens like two more times, I take it that she's not interested so i delete the number and move on. Till date, I don’t call a girl more than once but I can call a guy as many times until he picks up.

During NYSC, I was posted to one of these sharia states and again, unfortunately , no female colleague and no Corpers lodge. So I rented a room somewhere in town and while I still couldn't get a babe, it was then that i came the closest to having my first sex. I had this pretty fellow Corp member that I met on a certain CDS day called T***. Classy babe, Accounting graduate from OAU, she was doing her ICAN then. You know all those girls that used to wear glasses. I swear me myself no believe say na me that girl been de find come. You know when a poor man makes his first million, he wouldn't believe it, I respected this girl so much that i was too scared to make a move, meanwhile, bitch was game. On this very day she just came to my place unannounced, I tried to strike a conversation but she wasn't having any of it. I just summoned courage and made a move, naso she reciprocate ooo. I undressed and fingered her, did everything, but I had already ejaculated all over. I knew it wasn't good, that was how i didn't proceed to knack her cos I don already cast. Since the day she left my place, I haven't seen nor heard from her cos she stopped taking my calls so I got angry and deleted the number and its going to six years now. That was my biggest regret from NYSC. I regretted not knacking her even with the premature ejaculation. If that girl like that get belle for me, I go happy I swear. She got class. I don’t even know if she's alive cos back then, she wasn't a social media person so I can’t even find her online.

After the T*** experience, I met another girl after service and this time around, I tried to sleep with her on the first day and she got so mad. She broke up with me less thank 2wks into the relationship. Months later, we made up but she told me that even though she liked me, she couldn't date me anymore because of fear. She feared I was just for knacks and she wanted more. I liked her, tried to make her understand but.… She wanted us to still keep in touch like we were still dating, meanwhile, we were not and i refused. Again, I deleted everything about her and moved on. She really liked me too then, but I gave her a bad first impression.

I opened a Facebook account recently cos I deactivated my account two years ago and I saw her with her naturally plaited hair (something that I love so much in girls), I sent her a friend request she didn’t accept, I mentioned her in a comment and she replied to the comment. I asked for her number she didn’t reply, I sent her mine she didn’t reply. The girl come fine pass before, whether na the hair weh she plait de deceive me I no know because I de like that thing no be small.

Looking back now, many years later, may be I shouldn't have deleted all those contacts cos I feel like talking to some of them now.
Deep down, I want to have a babe to call mine, but a part of me is already used to singlehood. But I can’t deny the fact that I would like to start experiencing the drama that comes with that gender.. My biggest fear however, is dating a girl with more relationship/sex experience than me. Cos I know there's going to be issues. At the rate I’m going, I think my mother will end up picking a wife for me (God forbid). I would like to get married at some point but I’m not sure I will be a great partner. Not because I wouldn't want to, but because I don’t know how to. I know that I will be a great dad because I cant wait to have a child even though I’m no where close to being ready. A friend I met during NYSC camp said that it is only a very stubborn girl  that will fit me. That if I date a calm lady, she will suffer with attitude. I don’t know if she's right but in the three weeks we stayed in camp, she understood me so well and she still calls me her boyfriend till date even though she's married.. But I want to drop all those rubbish traits to help me fix this aspect of my life.

I know money will help make things easy and while I haven't made the money yet, I see guys within my social class  change girls at will. So I believe it also has to do with personality. I am slowly turning to a misogyny but that’s because I cant find a relationship, not because I really am. You guys call it incel right?  Is there a female version of me? At the beginning of the year I said I wanted to have a babe on or before my 30th birthday, but my 30th birthday was in June, year don de finish, nothing come out. Shey I go fit see babe like this?

@Jewessgratitud3, Thanks for making me do this

Pamfresh:
Please I need mature minds advise on this topic.
My family recently discovered that my younger brother who has been in the seminary and was supposed to be a reverend father in few years time has a very big gambling issue.

