platinumnk:

I am not on her side, there are two sides to a coin and its quite suspicious when he mentions american citizenship when she been having her papers that shows me a shift of focus.

Plantimuk you probably have diferrent personal issues you to deal with which have manifested in the silly questions you

are bombarding the poster with. You kept on hammering the fact the the poster mentioned AMERCAN CITIZEN in his thread headline,

despite the fact that he has consumed enough time to elucidate his point. Didnt your English Profs teach you how to use attention

grabbers while writting a headline?

Anyway, I guess you are a carbon copy of the lady in question.

@poster
your two last post made a lot of sense and now i can see where you are coming from. I think your fiance is pissed at you for not making the move to US as soon as possible. she must be stressed out from being alone, stressed out from being far away from you but, in my humble opinion, she must be pissed because she is giving you a chance to come to the US and you pass on it. i guess for some people, the US is the Eldorado and therefore she might be upset thinking that "here is your chance to come to the US and be with her but instead you are using your HEAD". she might think that the reason you want to stay is another than finish your post graduate (girls etc). some women in love make absolutely no sense so at least make sense for the both of you.
you seem like a smart person and therefore use your better judgment in this case. going to the US with nothing to show for and start doing"menial" jobs is not an option for someone who is "living well" in his own home. love might make people do stupid things but once in a while you find intelligent people who use their heads accordingly.
talk to her, as i hope that you guys can communicate without having arguments. use whatever tool you can to make her understand that the job market, however she wants to see it, is not steady and strong in your field and it IS much better to finish your studies before leaving with no prospects other than being with your loved one.
BUT even if that problem is solved, there is absolutely NO REASON for the insults and you can already imagine what life being married to this cooking pot would be like.
better use that smart mind of yours in these areas as well.

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aktunde:

@congoshine
As terrible as I felt when making the post, your comments made me laugh. It sounded unreasonable to me, and I'm it might sound unreasonable to others too, despite all the fine boys wey we dey see for yankee. But to be very honest with every one on Nairaland and you especially, we spoke at length yesterday night. And I must tell you, your suggestion is really a part of the problem. In fact, 70% of her complaints center around what you think, my absence as the man you know? and other frustrations too.
In short, thank you all, and remain blessed. Peace!

Thats experience for you my friend . . . . .women are really emotional beings ! As per complaints about the title,my friend YOU CAN NEVER SATISFY EVERYBODY,if you try to you'll be in trouble & you still won't satisfy everyone.

Go with the flow & lets know what the other issue is

@Brown
That's exactly what i thought in my last post.

@Congoshine
I follow you ask the poster make him proceed with the second issue.
You can't satisfy most people here! Some are overtly . . . . . This is a holly thread!

Just one more thought:

She may just be emulating what she sees her mom do to her dad.

I have seen many a Nigerian woman disrespect their husbands on US soil in ways I would never dream of doing all because they know here their husbands cant just smack them and get away with it.

But stand your ground and let her know now that you will not stick around for such treatment.

If you let her get away with disrespecting you now it will only get worse.