Are you really falling in love with your new SO,
or could it be something else? Here are the
best ways to tell if it’s true love or just an
infatuation.

Have you ever been so head-over-heels in
“love” with someone that even the sound of
their name was enough to throw your stomach
into flips and spins? If so, it’s quite possible
you were truly in love with them. But what if
you’ve only known them for a few minutes? It
is really love, then?

Or could it be the ever more common
sensation called infatuation? There are too
many people— younger adults specifically—who
are convinced that they’re in love after the first
week of spending time with someone, because
they just “can’t stop thinking about them!”
Believe me. I’ve been there. I’ve felt the
deception between the two, and it really is hard
to tell. Luckily, there are ways you can
differentiate between really falling in love and
just being ridiculously infatuated with them and
the idea of being with them.
Infatuation or love: Can you tell the
difference?

The difference may seem minute, but it’s
actually huge. The real definition of infatuation
is “an intense but short-lived passion or
admiration for someone or something.” The
actual definition of love is “an intense feeling of
deep affection.”

They don’t sound so far off, right? Wrong. If
you’re still feeling confused about the difference
between infatuation and love, here are 14 ways
to tell them apart.

14 differences between infatuation and love

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#1 Infatuation happens quickly. Infatuation is
commonly associated with the “love at first
sight” phenomenon. It can happen extremely
quickly and even without your ever talking to
that person! You’ll feel immense feelings of
attraction to them as soon as you first lay
eyes on them..

It can take almost no time at all for you to
convince yourself and others that you’re
completely in love with this person about whom
you barely know anything. It’s fast and
overwhelming.

#2 Love is a slow process. The funny thing
about the two is that they can be related. You
can at first *and this is pretty common* be
completely infatuated with the person with
whom you later will fall in love. But the key is
that love comes much later.

If you truly are in love with someone, it takes a
lot of time to develop those feelings because
you need time to really get to know his or her
real personality. You can’t love someone you
don’t know anything about, despite what
Disney movies may say.

#3 Infatuation is only superficial affection.
Since it comes on so quickly and can happen
even when you’ve never met a person, the
feelings you initially have for them are only on
the surface. This means that you’re basing
your feelings purely off of what the person
looks like.

#4 Love is a “deeper” connection with
someone. Love happens when you truly know
someone inside and out and care about them
for more than what they look like. It’s a
connection on a personal level, not on a sexual
level.

#5 Infatuation is associated with anxiety *the
good kind*. That head-spinning, heart-
thumping, butterfly-inducing feeling you get
when you see your crush is what I mean when
I say “anxiety.” Infatuation causes your vitals
to spike, in a way, because of the excitement
you feel when you’re about to see your new
person of interest.

#6 Love is associated with comfort. Love, on
the other hand, is calming. It makes you feel
complete and not on edge. I’m not saying that
love doesn’t cause excitement, because it
does. But it doesn’t cause the level of anxiety
that infatuation does. Love makes you feel
peaceful and whole.

#7 Infatuation causes you to act differently
than you normally would. The anxiety,
excitement, and intense feelings you have for
that person will cause you to act weird. You’ll
be doing things you normally wouldn’t be
doing, like going out on a Wednesday night just
to see them, and you might say things you
wouldn’t normally say, too.
If your friends are telling you that you’re acting
completely insane over this person, it’s
probably infatuation.


#8 Love allows you to be 100% your true self.
When you’re really in love, you don’t feel the
need to be anybody but yourself. You don’t
fake anything with the person with whom
you’re in love because you know they love and
accept you as yourself.

#9 Infatuation makes you want to satisfy the
other person. Sure, you also want to please the
person you’re in love with. But infatuation
takes it a step further, making it almost as if
you HAVE to please that person.
This goes along with not being yourself. You
might shut out your friends and family in order
to be available for this person.


#10 Love makes you want to make the other
person happy. Pleasing someone and wanting
happiness for someone are two completely
different things. Love causes you to think more
about your partner’s happiness than your own.
You want them to be happy in life, but at the
same time, your being in their life makes them
happy. They don’t want you to buy them
things or anything like that. All they need is
you and your kindness towards them.

#11 Infatuation means that there’s a “you”
and a “them.” Infatuation causes you to
separate the two of you because “THEY are so
perfect.” You take the emphasis off of the two
of you being a pair and put it solely on them.


#12 Love means there’s an “us.” When you’re
in love with someone, it’s like you are one unit.
There’s no separation between the two. When
you speak, you use pronouns like “us” and
“we.” You are together as equals.


#13 Infatuation is short-lived. Infatuation is
like a plane flying overhead. It grabs your
attention, makes you look in a different
direction for some time, but then eventually
passes by and you finally realize that you’ve
just wasted time on something that wasn’t
even remotely important.
The good news is that you’ll get over the
people you’re infatuated with fairly quickly
because there’s no deep connection involved.
They come, they go, and you go on to live your
life and accept them as just a memory.


#14 Love is everlasting. Hopefully, anyways.
Sometimes, it doesn’t always work out that
way and it is possible to fall out of love with
someone. However, if you’re truly falling in love
with someone, it won’t drift away overnight.
The feelings you have for this person
will


remain deep-seated for a long time during the
relationship, and even after the relationship if
things ended. You’ll always remember your
feelings for that person, and they’ll always be
within you. It doesn’t just pass by.
I’ve had to take a step back a time or two and
decide whether I was infatuated with this
person or if I really loved them. These are the
tips I used to discover the difference, and it
helped me dramatically. Use them to help you,
too!





Source:LovePrank