Over the years, he has accumulated a gambling debt of 2M (borrowed majorly from loan sharks). When I discovered about the incidence, I hesitated involving my retired dad and mum because of the shock they might get hearing about this but when I discovered I couldn't pay the debt alone, i had to involve them. Thank God they handled it calmly. My dad and I have offset 700k debts already but I recently discovered that he is still borrowing and betting even recently (someone that has access to his details revealed this to me today). I am totally devastated and I don't know how to relay this to my parents to avoid heart attack. The gruesome part of the whole story is that he is JOBLESS because of his seminary school journey (which he has willingly pulled out from because of this issue).

Please my fellow nairanders, how do I handle this problem? I'm fed up

The reason why Nigeria is the way it is today is because people don't get punished for their crimes. Your brother squandered 2M on betting, instead of you guys to allow the owners of the monies handle him, you decided to pay. What does that tell him? He's told that for each time he messes up, someone is on standby to clean up his mess. You don't know the monster you're grooming. I have a brother like that. He's 35 and doesn't think of anything other than betting. If someone is at the point of death in the hospital and you give him money to take to the hospital for treatment, the money is gone. He rather have that person die than for him not to play. For ten years, I have been saying he should be allowed to face punishment for his crimes, even if it means him going to prison or getting killed, but my parents will say it'll bring shame to the family. Today, they are the ones looking for him to take him to prison. He has become a thief, a fraudster, and a mad person. No thanks to bet9ja. Almost ten years after graduating from school, no meaningful career, no business, no wife, nothing nothing. Sadly, it doesn't even bother him as long as he has access to play. Most of his mates are doing fine for themselves, some not very fine but they are putting in the work. But him, it must be bet9ja. He's destroyed every single relationship he has built from birth because of what he has done with their money. Yet, this guy has not been to prison once. Continue to pet your brother you hear? E go soon shock una

Simple advice, take your brother to prison now. For everytime you clear his debt, you're grooming a monster.

If you're planning to attend any bootcamp in Nigeria, get it at the back of your mind that no bootcamp will help you to get a job. And yes, not even Decagon. They will promise you heaven and earth but nothing will come out of it. Of course there are few exceptions, but overall, only one person might end up getting a job out of many.

There's one bootcamp I am seeing their advert now on front page, I attended one of their cohorts, the way they dumped us after the training ehn, it shocked us. And they are in the top 5 in Lagos.

The least I expected from them was a resume revamp, but six months later, not even a single phone call.

Attending a bootcamp is like an investment, and part of the return on investment should be job or internship placements. I can tell you that no Nigerian bootcamp can guarantee that. They will just sweet talk you to cashout from you.

I'm telling you this from experience.

Looking back now, I regret attending the bootcamp. Most of the stack they taught us are no longer in use. React that is in use, they no sabi am. They just used 2 days to teach it.

God no go shame us for this industry

Jewessgratitud3:
. please do. Will be waiting to read.

Ok ma

Jewessgratitud3:
Hopefully someone leans from my story. I don't regret any of my decisions so far. I'm happy that in all, I wasn't consumed, used to a point of no return in fact if you see me, you'll hardly believe I'm 42. apart from say I get small protruding stomach ( which almost everyone has) and it's only when I eat. Otherwise its normal. So it's caused by food and I overeat.

I also don't regret not having children outside wedlock cos it would have reduced my chances of getting attention from men even at my age. Yes.. I still get attention like serious advances from single men. This is not to make a boast. In this year alone, I've had two suitors. Very responsible guy and another man but the thing with me is that I'm too picky. if I don't like you first, e go hard. So those two were not my spec and I won't trap myself in a loveless marriage just because of age or "time is going " , if it's not what I want, I won't do it. Call me anything you like, your opinion. I don't kia!


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I don't know why you're pained. That was me just being witty to lighten up the tense mood of my story but your dumb olodo self cant recognize a witty saying when you see one hence holding unto it and reacting like a beheaded chicken.

Empty skull

I will soon share my story as to why I'm single at 30

As you keep waiting for N-Power, take this life changing opportunity

Guys, I'm looking for a self contain to rent in Dopemu Cement. Budget is 270 total package.

Any suggestions?

nnamdiosu:
Hello.
Kindly pm if you are available to work in a start up as a Laravel intern. (Fully remote)

Thanks

Method of application?

nnamdiosu:
Send me a dm

Ok

Good morning sir.
I just applied.
Looking forward to hearing from you

Thanks and God bless

K

Wait oo, I no fit upload picture for nairaland?

Which kind site be this sef

SalamRushdie:
We warned y'all to avoid that Obidient movt so we can first remove the satanic party APC from power and shut it down but una no gree

I wish I can like this comment a billion times..
APC was our common enemy, but the gullible folks taught otherwise

airsaylongcome:
Like BIG TIME! Abuja someone's dream location?! Lagos is tough, I agree. But in the concrete jungle, the stromg stand and rumble, the weak fold and crumble. Today it's "Lagos is too flooded, Lagos is too tough". When he gets good and has to go live in the Bay Area wetin he wan talk about rent and "oppression" there? Everywhere has its flaws, you either deal with it or it deals with you.

Abuja is my dream place for so many reasons, not just for hustle. For example, living in Abuja will afford me the chance to always check my aging parents.

Also, living in Abuja will allow me the chance to cultivate my large hectares of land for food production as a side hustle.

Abuja just fits into my future plans

No

Maj196:
I no go lie few to zero companies use Python. However, you might get a frontend role with JS. Provided you are good with frameworks like React, Angular or vue

Chai
Na wa ooo.
Make I see sha
Thank you

JoyousFurnitire:
You can get a job over there with time, maybe you just have to be patient if you have time. Spend time and network at the hub else maybe get your first job in Lagos then move after a year

I think that's what I will end up doing.
Thanks bro

JoyousFurnitire:
If not for this, I'm really considering moving to Abuja

Honestly Lagos is not easy.
Just small rainfall, the entire city will shut down. I like Abuja because if its location.

I'm home sick already and I've only been here for 2 months.

The issue with Abuja is the limited opportunities. But Abuja is my dream place to settle.

Maj196:
You will still get if you search well. However your tech stack is also a determinant. Most companies here use PHP, Java, JavaScript

Chai!
And it's python and JS I'm learning oo.

Lagos is not habitable one bit.

But I hope I get lucky sha.

Thanks you

Deicide:
I stay in Abuja and I would say it's 0. Lagos is far better for tech Jobs. You would see 100 tech job in Lagos before you see one in Abuja.

Chai

Why is it like that?

Me like this no fit wait to comot for here ooo

Maj196:
It's fair. But not as good as compared to Lagos.

Alright thanks

Maj196:
You can stay in Abuja and work remotely maybe from Lagos or abroad if you can't find a suitable onsite job. Living in Abuja is better than Lagos tbh.

PS: I'm a developer in Abuja

Abuja is just perfect for me in every sense.
But I'm not banking on remote jobs for now cos I know it doesn't come easy.
I'm looking for a full time job inorder to move to Abuja.
Once I secure a full time job, then I can start looking for remote jobs.

How is the space for developers in Abuja in terms of full time jobs?

Clefayomide:
The tech space in abuja isn't as big as what they have in lagos. Asides ventures park i dont see any other tech hub in abuja. Entry level tech salary in abuja is around 150k. Abuja is more suitable for real estate and independent contractors

I don't like this place at all. Even if it's 100k, I will take it. Lagos is not just my kind of place.

Good day guys.


I'm currently learning software engineering in a bootcamp here in Lagos and I intend to move to Abuja after the program to kick-start my career in the software development industry.
However, I don't know about the tech opportunities in Abuja.

What is the tech space in Abuja like?
In terms of growth, renumeration, etc.

Abuja techies, please, come in!

Mods. Help me take it to front page

Failure2019:
Use Seal

It's open source btw:-)

Thanks bro. I will check it out

kazvid:
You can use ssyoutube(dot)com,just copy the link to the video on YouTube and paste it there

Ok thanks

Nice.

Guys, can someone please, recommend an app that downloads YouTube videos? I was using videorder (APK) but I lost my phone. Now the said app no longer opens on the phone I'm using now, citing no network, even though I'm fully connected. Someone recommended TubeMate for me, but the app only downloads short videos. Whenever I try to download a video that is lengthy, the download will either fail middway, or download without audio. I really need to start learning something.
Techies, please, help a newbie.

Sorry for derailing the thread

Alexbrainz:
Pls guys where can I learn to become a frontend and backend developer??

I really need to learn a Tech skill

Moat Academy, Lagos